Ok heres the situation. I'm at my lifelong friends daughters 4th birthday party today my sone starts to cry because he's very tired I'm trying to calm him down when one of the mothers of the other children (whom I don't know from a can of paint) comes over and says "Where's his mother?". So I explained to her that I was his mother and that he was very sleepy and cranky. The woman looked at me smiled and asked me when I adopted him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/shocked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""> by this time my friend is comming over to see how my son is doing she hears part of the conversation (luckily) and tells her guest that she has a copy of my sons birth if she would like to see it. The lady appologizes to me like about a hundred times and thats fine but it just makes me sad that when people see me and my son out at the park they see Mexican lady white baby, oh she must me the nanny. He looks different that me, I don't love him any less ( he looks exactly like his daddy how could I?) and I know that I shouldn't worry about what others think and I don't. Sometimes I would like people to recognize me as his mother right off the bat.