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I'm tempted to have it out with my immediate supervisor this morning when she relieves me at 7 am. It's not just the way she mocks me for being vegan, but also the fact that despite the fact that I am by far the hardest worker here (to the point where I'm usually having to clean up everyone else's messes when I arrive for my shift), I was promised full time when I started here as soon as I started my summer vacation a month ago and I still have yet to see that, she's insisting on giving me 3 shifts one week and 4 the next.<br><br>
Furthermore, she goes out of her way to be rude for me. For example, I have been having to use her ID and password in order to get into the system and do my work, such as checking people in and running the night audit (I work at a hotel). Her password changed, I had to call her to get the new password, she screamed at me for not using my ID which she never gave me despite me asking her repeatedly, but it's actually her fault that I had to call her as I didn't have an ID! I've got bills to pay, and I can't do this on such a limited number of shifts, although I'm wondering if there's even any point in getting another job as I'm leaving the state in about 3 months anyway.<br><br>
And also, she constantly goes out of her way to mock me for my veganism. Which wasn't so much of an issue untill a few days ago besides her giving my green smoothie a look of disgust and nasty comments, but the breakfast lady didn't show up, and I was forced to cook the very products I am against in order to keep the guests happy. I would have at least expected a thank you, but no, she'd rather mock me.<br><br>
Add on top of that the fact that we just got a new general manager. She's nice and seems to like me, however, #1, the nasty immediate supervisor is still doing the scheduling and #2, her niece is by far the worst offender of lazy front desk people who I am constantly having to clean up after, and she should have been fired a long time ago.<br><br>
If I was going to be in this area indefinitely, then without a doubt my solution would be to put in applications at other hotels and resign as soon as I'm hired. I'm sick of this environment where I am a hard worker, however, no good deed goes unpunished here.<br><br>
I'm frustrated, and thank God I work the night shift so I'm not constantly having to put on a smile around guests when I really feel like punching something right now.
 

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If it was me, I would concentrate on getting the additional hours I needed and forget about confronting the supervisor into changing her personality. Especially since I'm gone in 3 months. I would bluff and say a full time opportunity has come up, but my first choice is to stay here. If she can give me the hours I need, starting immediately, I can stay. Otherwise I have to give notice. She what she says and be prepared to negotiate from there. But that will let you know where you stand.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Mia82</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2901116"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I'm tempted to have it out with my immediate supervisor this morning when she relieves me at 7 am. It's not just the way she mocks me for being vegan, but also the fact that despite the fact that I am by far the hardest worker here (to the point where I'm usually having to clean up everyone else's messes when I arrive for my shift), I was promised full time when I started here as soon as I started my summer vacation a month ago and I still have yet to see that, she's insisting on giving me 3 shifts one week and 4 the next.<br><br>
Furthermore, she goes out of her way to be rude for me. For example, I have been having to use her ID and password in order to get into the system and do my work, such as checking people in and running the night audit (I work at a hotel). Her password changed, I had to call her to get the new password, she screamed at me for not using my ID which she never gave me despite me asking her repeatedly, but it's actually her fault that I had to call her as I didn't have an ID! I've got bills to pay, and I can't do this on such a limited number of shifts, although I'm wondering if there's even any point in getting another job as I'm leaving the state in about 3 months anyway.<br><br>
And also, she constantly goes out of her way to mock me for my veganism. Which wasn't so much of an issue untill a few days ago besides her giving my green smoothie a look of disgust and nasty comments, but the breakfast lady didn't show up, and I was forced to cook the very products I am against in order to keep the guests happy. I would have at least expected a thank you, but no, she'd rather mock me.<br><br>
Add on top of that the fact that we just got a new general manager. She's nice and seems to like me, however, #1, the nasty immediate supervisor is still doing the scheduling and #2, her niece is by far the worst offender of lazy front desk people who I am constantly having to clean up after, and she should have been fired a long time ago.<br><br>
If I was going to be in this area indefinitely, then without a doubt my solution would be to put in applications at other hotels and resign as soon as I'm hired. I'm sick of this environment where I am a hard worker, however, no good deed goes unpunished here.<br><br>
I'm frustrated, and thank God I work the night shift so I'm not constantly having to put on a smile around guests when I really feel like punching something right now.</div>
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You can't change anyone but yourself. Why would you expect to be thanked for working at work, especially if you think this woman is not a nice person? Nice people do nice things, right? Get what I'm saying?<br><br>
What would I do? I say, deal with it, focus on the parts of the job you like and simply get through it for the next 3 months. Do you have something cool to look forward to then? Focus on that too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Thanks guys for your replies. And no, the immediate supervisor isn't a nice person at all, in fact she was in jail a few weekends ago. I have heard a rumor that they want to get rid of her, but not holding my breath.<br><br>
One idea that just came to me also is trying to advertise my services tutoring K-12 math. If I do apply at other hotels, many will only start you on part-time, which kind of defeats the purpose unless I'm lucky, and I can easily make double per hour what I'm making now. I am an accounting major, math is my strong subject, and I also work 8 hours per week on campus tutoring accounting. Still feeling this one out though, and very disappointed that I'm the hardest worker, even more so than the nasty manager, and yet my job still feels under threat. And I have taken a hard look at myself, and am definitely not at fault, and I'm wondering if it may be worth calling the nasty manager's boss after I finish my shift. Although this isn't the first time that I've talked to her about work issues, though mostly it's been about the new general manager's niece that I mentioned. Though this boss I'm thinking of calling did friend me on Facebook the other day, so perhaps that's a good sign.
 

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so sorry you're going through this. but there always seems to be at least one bully at every workplace that has to test everyone.<br><br>
the fact that she's a manager makes this a case of her creating a hostile work environment. and it's unacceptable.<br><br>
what i would do and have done are these things:<br><br>
* "calm and assertive" this is the key to dealing with difficult dogs and difficult bully-types. i've actually used this as a mantra repeating it over and over in my head as i approached and spoke with my "bully" to keep from going off on them and then me end up looking like the bully and jeopardizing my job. it's all in the tone of the voice...non-threatening yet, i mean business.<br><br>
* posture and positioning is the next most important key. i make sure i'm standing as tall as i can looking them straight in the eyes, face to face (not <i>in</i> their face). no me sitting down while they stand over me.<br><br>
* i spoke with her when it was just the two of us where no one else was within earshot.<br><br>
* i stuck to the facts only...how i was being addressed; why was she addressing me this way?; did i inadvertently do/say something to her that caused her to treat me in this unacceptable manner?; since we both work here and i have no plans on going anywhere else at the moment, i would appreciate it if we could work together in a non-hostile work environment.<br>
as soon as i said the last three words, her demeanor changed, she apologized and we've had no problems since.<br>
(9 times out of 10, the bully will respect you for standing up to them and actually seek your friendship after/later down the road.)<br><br>
had she reacted differently and continued the nasty behavior, i would then have told her how disappointing it was that we couldn't work it out <i>just between us two</i>.<br>
emphasis implying in no uncertain terms that i will go around/above her to settle her issues. issues that, no doubt, have little or nothing to do with you or me, but with her own inner (past) demons.<br><br>
hope this helps. it was taught to me and i would share it with any sister, niece and/or friend who was in what can be such an emotional distressing situation.<br>
feel free to pm me if you like.<br>
*hugs*<br><br><br>
ETA: the "calm and assertive" courtesy of Cesar Milan
 

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You might consider speaking to the new general manager about it. If you're being abused, the general manager has a right to- and should- know about it.
 

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Hmmmm, the new general manager is there right now with my former boss, the one who friended me on Facebook and who is training her. I'm tempted to call the new general manager and request a conference call with both of them as soon as I leave here.
 

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PiSiS - Hey, I just read your reply in full, I'm brewing coffee and posting at the same time. See, I can multitask! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Though I'm wondering, seeing as the nasty manager is on thin ice anyway if the rumor I heard is correct, if I should just take this straight to the general manager. But yes, at the end of the day I am way too good to be forced to work in a hostile environment.
 

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PiSiS - Hey, I just read your reply in full, I'm brewing coffee and posting at the same time. See, I can multitask! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Though I'm wondering, seeing as the nasty manager is on thin ice anyway if the rumor I heard is correct, if I should just take this straight to the general manager. But yes, at the end of the day I am way too good to be forced to work in a hostile environment.</div>
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wow, what timing. it sounds like her karma comin' 'round her mountain.<br>
you go with your multi-taskin' flow <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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The end is in sight, 3 months max, so my advice is just suck it up. I'm sorry you have you deal with this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br>
I am also dealing with a childish and unfair supervisor. But I need the hours, and I would be hurting myself way more than him if I left or risked being fired over this. The manager is very good to me so it's bearable, when the supervisor is being too unfair I just take it to the manager and he sorts it out. More often than not I get my own way - I am much better at the job than the supervisor is anyway. I am not a patient person and I have a quick temper so having to bite my tongue is actually really good for me. I'm trying to focus on the positive and see it as a personality improvement opportunity <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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UPDATE: When the manager came in to relieve me at 7, she flipped out on me, as I wasn't able to swipe a guests credit card due to being locked out of the system for 30 minutes due to trying the ID and password I had multiple times. I didn't feel like talking to her and was going to take it straight to the general manager, but I ended up having it out with her using the tricks suggested. Turns out that she was told that no one is allowed to have full time hours, which makes me furious as I was promised full time, and I have bills to pay, and I need savings if I'm ever going to leave Georgia. So I don't know, on one hand it feels good to have it out in the open, but on the other hand, I'm terrified. Very terrified.<br><br>
And on that note, I'm going to try and get some sleep now.
 
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