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New on here and just wanted to make a first post, I've no idea if there's already a thread like this though lol. Anyway, I can definitely say that "friends", family and ignorant people in general are the hard part of vegetarianism, not avoiding meat.
 

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My family is not the warmest in the world, but I have to say they could have cared less when they found out. They haven't been mean about it at all.
 

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My sister didn't really care (I think she was doubtful), and I don't think anyone else knows about it. Wasn't a big deal <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/undecided.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":-/">
 

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My mom was like, "Oh. Cool."<br><br>
My middle sister (whom I had been discussing it with for weeks) was like, "Areee youuu noww... How did you figure out how to get enough protein?" <eyeroll><br><br>
My oldest sister: "Are you crazyyy, child?"<br><br>
My only vegetarian friend: "Yesssss!!!!!!!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br>
My dad..... Ehhh. Heh. Still haven't told him. I suppose next time we go out to eat that will come up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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I got a variety of different reactions. I have a few vegetarian friends and an aunt who were very supportive of me. I had some omnivore friends who were supportive and others who scoffed at it. I have a few friends who are still trying to get me into organic meat, they have yet to comprehend that I'm okay without it. My immediate family is still very awkward about it. They don't understand most of my reasons or why I can't eat certain things (such as soup made with chicken broth). So far they aren't making a big deal out of it. That being said, I became a vegetarian when I moved off to college. I am unsure how they'd be about it if I stayed home for an extended period of time.
 

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My friends could care less but are supportive.<br><br>
The same is also true of my family. Diet is not something my family considers important in terms social/familial interaction. My father doesn't particularly care outside how difficult or expensive he thinks it might be to go grocery shopping and my brother and sister treat it as if I bought a new microwave. My mother, on the other hand, seems to admire the discipline required.
 

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"Areee youuu noww... How did you figure out how to get enough protein?" <eyeroll></div>
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Sisterly love, am I right? The eye rolls, I can't stand it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:">
 

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My mum was a skeptic (justified, I lived on cheddar and various pig meats before) initially, then curious as to why (not in an argumentative way) and now is pretty good at finding things I can eat when I'm at her house, only messing up once when she didn't read the ingredients for quorn.<br><br>
Apparently upon finding out, my dad went and found a recipe for vegan chocolate cake.
 

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My parents were completely supportive. Since I've struggled with weight all my life, I think they were pretty happy about it in terms of health. However, they said I "could always just eat seafood if it doesn't work out," which tells me they don't really comprehend the ethical part of it. But then, we <b>are</b> Sicilians who live on the beach, so seafood is a big part of our environment <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
That said, my parents are really big into eating healthy/balanced, so slightly altering a recipe (or just my portion) isnt a problem at all so that we can still all sit & eat together.<br><br>
I never understood why some people's families give them grief, or (WTF) try and sneak meat into their food! Even my parents thought that was ridiculous. Yay for cool parents!<br><br><br>
As for friends/other families, the reactions ran from "good for you" to "cool, but I couldn't do it because of [insert favorite flesh product here]," to "that's nice." No REAL negativity yet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> But this is is a pretty laid back area. No one gets all "butthurt" over stupid things <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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6 or 7 years ago when I wanted to stop eating red meat, my dad's reaction was, "I don't want you to be some stinking vegetarian like your friends!"<br><br>
Fast forward to last year and I did go Vegetarian overnight. Dad was quite mad, and I had a lot of arguments with him, while mom was confused as to how to feed me. I convinced mom that I'll take care of what I eat, and dad eventually decided that me being a Vegetarian wasn't the worst thing in the world, and knew that he couldn't change my mind anyway. If anything, he was proud that I made my own decision of what I wanted to do with my life.<br><br>
Now my parents are very accepting of it, I made a vegetarian meal once a week, and they've mostly liked everything they've tried. More often than not, my dad and my brother would poke fun at my lifestyle by waving some dead flesh in my face, but I've learned to laugh it off.<br><br>
Nine months after going Vegetarian, I went Vegan. It was still a bit of a secret at the time, until we had some guests come over for dinner one day and I was eating something different than the meat meal that they were eating. The guest asked my parents, "Why is she not eating what we're eating?" and dad promptly replied before I did, "Because she's Vegan". I was shocked because I haven't even told my parents yet. I guess they were paying close attention to what I've been eating as of late.<br><br>
Mom, being the less observant parent, was totally shocked and almost yelled, "No!" when dad said I was a Vegan. Mom looked at me, dismayed, not entirely believing my father, I confirmed his suspicion, and that was it.
 

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My father flipped his sh*t. To be fair, I finally worked up the courage to tell him while we were in a restaurant having some big fancy Chinese dinner and I said I didn't want any. I forget exactly how it went, but in retrospect, I don't know why he was so angry since I attempted to go vegetarian twice before as a younger child and failed (mostly because I couldn't cook and they would only buy vegetarian food I didn't like, ie salad, to discourage me). I was a hormonal teenager then so I must have been particularly obnoxious or something.<br><br>
My mother assumed it was a phase and that I'd go back to normal like all the other times. I only heard about this from my cousin years later. Ha! A seventeen year phase. We still bicker about it because she thinks I'm "ma-fan" (troublesome) when my partner and I go over to their house for dinner, that she has to cook "special" vegetarian dishes for us (broccoli or spinach, ma, I'm perfectly happy with that). Back when I was still living with them, I always offered to cook for myself if I was so troublesome and my mother usually took offense to that as if it were an insult to her.<br><br>
I'm pretty sure she used to sneak meat juices in by cooking my vegetables in the same sauce as when she did meat.<br><br>
I don't know how to tell them that I'm vegan (in process). I don't think it's going to come up for awhile.<br><br>
My partner's parents have generally been supportive, though his mom made an off-hand joke that I "ruined him". I'm not sure how they'll take the veganism thing.
 

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Everyone was pretty supportive when I went vegetarian. Now that I'm vegan, I think they just think I'm nuts. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"> I think the average omni can at least understand why we wouldn't eat meat (even if they don't agree), but most don't really get the issues with eggs/dairy/etc.
 

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My husband felt compelled to tell me all the meat dishes he'd eaten while traveling for work. I think he's mad I'm vegetarian now. He grew up in Russia and I think it's hard for him to understand why I would pass up meat when he couldn't even get it when he wanted it.
 

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My mom was cool with it. She just asked me to find recipes, that's all. We even have an all vegetarian fridge, which I love.<br>
My sister was too, except it feels like she thinks it's just a silly fad of mine, lol.<br>
My best friend was confused at first, she thought it was okay for me to eat pizza with sausage on it, because her mom is a flexitarian.. and eats a lot of meat, really. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":huh:"><br>
My step mom, step sisters kept asking me if I ate chicken, turkey, tuna, steak... and when I said no, they said I'd starve.. which is why when I visit my dad, I need to bring my own food or I WOULD starve. xD<br>
My dad.. I don't think he's for it or against it, really. He just asked what I ate.<br>
My uncle doesn't give a damn. He's an ass anyway.
 

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My parents are 'almost vegetarian'* themselves, so it wasn't difficult for me to switch, and my mother pretty much stopped cooking meats in dinner altogether. Even thanksgiving was turkey-free (although it was much easier to pull off since family was all out-of-state)!<br><br>
I never got a speech or an awkward discussion about it like most seem to, and ultimately my parents are very supportive, and both recognized I was making a moral decision, and wasn't hopping into some poorly planned fad diet or joining some cult. In fact, I really honestly credit my mother and her teaching me to be aware of the way we treat animals for my conversion in the first place. She's a very kindhearted woman and I am proud to say I take after her in a lot of ways (not to imply my father isn't just as great of course). They also accept that I'm atheist as well, and they're so open-minded and even-tempered about things I almost find it a pity I'm also not gay. :/<br><br>
That was a joke, insistently, so don't be offended. Besides, they really would be amazing and supportive parents for a gay child. I also really need to find a better word than 'conversion'. Sounds a little cult-like. Anywho:<br><br>
My friends are a different story. While none of them are abrasive about it (well, none of 'my' friends, anyway. My wife's bunch of 'my-friends-by-default' aren't as nice about the issue), but the closest thing to a veg*n friend is a great buddy of mine who actually went from hardcore 'carnivore' to pescatarian. I've had both my closest friends essentially say "Never in a million years." Being that I don't associate with unintelligent people, this makes things exceptionally frustrating. Nutrition isn't exactly Rocket Surgery.<br><br>
I didn't even *work* with one, and I worked in a vet with a strong animal rescue record. I did unintentionally guilt the local animal rescue coordinator (back) into it...<br><br>
If I were a spiritual man, I'd figure this was Karma, though. In High School I was an adamant omni and convinced a friend of mine, who was raised a veggie, to try a ham sandwich. (Please don't hate me too much for that, since part of it was encouraging him to seek new experiences outside of what his overbearing and overstrict hyper religious family had in store. It was a <i>symbolic</i> ham sandwich!)<br><br>
*=<i>What I mean by "almost vegetarian" is that is that growing up, while we did eat meat it wasn't at every meal, and wasn't typically the focus of the dish. Most of our meat came from fast food or some other restaurant (we did eat out a LOT though, faaaar more than we ever should if only for economic reasons). So they were (and still are, sadly) not vegetarian, but the vast majority of their diet is vegetable-based.</i>
 

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I never understood why some people's families give them grief, or (WTF) try and sneak meat into their food! Even my parents thought that was ridiculous. Yay for cool parents!</div>
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I know! I find this ****ed up, I thought it only happened in the Simpsons. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> I see whatever my mum cooks though, and when I go to my dad's he never cooks anyway, so either way that's not really a worry for me.
 

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I never got a speech or an awkward discussion about it like most seem to, and ultimately my parents are very supportive, and both recognized I was making a moral decision, and wasn't hopping into some poorly planned fad diet or joining some cult. In fact, I really honestly credit my mother and her teaching me to be aware of the way we treat animals for my conversion in the first place. She's a very kindhearted woman and I am proud to say I take after her in a lot of ways (not to imply my father isn't just as great of course). They also accept that I'm atheist as well, and they're so open-minded and even-tempered about things I almost find it a pity I'm also not gay. :/</div>
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I wish my parents were more like this. Both my parents don't care about religion at all, and my dad thinks (just like me) it's a load of crap, so the atheist thing isn't a problem for me (although I'm amazed that your religious parents don't mind that you're an atheist, they sound awesome). On the vegetarian thing though, my mum was cool with it when I told her, but yesterday I told her after becoming a vegan I might try a raw vegan diet for a week or so just to see what it's like, and her response was "I think you've been spending too much time on the internet". My dad, on the other hand, thought it was a stupid little phase or some kind of conformist thing I did because I'm a hippie or something. His girlfriend used to be a vegetarian though so thankfully she was supportive of it and that shut him up a bit. As for being gay... I really wouldn't like to be gay with a dad like mine, he makes me feel like beating him over the head with an iron bar because of the things he says about gays sometimes.
 

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My family is not the warmest in the world, but I have to say they <b>could have cared less</b> when they found out. They haven't been mean about it at all.</div>
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My parents said 'okay' and then said that they too would be vegetarians, as it would be easier to only have to cook one main meal.<br><br>
Ha! Yes, I really was that lucky! They are still vegetarians now, 30 years later.
 
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