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Hey Everyone,<br><br><br><br>
I have gone through alot of craziness lately, but things have gotten better over the past two weeks.<br><br><br><br>
I recently broke up with a guy I was seeing briefly. I was totally nuts about him. We never even got passed kissing. I am 34 he is 40. I will try to make it brief. He broke up with me, I was shocked to say the least. Anyway, this was 2 1/2 weeks ago, I have been working extra, going to the gym really trying to keep busy. My really good friend knows the whole story, she brought him up today on the phone. I found her to be totally cruel. Just out of the blue she asks, "Have you heard from Kenny?" then, "What would you do if he came to your job and requested someone else who works with you instead, do you think he would do something like that?" ( I am a massage therapist and work in a day spa.) She talks a million words a minute, and she was reviewing the whole story, how and why he probably missed his old girlfriend and chose to go back to her, how I was a total rebound relationship for him.( I was just out of a relationship too, but that is way off topic) I finally cut her off, was crying by that point, I was at work on a break looking at 3 more hours of work ahead of me. I told her I thought she was mean and inconsiderate and that her timing sucked. Why would she bring this jerk up? Especially while I was at work!!!! She totally apologized, but you know what, I am still pissed. i realy hate arguing, and I know she is going through alot she was just diagnosed with Lupus the other day. But she really hurt me. About 3 months ago when things were really going great, or so I thought, I was rambling on and on to her on the phone about how happy I was, and I was excited because I was going to see him the next morning, she says" Oh not to change the subject but, how is Justin feeling?" he was my cat who passed away in December. Those were her exact words. I was shocked I thought that was awfully rude, she just interupted me. I addressed it with her that night and she said she thought I was done talking about him, and she just wanted to ask about Justy before she forgot. I found that to be bs then and still do. Part of me feels she was jealous of my happiness at that time, and now she is jealous of my resilence. I am not obsessing over the breakup, I haven't spoken of him in over a week, I am living my life. And she brought him up to be mean. I don't know if I am just being hyper sensitive or what, but I think she deliberately said it to be mean. What do you guys think?<br><br><br><br>
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That's hard to answer. I don't think you are being hypersensitive, and I do think it was inconsiderate of your friend. However it's hard to say if it was intentional on her part or not. If she is jealous, as you suspect, it may be possible that she is just saying those things automatically or uncontrollably without realizing until afterwards that she shouldn't have said them. Did her apologies seem sincere to you?
 

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thanks for responding Starblossom. Today when she apologized she just sounded like she wanted me to get of her case . She was like "Oh, this doesn't mean that we are going to lose touch like we did years ago" We did not talk for about 7 yrs, we didn't have a fight or anything, I just got fed up with her selfishness, and stopped calling and returning her calls and the next thing I knew it was years. We ran into each other in Petsmart back in September and it was like no time had passed at all, it felt so right to be friends again. Now, at the present moment I am feeling differently. It will probably pass though. She means well, but has such a strong negativity about her at times. I am just trying to stay quiet, because I don't want to make a huge thing out of it. And I don't want her getting too upset, she has to take care of her health more than ever right now.<br><br><br><br>
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I wouldn't continue to talk to this "friend" honestly. I know that sounds harsh, but if she's being intentionally inconsiderate this way, you don't need her around. Good for you for being resilient.
 

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It sounds like she's mostly just thoughtless. That's a generous interpretation, but you know her best, and if she's being purposefully cruel, then I'd stop taking her calls. If she's just being thoughtless, though, that can either just mean telling her when she's being thoughtless, or deciding you don't want to deal with that anymore.
 

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I think that your girlfriend should definitley choose vegetarianism...<br><br><br><br>
wait, this isn't what this is about, is it?
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>froggythefrog</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I wouldn't continue to talk to this "friend" honestly. I know that sounds harsh, but if she's being intentionally inconsiderate this way, you don't need her around. Good for you for being resilient.</div>
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I second this opinion. It also seems from what you have said that you already know the answer--have faith in your instincts.
 
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