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Hey everyone,<br><br>
I'm feeling pretty sad/frustrated tonight. I also feel isolated because I've realize almost none of my friends respect my opinions on factory farms or animal suffering, and have zero compassion for animals, and even people.<br><br>
Some of these people are future-in-laws, some are long-time "friends." I've realized that I need to distance myself from these people. Luckily my SO respects my opinions and is very caring towards animals.<br><br>
I would love to have friends who share my views on this important topic, and who don't make mean comments such as "I hate [insert animal here]," or "I don't care," or even "You're delusional."<br><br>
It's really hard to not be so angry at people who are not only willfully ignorant, but also really disrespectful.<br><br>
Seriously, why does caring about animals make some people so mad?<br><br>
Has anyone here found friends to whom you can better relate?
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>natacats</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3048309"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><br>
Has anyone here found friends to whom you can better relate?</div>
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Hardly. Really hard to find people who think the same way on this, plus have other things about them that make them actual friend material.<br>
I've pretty much told all my omni friends to **** off. Just have my Wife now as my only like-minded friend in real life, but she's not too handy with helping me fix the car and stuff like that, that some omni friends could. That right there is one of the main reasons I fantasize about living in an all vegan community. But being more of a loner suits me better 75% of the time.
 

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Hi natacats, welcome to Veggieboards. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hi.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hi:"><br><br>
I understand exactly how you feel, I went vegetarian when I was around 14 and the first few years were really lonely. Now over a decade later I'm vegan and all my friends are either accepting of it or vegan/vegetarian themselves. It didn't happen overnight, it was a slow process and my circle of friends changed more as I did. If you're feeling like it's time to find people who are more understanding it probably is! Everyone needs to mix up their social circle and move on sometimes, even without diet/lifestyle changes to deal with.<br><br>
This community is a wonderful place to start if you need people to talk to, we're all here for advice and support. Having a place to go online where people understand and will listen to you vent is really important sometimes, especially if you feel like people in real life aren't being there for you as much as they should.<br><br>
I'd also recommend looking for veg*n's and animal lovers to hang out with in real life, it helps a lot. This could be an awesome opportunity to make new friends! I don't know where you live but you could use Google and see if there are any vegetarian/animal rights meetup groups in your area, that would be a great place to start <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I met a few veg*ns and like minded folk through my yoga classes, before the studio closed. There are a lot of more consciously minded folks in yoga/pilates and sometimes martial arts.
 

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<a href="http://www.meetup.com/" target="_blank">Meetup.com</a> can be a good resource for finding people of like interests in your area.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>natacats</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3048309"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Hey everyone,<br><br>
I'm feeling pretty sad/frustrated tonight. I also feel isolated because I've realize almost none of my friends respect my opinions on factory farms or animal suffering, and have zero compassion for animals, and even people.<br><br>
Some of these people are future-in-laws, some are long-time "friends." I've realized that I need to distance myself from these people. Luckily my SO respects my opinions and is very caring towards animals.<br><br>
I would love to have friends who share my views on this important topic, and who don't make mean comments such as "I hate [insert animal here]," or "I don't care," or even "You're delusional."<br><br>
It's really hard to not be so angry at people who are not only willfully ignorant, but also really disrespectful.<br><br>
Seriously, why does caring about animals make some people so mad?<br><br>
Has anyone here found friends to whom you can better relate?</div>
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I have found friends right on this board....but in my day to day life offline...just a few. Of course I live in the sticks, so I don't run into many like-minded veg*ns. (Though they are here in smaller numbers.)<br><br>
Welcome - and I'm happy to be your animal loving friend. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Yeah, look on the bright side. The mainstream of our culture is <b>so</b> backward & dense, it can really get you down. Definitely do understand how hard it can be, keeping your conscience among them. But you'd be surprised at the commitment some progressive thinkers out there have. For one, try looking into the environmental movement for friends. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br>
Why does your stand make the willfully ignorant so angry and disrespectful? Because that is how defense mechanisms work.<br>
Anyhoo, pleased to meet you.
 

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Another idea is to find a local farm sanctuary and attend one of their events. Or just sit in a vegetarian restaurant and smile at all the strangers sitting around you.
 

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When I went veg and then vegan, I had a very similar situation to you. I lived in a small fishing town, and everyone looked at me like I was an alien when I told them I didn't eat meat. I did not have ANY veggie friends, and not even any veggie sympathizers. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"><br><br>
I turned to VB - I was able to make friends with other vegans online which helped me get through the first couple of years. Finally I started to get restless and wanted an active (Real Life!) veg community - so I looked harder! I put the word out! I started posting on Craigslist and Meetup.com and the community message boards around my city. I ended up connecting with some pretty amazing people - I moved into a house with all vegetarian roommates, and met all their vegetarian friends... I started having regular vegan potlucks and going to animal rights events. It was like my world exploded with like-minded people - just because I PUT IT OUT THERE that I wanted to make friends!!<br><br>
I ended up meeting my vegan boyfriend through the new network of vegan friends... and a bunch of our older friends went veg because they were always hanging out with us and our new friends.<br><br>
The two of us just moved to a new far away city - so time to do it all over again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br>
I have already started networking and met two other vegans in the area. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":up:"><br><br>
~ H
 

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I am glad you came to the boards to find a way to get animal friendly and Veg freindlly friends and people to encourage you and to be near you, I agree that you need to find a meet up place where these both types of people meet up and then you go from there, You can only do so much for people online that is why its important to get with a meet up group, I am still needing to do this but, I have other things to accomplished first.
 
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