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Ive been a vegetarian for awail now and iam so happy for doing it... i have never been happier and i feel like iam making a real difference but my problem is that i want to be a vegan.<br><br><br><br>
Iam 15 and still living with my parents so i fill they wont understand.. it took them a long time for them to support me being a vedetarian but being a vegan i know they wont understand .<br><br><br><br>
They have said it before.. that being a veddie ok but being a vegan is going to far but it is something i really believe in and i just dont know what to do ?? please can someone help me ??? are there any vegans out there i can talk to ?? please help me ......
 

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I went through this same thing when I was 14 and the only advise I can give is to sit down with your parents to tell them how important going vegan is to you and that having their support would mean so much to you. My parents weren't happy with me when I told them about my decision to go vegan but over time they realized it meant a lot to me. Going vegan was the best decision I have ever made and I feel lucky that they now support me.<br><br><br><br>
Congrats on thinking about going vegan and good luck!
 

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feel free to contact me, via my profile on here or PM me. I'd definitely help you out if you wanna talk/have questions/etc.
 

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hi .. thanks for replying .... iam still confused though i dont think they will understand actually they wont full stop and at my age i cant buy my own food by i shouldnt have to eat food that i dont want i just feel so strongly about this ....
 

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Rach,<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Hey! It is nice to see that you have the desire to do all that you can for the environment, the animals, and your health. I applaud you! ... Now, on to your problem.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
I may not be of much help to you, but I will give you my account on the issue, as I pretty much went through the same thing, and I let it get me down.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Two and one half years ago, I went Vegan cold-turkey! (No pun intended.) It was the best choice I felt that I ever made, and I was incredibly happy for my choice. I knew that the choice I had made was right for me after openning my eyes to the horrors that were right under my nose - and in my mouth - for so long. At first, I was terribly scared, but that quickly went away.<br><br><br><br>
At that time, I was sixteen years old, and you simply can not guess how much my parents hasstled me about my choice! Every night at dinner, my parents would make comments about every single thing I ate, no matter if it was a huge amount of food or not. I found myself trying to please them by putting more and more food on my plate each night, and yet I continued to lose count of how many, "Well, that doesn't look like much," comments I recieved. Still, I remained respectful and quiet. Inside however, it hurt. I wanted my parents acceptance.<br><br><br><br>
This went on night after night. I began to explain them where my nutrients were coming from, and how much research I had done on my new lifestyle - (I even showed them the research that is readily available on the internet) - and they simply blew it off and made some unneeded comment about how it simply, "Is not healthy to live like you do." Again, I stayted silent, but my felings remained broken.<br><br><br><br>
Trying to win over my parents, I would offer to fix them some of my meals. They would refuse and give the excuse that vegetables do not taste good to them. I would offer things other than vegetables, and they would still refuse. Not a food item in the world - fixed vegan safe - would they touch. (Including Vegan lasagna, which they now love!)<br><br><br><br>
Well, this went on for a good year. Finally, I snapped. One night at dinner, I began to yell at them both for their shameful behavior towards my own choices. At first, I was afraid that they may smack me - but they didn't. I ended dinner early that night, and my parents later had a talk to me about how sorry they were. They promised to be more open.<br><br><br><br>
The next year of my Veganism my parents were more quiet about my lifestyle. They semed not to accept it - but they hesitated to constantly bring up how they really felt about. Through their voiceless communication across the table, I could tell that my parents still did not accept it. Though they had begun to taste my food, they rarely ever ate it.<br><br><br><br>
When I turned eighteen, I was finally sick of it. I graduated early just so that I could head off to college. It was at this time that I switched from Vegan to Pescitarian. I did it not for me, but for them. I was sick of them constantly giving me the "shameful eye". When I told them about my new choice - my mother was possitively giddy. She couldn't be more happy. Inside, I hated the choice I had made.<br><br><br><br>
For three months, it was fish this and fish that. Every meal I had had to have fish in it, else they would give me the "shameful eye" again. Everytime I ate fish, my mother seemed so happy for my choice. I was dieing a little inside each time. My bites-of-tuna became a shameful act, and they continued to happen for three months.<br><br><br><br>
I quit college just as soon as I had entered. I did not feel it was for me, and despite my mothers spiteful attitude, I knew now what was important: My own choices. Needless to say, I am now back on track to being Vegan.<br><br><br><br>
The point of my little story here is this: You have to make the choices that you feel right making. However, sometimes that can be tough. If your parents refuse to back you up on Veganism, then I believe that the best thing to do would be to try to sit them both down and explain it all - CALMLY. Explain why you want to be Vegan, how you go about it, where you would get the important nutrients, and so on. If they still despise your choice, then for now the best you can do is be a vegetarian. You are still doing so well for the Earth, animals, and yourself - and one day you will be able to choose Veganism instead.<br><br><br><br>
I hope I have helped in some way. If you would like, you can feel free to contact me as well. Good luck, and hang in there!<br><br><br><br>
~Austin~
 

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thank you so much Austin. its nice to know their people out there to talk to. Iam going to try what you said and hopefully they will support me. I cant thank you enough !!!!<br><br><br><br>
Rachel xx
 

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Hey! I am glad I was of some help.<br><br><br><br>
The main point is to stay calm. Even if they should give you the cold-shoulder in the discussion, or simply should ride off the possibility that Veganism can be a healthy lifestyle (my parents did) - Do not yell and argue. It will only hurt the situation more.<br><br><br><br>
I hope all goes great! Remember to have the facts and report back on how it goes. I wish you all the luck in the world!<br><br><br><br>
~Austin~
 

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I just want to say good luck. At 28, with 3 kids of my own and not having lived at home for about 10 years I am still too scared to tell my Mum I am working towards veganism. When I told them I'm vegetarian they initially said "oh well, you'll be easy to feed at Christmas time, all you'll eat is the salad!" (it was a joke though) but then they came to visit and went behind my back to try and get my husband to convince me that this is bad for my health and that he should try to get me to eat meat again, sigh. Then my daughter (7) told them she wanted to be vegetarian too. Well you'd think she'd just told them she wants to become a mass murderer or something. They told her straight out that they (mum mostly) don't believe in it for kids and that she would NOT EVER eat vegetarian at their house (lol, she was sneaky though, she said okay then just didn't eat the meat they put on her plate!). Mum also keeps telling me how this is just a phase and that I'll get sick of it soon and go back. If I tell her I've been experimenting with the Uncheese cookbook or she see's rice milk in my fridge I get long lectures on "why am I not eating cheese and milk" etc etc. I just try to avoid (which I know isn't an option for you).<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, sorry I'm no help, just wanted you to know that we have to deal with our parents views and opinions no matter what age we are! I just try to remember that my Mum was brought up a meat eater, as was her Mum and her Mum and that I'm the one who's making the change for my family's future. She's had a whole life of meat eating brain washing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Good luck and we're all here if you need to vent or need some support on your decision.
 

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I just want to say good luck. At 28, with 3 kids of my own and not having lived at home for about 10 years I am still too scared to tell my Mum I am working towards veganism. When I told them I'm vegetarian they initially said "oh well, you'll be easy to feed at Christmas time, all you'll eat is the salad!" (it was a joke though) but then they came to visit and went behind my back to try and get my husband to convince me that this is bad for my health and that he should try to get me to eat meat again, sigh. Then my daughter (7) told them she wanted to be vegetarian too. Well you'd think she'd just told them she wants to become a mass murderer or something. They told her straight out that they (mum mostly) don't believe in it for kids and that she would NOT EVER eat vegetarian at their house (lol, she was sneaky though, she said okay then just didn't eat the meat they put on her plate!). Mum also keeps telling me how this is just a phase and that I'll get sick of it soon and go back. If I tell her I've been experimenting with the Uncheese cookbook or she see's rice milk in my fridge I get long lectures on "why am I not eating cheese and milk" etc etc. I just try to avoid (which I know isn't an option for you).<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, sorry I'm no help, just wanted you to know that we have to deal with our parents views and opinions no matter what age we are! I just try to remember that my Mum was brought up a meat eater, as was her Mum and her Mum and that I'm the one who's making the change for my family's future. She's had a whole life of meat eating brain washing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> Good luck and we're all here if you need to vent or need some support on your decision.</div>
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Very good point, which I should have brought up myself.<br><br><br><br>
Despite how our parents may sometimes feel, it is very important to remember that Vegetaranism is a minority descission. Most people would be hard pressed to find other veg*ns down in their family line. Your parents - like mine - are merely scared. You are their child. Unless you can prove to them that this is absolutely safe - which is easy to do if you have the right facts - they will remain scared. Part of their fear is confusion. They are not veg*n, so why should you wish to be (in essence).<br><br><br><br>
Like I said, good luck! I hope your parents are understanding and try to support you. Mine may not have supported me in my descission, but many parents would love to partake in their childrens' lives.<br><br><br><br>
~Austin~
 

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It appears to be more than just doing her own thing. She is fifteen, and therefore she still relies upon her parents income. (Hell, I am eighteen and still do that!) Doing her own thing is not always possible.<br><br><br><br>
~Austin~
 

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My situation is similar, though not that extreme. My hubby's vege, but is not of a mindset to really accept veganism yet. My solution for now is to "walk that way". I make more vegan choices for myself without making noise about it. When we eat out, I select things without overt dairy or eggs. I don't read all labels for trace ingredients or quiz waiters, because those things would cause a high proportion of grief compared to animal product avoided.<br><br><br><br>
He can see I'm doing all this, but this 'step at a time' approach isn't as threatening to him as my going full bore vegan all at once seemed it would be (when we discussed it). As a result he ends up helping me along instead of it being a point of contention. And there's less animal products in both our diets as a result.<br><br><br><br>
People are sensitive. Maybe talking about it directly with your folks is a better solution. In some cases though, it works best to accomplish your goals more gradually without giving people inclined to take offense a reason to feel rejected.
 

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I am vegetarian but not vegan<br><br>
I think it is going too far as well, unless you are seriously into health issues<br><br>
I am not, I do it for the animals but getting milk and cheese and honey does not cause any animal pain<br><br>
so I eat them ;-)
 

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i dont want to do it because of the health reason and iam not a vegetarian because of health reasons but because its what i believe in and being vegan is not going to far !!
 

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Umm... I really do not wish to start this into one of those argument threads, but if you use the search function on the boards, you can find plenty of reasons why to avoid dairy and eggs due to animal concerns.<br><br><br><br>
Please don't take this wrongly, but I am just saying... Dairy and egg does cause harm. However, do what you can and do not worry about what you can't.
 

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Glad to see you back with us Aussyj <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
I'll just second everyone else's advice to the OP- print out articles stating a vegan diet can be healthy to show your parents and hope they come round.
 

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Glad to see you back with us Aussyj <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
I'll just second everyone else's advice to the OP- print out articles stating a vegan diet can be healthy to show your parents and hope they come round.</div>
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Wow! Thanks! Nice to feel loved. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 
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