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You can probably tell I am socially inpet to the extreme. I have no idea how normal people behave :p<br><br>
How long should you be dating someone before you are their partner?<br><br>
Ive been dating this one girl for a few weeks now and know that she is what im looking for in a partner so can i just jump in and change my fb status :) I have no idea.<br><br>
I go by the theory life is short but most people I have met dont seem to follow my way of living so what do you peoples think?
 

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I don't think the length of time has much to do with it. Definately say something to her about it in person before you go on FB and change your status.<br><br>
Most guys just ask me if I want to be their girlfriend. Either that or they will start introducing me to people as their girlfriend. Whatever works!
 

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It's definitely good to confirm things personally before you change your FB status, if she doesn't feel the same way it could be awkward! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br>
I agree with Chrysalis that length of time doesn't matter so much as how you both feel. In all my relationships we always had that moment where someone ended up asking about it. It's definitely good to hear it said out loud.<br><br>
With my current boyfriend we started as friends who flirted for awhile and then one day we ended up making out, and one thing led to another.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"> And afterwards he said "So... Are we dating now?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:">
 

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Yes, you should definitely talk to her before changing the status.<br><br>
My boyfriend was my boyfriend after our first proper date, which was amazing. There was no doubt that we were going to be together and be exclusive. I think it's whenever feels right, no set time.
 

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Agreed, talk to her.<br><br>
Me and my boyfriend were awkward about the term at first, until his mum referred to me as his girlfriend to my face. We talked about why she thought I was his girlfriend, and then we realised I pretty much was his girlfriend.<br><br>
Good luck with your girl <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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You definitely shouldn't change your fb status, at all. It sounds like you want to have a girlfriend to show of to your fb "friends". Get over it. If you and this girl are good together, just hang out and have fun and don't give any thought to what anyone else thinks.
 

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When you both mutually decide that you only want to date each other, and for that you need to talk to them and ask them where this is headed, and if they consider you to be in a relationship.
 

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I agree that you need to talk to her about it. Your dating status is between you and the person you are dating long before it should be made public on facebook or even announced to others. With that said, I also have seen where some folks get all offended if they consider themselves to be dating someone and that person's facebook still shows that they are single. But again that goes back to communicating with your partner.<br><br>
Unless you want to cause discomfort and akwardness in the relationship, your facebook status should not be used as a means to communicate that to your partner. Your high school buddies, yea, but not the one you are in a relationship with.
 

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Talk to her. And don't change your FB status. Honestly, I think the whole "in a relationship with..." thing on Facebook is kind of silly anyway.
 

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I know, when I was younger I would tend to hang out with someone a lot and we really "liked eachother" and then we would offically start dating before it became very serious at all, which now to me seems a little strange. Like being "boyfriend-girlfriend"or "girlfriend-girlfriend"(In my particular case) was a huge deal before you even really had a realtionship. My current relationship was not really like that at all... We met at a party and got together that night, then started hanging out, making out, what have you for several weeks. We became super close inseperable friends. It was pretty clear that we really liked eachother, but the situation was rather complicated. Eventually my SO, as patient as he is, just got kind fo grumpy because he was tired of wanting to be with me, and us to be just with eachother, that he basically told me he was just annoyed we were avoiding being exclusive because of what other people would think. I agreed and the rest is history. I think you just need to talk to her and just ask her to be exclusive, or be your girlfriend. Most girls(me included) think thats really sweet, and she is probably stressing just as much as you over the relationship limbo.<br><br>
I also don't think you are being silly about the facebook thing. When my boyfriend changed his status to being ina relationship with me I thought it was sweet, and great that he wanted everyone to know that we were together. Definately have that conversation with her first before you go changing statuses though. And good luck!
 

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Fakebook etiquette says that several weeks of dating is long enough to change it to "married with children". <img alt="" src="http://fc09.deviantart.net/fs43/f/2009/074/5/1/affirmative_by_nillemotes.gif" style="border:0px solid;">
 

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Fakebook etiquette says that several weeks of dating is long enough to change it to "married with children". <img alt="" src="http://fc09.deviantart.net/fs43/f/2009/074/5/1/affirmative_by_nillemotes.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></div>
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Agree with the others, talk to her. My boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend and it wasn't official until we changed our statuses <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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Well we are seeing each other exclusively cause I told her i was and she said she was too. Also I spend the night over her place a bit so that should count for something? Made love a bunch of times etc. Been on proper dates for a couple of weeks or a few weeks i dunno im hazy on time... I see her when I can which has been almost everyday for the past 2 weeks. meh so tired havent been home yet at work now :S I think Im just gonna assume everything is ok and see if she asks me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I would just leave it alone, fb REALLY has nothing to do with a relationship :p
 

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I have mine under "Its complicated" on the fb. Friends of mine ask when is it not going to be complicated? Its quite silly.<br><br>
Just chat with her I guess.
 

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I have been told that "boyfriend/girlfriend" implies that a mutual promise of exclusivity (with respect to dating and sex) has been made. Anything less than that and "boyfriend/girlfriend" does not apply.<br><br>
Not sure this coincides with what is in the dictionary, but it is what I am told these expressions mean "in real life."
 

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Like others have said, talk to her!<br><br>
But you might want to consider holding off on changing your FB status. If things don't go so well in the future, then you have to awkwardly change it back to single. I've been dating my current boyfriend for three months, and we are going to leave our relationship statuses blank.
 

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Like others have said, talk to her!<br><br>
But you might want to consider holding off on changing your FB status. If things don't go so well in the future, then you have to awkwardly change it back to single. I've been dating my current boyfriend for three months, and we are going to leave our relationship statuses blank.</div>
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That's another option, you don't have to announce your relationship status to the world at all if you don't want to.<br><br>
I do get being proud and wanting to shout your love from the rooftops though, that gooey new relationship phase is wonderful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smitten.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":smitten:"><br><br>
I like having my Facebook status as "In a Relationship" because since I changed it I stopped getting random messages from creepy dudes trying to hit on me, it's lovely.
 
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