VeggieBoards banner

Which of the following do you think you could handle the best?

  • Have 6 months left to live.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Being permanently paralyzed from the waist down.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Having a conjoined twin, with no possibility of separation.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Being a midget.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
21 - 40 of 55 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
0 Posts
Discussion Starter · #21 ·
<div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Portulaca</i><br><br><b>Cougar, I love your attitude! You're awesome!</b></div>
</div>
<br><br><br>
Thank you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br>
I like this thread. How come no one thought of this sooner?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
0 Posts
Discussion Starter · #22 ·
<div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Ntelligentidiot</i><br><br><b>And don't use the word "midget." It's offensive to little people(as they prefer to be called.) Just remember that it's really not a nice thing to call them.</b></div>
</div>
<br><br><br>
I've actually met a few, including my aforementioned friend, who didn't like being called "little people". It's like using the term African-American, the media tells us we're supposed to, but the blacks, for the most part, really prefer to be called black. Besides, how do you know Portulaca isn't a midget? Or any of us, for that matter?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
0 Posts
Discussion Starter · #23 ·
Hard choice between 6 months and midget. I think both are as "good". I picked 6 months though. I'm pretty sure I could handle being paralyzed too, but the conjoined twin thing freaks me out. Although that's something you'd really get used to because you'd have no choice.<br><br><br><br>
Sad poll <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
12,374 Posts
I picked midget, because I'm 6'2", and I'd like to know what it's like to be half that height. Also, you have greater mobility than if you're paralyzed. You're still a "whole" person, only smaller.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,705 Posts
<div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by epski</i><br><br><b>I picked midget, because I'm 6'2", and I'd like to know what it's like to be half that height. Also, you have greater mobility than if you're paralyzed. You're still a "whole" person, only smaller.</b></div>
</div>
<br><br><br><br><br>
who says paralyzed people are not "whole" ??<br><br><br><br>
I too am disgusted by this question, in my book it belittles people that have to deal with these situations.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
0 Posts
Discussion Starter · #26 ·
Gimp, cripple, disabled, differently-abled, handicapped, height challenged, midget, short person, little person. They are all just words. It doesn't matter what word is used. It only matters how it is used. For example, one time an older man said to me, "What made you a cripple?" I was a little surprised by the word he chose to use, because I rarely hear it, but I was in no way offended. He wasn't trying to be hurtful. On the other hand, one time I was in a parking lot getting out of my car when a group of young boys drove by and one yelled out, "Hey, look at the f*cking cripple!" I didn't like that. It doesn't matter to me what word people use, as long as they are not intentionally being hurtful. I think the whole pc thing is really silly.<br><br><br><br>
I don't like it when people stumble over words and are embarrassed by things they say. Not long ago I was at my daughter's school and I asked the secretary where to find something. She said, "Walk through that door," etc. 30 minutes later she approached me with a red face and tears in her eyes and said she wanted to apologize for what she said to me earlier. I was like, "What did you say?" She said, "When I said WALK through the door". I hadn't thought anything when she said "walk", but I was uncomfortable when I saw how uncomfortable she was that she was "insensitive" in her choice of words.<br><br><br><br>
As for my original question belittling people who really are in these situations, that of course was not my intention. I should have said something about that in my original post.<br><br><br><br>
Coming up: Why I asked the question.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
10,153 Posts
Because of Pulp Fiction I think of a gimp as a guy in a black outfit with his head all covered up.. and a zipper over the mouth area.<br><br><br><br>
I had to look up the meaning in the dictionary. Heh.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,049 Posts
i am pretty shocked at the number of people who are choosing death over being in a wheelchair or being a midget.<br><br><br><br>
just...wow.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
7,866 Posts
Being a midget wouldn't be so bad, eh Kreeli! I'm for midget, and certainly over death!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
0 Posts
Discussion Starter · #31 ·
So I was watching TV the other night. I rarely participate in such activities, but I was already in bed and not quite tired enough to sleep but too tired to get up or read. Anyway, I was watching a show about conjoined twins. The story was about young sisters who were joined at the lower back/butt area. The doctors were confident that they could be separated, but they weren't sure if separating them would result in damage to their spinal cords. They were trying to decide if they should even attempt to separate them, because they might end up in wheelchairs for the rest of their lives. I was astounded that this large group of people had a hard time deciding between living forever as a conjoined twin, or possibly living forever in a chair. In my mind, there was no question about it. I'd take paralysis over being attached to another human being. But, I already am paralyzed and have been for the past 25 years, so I got to wondering what other people thought. If I asked my friends if they'd rather be paralyzed or a conjoined twin, of course none of them would say to a paralyzed person that they'd rather be a conjoined twin.<br><br><br><br>
Then, the next morning, I was at the grocery store and there was a midget there. I've never known a midget, but they always look unhappy to me. It also seems like they are always alone. Here I was with my beautiful, "normal" daughter, and there he was all by himself. I also noticed that people were gawking at him even more than they gawk at me. So then I started to wonder what it would be like to be a midget. Which lead me to the question I asked here.<br><br><br><br>
As for the 6 months left to live question, I threw that one in there because I figured some people might rather be dead than any of the others. I don't believe in any sort of life after death, plus I've got a daughter to raise, so that one would be my very last choice. I'd take the wheelchair, then the midget, then the conjoined twin, and then dying.<br><br><br><br>
If you are curious for more, I will next write about what led me to gimpdom, and then some of my thoughts on what I've read here.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
10,153 Posts
When I first read your post I was picturing someone lazily wondering about things. But the whole process of how you came up with that question is very interesting.<br><br><br><br>
I was offended at first because my dad is recently paralyzed and seeing that poll bothered me. He's not completely paralyzed... below his knees and his pelvic area.. somehow the area in between was skipped.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
904 Posts
I chose midget but paralysis is a close second, followed by conjoined twin and then death.<br><br><br><br>
Midget was my first choice because it seems to present the least difficulties and from previous thought I know that it wouldn't bother me. Paralysis came in a close second since it would require more adjustment, but I think I could easily live a happy life while paralysed. Conjoined twin would be harder because I like my alone time. I wouldn't need as much since I would have been with my twin from birth though. Death doesn't bother me too much but there's truly too much to have fun with and experience so I <b>wouldn't</b> want to die in six months.<br><br><br><br>
I'm curious for more if you still want to share Portulaca.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,541 Posts
<div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Muzicfan</i><br><br><b>who says paralyzed people are not "whole" ??<br><br><br><br>
I too am disgusted by this question, in my book it belittles people that have to deal with these situations.</b></div>
</div>
<br><br><br>
It depends on how a person responds to the question as to whether THEY belittle the situations. I actually found the question made me think, and made me wonder what it is like to be "different to the norm" in terms of appearance/physical ability etc. Instead of just blindly walking through life not thinking about it because I'm not exposed to it all too much. Why should we not talk about it? That's more discrimination than thinking/talking about it in a thoughtful manner.<br><br><br><br>
Portulaca, thank you. I understand where you're coming from. And in order of preference, I would be a midget, then in a wheelchair, then conjoined (although it would probably depend where joined), then 6 months to live.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
0 Posts
Discussion Starter · #35 ·
First I should probably say that not all disabled people are alike. I wouldn't recommend going up to someone in a wheelchair, slapping them on the shoulder and saying, "Hey gimpy! That's a nice set of wheels you got there!" Also, some people in chairs get offended if someone offers to hold a door open for them. I think it's these type of disabled people who only end up contributing to why much of society is so uncomfortable around us crips.<br><br><br><br>
My story isn't very exciting, but here it is. It was 1978 and I was 8 years old (I'm feeling really old when I see that a lot of the memebers here weren't even born in 1978!) I was riding in a car with my sister, my parents, my friends Debbie and Patti, and Debbie and Patti's parents. My sister and I were riding in the back of the station wagon with Debbie and Patti, and none of us kids were wearing seatlbelts. We stopped for a stop sign, but the drunk driver behind us didn't stop. Debbie, Patti, and I were thrown out of the car. They both died at the scene, and I became permanently paralyzed from the waist down. What happened to me is unfortunate, but the death of Debbie and Patti is a tragedy. They were only 7 and 9 years old, and the only children in their family. PLEASE, always wear your seatbelt and never drink and drive!!!<br><br><br><br>
I've been through some hard times. But, who hasn't gone through hard times? Overall, it's been a good life thus far. Luckily I'm only a para though and not a quad. If I was a quad, I'd have to rely on others for lots of things. As a para, I'm very independent. I don't need any help getting out of bed or going to the bathroom or showering or getting dressed. I take care of myself, my daughter, my dog, and my cats all by myself. I own my home. I drive. I garden. I enjoy photography. I travel. I've loved and I've been loved.<br><br><br><br>
Life in a wheelchair has been challenging, interesting, and frustrating. If given the opportunity to walk again, I'd be all over it. The reality is, I'll be in this chair forever so I might as well live life as close to the way I would if I wasn't in a chair.<br><br><br><br>
I know that one of the hardest things people with disabilities have to deal with is the way society treats us. Personally, I think midgets have it much worse than I do in this aspect, and I'm really surprised to see the results of my question.<br><br><br><br>
I want to write about some other thoughts I've had resulting from this poll, but I gotta go. More later....
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
904 Posts
Thank you for sharing with us Portulaca. I hope Debbie and Patti's parents are doing alright.<br><br><br><br><b>I know that one of the hardest things people with disabilities have to deal with is the way society treats us. Personally, I think midgets have it much worse than I do in this aspect, and I'm really surprised to see the results of my question.</b><br><br><br><br>
I know the reason I chose being a midget had little to do with how society treats midgets and more with how I could live my life. I simply enjoy walking and would prefer to not give it up.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
0 Posts
Discussion Starter · #37 ·
What surprises me most about this poll is that more people voted for death over paralysis. I'm also surprised that the majority chose midget.<br><br><br><br>
Saborm, Debbie and Patti's parents wouldn't speak to my family after the accident. Even though it was in no way our fault (we weren't even the family driving), I think it was just too painful for them to see me and my sis still alive and their girls dead. I don't know what ever happened to them, but I did hear their marriage didn't last. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br><br><br>
Someone said that if a person were a midget, they'd have more mobility. This may be true. I don't know. I was under the impression that midgets can't walk much because they get so tired. I don't know if this is true though. Regardless, unlike me, they can do things such as climb stairs and walk on the beach.<br><br><br><br>
Someone said that they would choose 6 months left to live because it's the only one where you wouldn't be treated like a freak for a lifetime. I can understand this. There have been times that I wish I could be invisible so that people would stop staring at me. For the most part though, I think that people don't see me as a freak (I hope!). The stares are out of curiosity, not out of horror.<br><br><br><br>
A couple of people mentioned sex. Disabled people are not asexual. That is a very common misconception. Sex is still pleasurable even without feeling "down there". I mean, I'm not going to pretend it's not a big deal, because it is, but a very large part of sex has to do with the brain. A person who has no feeling there can orgasm. Sometimes it takes a little more work, but it is possible. Also, many people in wheelchairs DO having feeling there. Paralysis is a weird thing and affects everyone differently.<br><br><br><br>
As for being with someone who is disabled, I haven't had any complaints. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> I'm only 33 and I've already been proposed to 4 times. I must be doing something right! One of those 4 relationships he ended (and it had nothing to do with sex), 2 of the the relationships were ended by me. The fourth was a mutual break-up. I've had more than 4 relationships, but those were the 4 guys who asked me to marry them.<br><br><br><br>
Thanks so much for your comments and votes. More comments would be appreciated, and I'd be happy to address any questions anyone may have.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
0 Posts
Discussion Starter · #38 ·
<div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Portulaca</i><br><br><b>Sex is still pleasurable even without feeling "down there". I mean, I'm not going to pretend it's not a big deal, because it is, but a very large part of sex has to do with the brain. A person who has no feeling there can orgasm. Sometimes it takes a little more work, but it is possible. Also, many people in wheelchairs DO having feeling there.</b></div>
</div>
<br><br><br>
A lot of people who do have feeling down there don't have orgasms, so kudos to you.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
878 Posts
thats a sad story Portulaca<br><br>
im glad your like ok and got on with your life you must be really like brave !!<br><br>
i mite have to be in a wheelchair but i doubt it my dad threatens me tho<br><br>
its cuz i have a bone disese (chronic multifocal osteomilitus . there is another word but i forget it )<br><br>
it sounds bad but it really isent chronic means for a long time<br><br>
multifocal means in more then one spot<br><br>
and osteomilitus means bone disese<br><br>
its nothing that you can see or anything so its not pyshical unless my ankels swell up cuz its basically in my legs but i can still do everything that everyone can<br><br>
like one time i went on a 3 hour hike with my friends and my parents were like no you shudnt go wut if your legs start to hurt but i went and i was like 1st in like leading em<br><br>
only thing it does is hurt sometimes but latly it hasent been hurting me for a long time which is good<br><br>
it started when my brother threw a stick at me and it made a dent in my bone where bacteria started to eat my bone (not a lot) i had an operation got all the bacteria out and then the bone disese followed<br><br>
i mite have an idea of wut you feel but probaly no where close but like if i ever limp my friends will call me ginp or sumthin like that i dont get offended tho or anything and sometimes if i limp (i only have a tiny limp btw if my ankel hurts) but like sum people will stare<br><br><br><br>
but anyways i choose midget cuz i love to like walk run and that sort of thing it then i think i wud go for the wheelchair<br><br>
but i wud rather die then be a conjioned twin
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
15,684 Posts
I chose six months to live. If I knew I would die suddenly in six months and be able to carry on with my life as I chose up until that point, there would be some benefits. Well, first off, death isn't scary for me. I know where I'm going after I die, and I have to say that spending eternity worshipping God sounds like a whole lot of fun!<br><br><br><br>
What would I do with those six months... a number of selfish options come to mind, such as taking out a lot of loans for expensive things like trips and clothes and boats, knowing that when I'm dead, they couldn't collect money from me. I'd also be tempted to think fatalistically, and thus conclude that I could do all kinds of forbidden things since I wouldn't have to pay the consequences. If I took that idea very far, I'd die of an STD before the six-month mark.<br><br><br><br>
If I were actually under that kind of time crunch with my life, I'd probably end up doing hard-core mission work 24/7 for my six months. No sense in wasting my time on anything else!<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br>
I don't think I could handle being a midget very well. I'm currently 5"4, my mom is 4"11, and my dad is 5"6. I come from a relatively short family, but I do enjoy being taller than most of them. All of my female relatives (sisters, grandmas, cousins, aunts) are shorter than me. My pride would prevent me from coping with midgetness well, I think. If I were shorter than them, I'd have to deal with all the "short jokes" I've told my mom, and even though everyone knew it was only in jest, having the situation reversed would be humbling.
 
21 - 40 of 55 Posts
Top