What age did you move out?

CountessKerouac · Aug 23, 2006

I am at the point where I just cannot wait to move out of my house. I just turned 20 (today actually! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/broccoli.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":bobo:">) and I'll be graduating college in two years and by then I will be 22. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year next month. When I graduate I want to move out of my house and either 1) live with my bf and be engaged, or 2) live by myself. I found numerous apartments that cost around 700-850 dollars a month...which is so not bad. Comcast charges 100 dollars a month for a triple pack of phone, internet cable, and tv cable. Food would be about 300 dollars a month or less. Add 400 for other miscellanous expenses...that is around 1700 dollars a month. Therefore, I would have to make 400 dollars a week to live totally on my own. If my bf and I (or a roommate and I) both made about 300 dollars a week after college...I see no reason why I would not be able to move out. 
I have furniture, plates, microwave, etc. Yet, my mom always threatens me and tells me that if I ever (EVER) move out before I get married, that she will be angry with me forever and never pay for my wedding. She is dead set against me living with my boyfriend during my final year of college or anytime after. But, the way my bf's dad sees it is that he will be a grown man and can do what he wants. My roommate's parents feel the same way. Yet, my parents refuse to ever let me go and live my own life. And even if my plans do not happen...they should at least support me in trying. So...at what age did you move out of your house? 
How much did you make? 
Did you live with a SO? 
Did your parents support you or forbid you?

Chrysalis · Aug 23, 2006

So...at what age did you move out of your house? 
I was 20. How much did you make? 
I'd rather not disclose that, considering how I'm a student and uhh yeah I think that gives you a good idea of whta I make (not enough). Did you live with a SO? 
I never have. Did your parents support you or forbid you? 
They supported me. I grew up in a small town, so they WANTED me to move away and do something with my life...there was very little for me to do unless I moved away. And my first year on my own I was actually living on campus, so they were very comfortable with that idea. They were also comfortable with me moving in with roomies afterwards (although they weren't so keen on "letting" me live with a guy...not a boyfriend, but a guy). I am living with a guy now anyway, despite their objections. They are okay with it now. I've never lived with a boyfriend but if I wanted to I don't reallyc are whta they think. They can't stop me from doing what I want to do. Haha. 
And, sorry to hear your parents are being unsupportive. My parents were very unhappy to hear that I would not be returning home to them this summer like all my other Uni friends do with their parents during the summer. It was unpleasant to deal with but they have finally accepted the fact that I am happier here and I am not budging, lol.

gaya · Aug 23, 2006

I think you should be able to live alone at least once in your life. If you plan on getting married in the near future (next 5 years or so) you might never have the chance again. I say go for it but maybe it would be nice if you were to respect your mom's wishes about living with your bf. Me? I didn't care what my parents thought and was a total hellion. So...at what age did you move out of your house? I was out of my folks house around 15 or 16 and living and working on my own 16 or 17. How much did you make? 7.50/hr! lol but it was the late 80's and my rent was only 200/mo with a roommate. I floundered many times. Did you live with a SO? Not for a couple of years. Did your parents support you or forbid you? Well, they couldn't forbid me and they didn't really support me either. After my year stay out of state I went home. I was there for a month or so and couldn't stand jersey. So, I got in my car one friday night and drove across the country. I called my mom from ohio to let her know what I was doing. I doubt my tale is average so it's probably of no use to you. had a good time tho <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="

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GhostUser · Aug 23, 2006

I moved out of the house at 18 when I started college. 
I work part-time while in school. 
I have been living with my fiance since I moved. 
My mom supported us in our decision. 
Hopefully your parents will soon realize that you're old enough to make your own decisions and that they should be a little more supportive. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="

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synergy · Aug 23, 2006

So...at what age did you move out of your house? 
I was 19. How much did you make? 
Prob. about 900 bucks a month. Did you live with a SO? 
Yup- for 2.5 years Did your parents support you or forbid you? 
Well, they weren't exactly thrilled, and my grandma cried and said I would get pregnant and drop out of college, but, they got used to it pretty quickly. 
I personally think your mom is being a little selfish in wanting you to stay at home until your married and making threats against you. 
Moving out is fantastic, and I also think that everyone should live alone (without an SO or other family) at some point in their lives as well. 
Good luck.

Dirty Martini · Aug 23, 2006

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Yet, my mom always threatens me and tells me that if I ever (EVER) move out before I get married, that she will be angry with me forever and never pay for my wedding. She is dead set against me living with my boyfriend during my final year of college or anytime after. But, the way my bf's dad sees it is that he will be a grown man and can do what he wants. My roommate's parents feel the same way. Yet, my parents refuse to ever let me go and live my own life. And even if my plans do not happen...they should at least support me in trying.</div>
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Repeat after me: 
"I'm 20, my parents do not own me 
I'm 20, my parents do not own me 
I'm 20, my parents do not own me" 
If your mom doesn't pay for your wedding, so what? Will that ruin your life? 
You're allowing your mom to bribe you into certain behaviors. Part of being an adult is telling your parents that you are your own person, you'll make your own decisions, and they have to live with it. 
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17 (nearly 18) 
$5.75/hour, 24 hours/week 
No, I lived in the dorms 
Supported me.

troub · Aug 23, 2006

So...at what age did you move out of your house? 
22. (24 now) How much did you make? 
$8.40/hr 40h/week Did you live with a SO? 
no. Got an apartment with my best friend. Did your parents support you or forbid you? 
In moving? My mom accepted my choice to move out but she didn't think i was ready.

mayuko · Aug 23, 2006

i was 18 when i first moved out, went off to college. left there, and couldn't stand the idea of living at home again, so i hopped around a bit. i big-time moved when i was 19, clear across the country. i didn't live with an SO (never have) and i wasn't making squat for awhile. it's been a hell of a struggle, but i've managed to avoid homelessness for 14 months. i've hit some troubles (financially and otherwise) so i'm going back for a bit, but hell if i could make it that long on nothing, [end of sentence here]. my mom didn't forbid me to go.. of course she supported me going to college, and it's not like she was thrilled about me dropping out and moving across the country, but she's aware i'm my own person. your mom sounds way out of line. 
and now my ramble's done.

Bits · Aug 23, 2006

I'm 18 & in the process of moving out with my BF <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="

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karenlovessnow · Aug 23, 2006

So...at what age did you move out of your house?I was 22...got married How much did you make? 
It's pretty irrelevant since it was 32 years ago! Probably around $9,000 a year! Did you live with a SO? 
yes, husband Did your parents support you or forbid you? 
Supported. It's what you did back then. 
It probably makes more sense for me to tell about my kids. My oldest moved out at 29. I didn't mind because she was saving money so that she could move out. She ended up buying a co-op so I was glad to help by letting her live home. My middle child moved out at 28 and lived with fiance and they rent. My son moved out at 24. He also rents and shares with two other people. As the parent I supported all three. I don't think it's the best thing for my son because he has an hour commute to work, car payment, insurance, and with the rent and utilities it's a struggle. I hate to see him get into financial trouble even though I know it's a good learning experience for him to be on his own. I would rather him come home, save some money and then move out in a few years and buy something the way Heather did. But it's his decision, I don't tell my kids what to do. Plus at my house he has a room in the basement with his own entrance so he could come and go as he pleased. I hardly ever saw him when he was home anyway! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="

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Kiz · Aug 23, 2006

So...at what age did you move out of your house? 
I was 16. How much did you make? 
Enough to fill my belly and pay the rent. Barely. Did you live with a SO? 
No, never. Did your parents support you or forbid you? 
They did not want me to go, no. But once I left (I moved thousands of miles and a few states away) they did support me emotionally and would, on occassion, send me money. They thought I was too young to be living on my own but since I was doing ok at it they sought to help me better the life I was choosing to live. 
I probably left home too young but really, once you hit 18 you are legally and morally your own person. At 21 definately. It's two years away and by then you'll be an entrenched adult. [/QUOTE]

Black Heart · Aug 23, 2006

So...at what age did you move out of your house? 
When I went to university at 18, I lived in that city in term time but at home during vacations. 
I properly moved out and supported myself when I graduated, aged 23. How much did you make? 
£850 a month, roughly $1600 Did you live with a SO? 
Yes, but then we split up and I moved in with friends. Now I live with my boyfriend and some friends. Did your parents support you or forbid you? 
Yes, they fully support me. It's expected here that you don't live at home while at uni and that you move out after that.

spectrum42 · Aug 23, 2006

So...at what age did you move out of your house? 
18 How much did you make? 
Don't remember. Just a little more than needed for rent, food, utilities and car expenses. Did you live with a SO? 
No. I lived with a roomates and when I could afford it, I moved into a place by myself. I think living with and SO would have put stress on the relationship and on me, wondering abut a breakup and leases, etc. Did your parents support you or forbid you? 
They were supportive.

GhostUser · Aug 23, 2006

I was 17 making minimum wage at $3.45 an hour. Lived in an efficiency apartment in a bad neighborhood with mice and roaches. Walked to my factory job every day. I got my GED not long after, snagged an office job doing filing and let them pay for part of my college tuition. Now I own my second house and am not doing so bad if I do say so myself.

ElliottsMom · Aug 23, 2006

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by CountessKerouac <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a> So...at what age did you move out of your house? 
How much did you make? 
Did you live with a SO? 
Did your parents support you or forbid you?</div>
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-I had just turned 18 
-I made about $2000.00 a month while going to school 
-I lived with the roommate from Hades for about a year, but she moved out quickly (after not telling me and stealing half my stuff but I won't get into that) 
-My parents practically pushed me out the door. I guess thats supportive.

karenlovessnow · Aug 23, 2006

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I was 17 making minimum wage at $3.45 an hour. Lived in an efficiency apartment in a bad neighborhood with mice and roaches. Walked to my factory job every day. I got my GED not long after, snagged an office job doing filing and let them pay for part of my college tuition. Now I own my second house and am not doing so bad if I do say so myself.</div>
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I love these kinds of stories! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="

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MorningCalm · Aug 23, 2006

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Left home at 17 and moved in with my sister 1,000 miles away. 
Sister got married when I was 20, so I moved in with friends. 
Moved halfway around the world at the ripe old age of 21, and been wholly on my own ever since. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="

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Worked +/-30 hours a week for "student wage" (80 percent of minimum wage?) when I first moved out. Had an academic scholarship that covered half tuition, so that helped. <div class="quote-container">Quote:
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Supported me as long as I was in college. They weren't too happy the first time I took a job in Korea, though. ...

Elena99 · Aug 23, 2006

You know, I heard something a little like that from my mother, except toned down a lot. When I was 16 or so, my older sister moved in with her boyfriend (they ended up together for 6 years, and then split). I had a boyfriend at the time, so my mother was telling me how upset she was that Sarah had moved in with her boyfriend, and how she hoped that I would not do that, etc etc. 
After a while, she got used to it. Maybe your mother would to, maybe not. 
Anyway: So...at what age did you move out of your house? I moved out at 17 for University, and came back home for the summers. Then I tried to move out for good at 22, came back at 24, and then I'm moved out again now at 24 (just recently, me and my husband were living with family for quite a while). How much did you make? Well, my parents were paying for rent and food while I was in University, so I just had a parttime job making maybe 600 a month. Now, however, I make 1200 a month and my husband makes over twice that. Our 2-bedroom is also cheaper than the prices you were saying. Did you live with a SO? I lived with my husband for a while before getting married. We would have moved in together sooner if we hadn't lived in different countries and didn't have to go through VISAs, etc. I really recommend living with someone before you get married. It would really, really suck to get surprised. "Oh, he leaves his dirty socks everywhere. And he's a jerk in the mornings when I wake him up. And he leaves the soymilk on the table." etc etc. I'm not saying that you don't know your guy well enough, but there are things that you don't learn until after you've lived with someone. Don't let your mother make this decision for you (or me, for that matter). If she decides to be difficult and not pay for the wedding, you could deal with it some other way. Heck, you don't even have to get married unless you want to. Did your parents support you or forbid you? By that time, yes. At first when I was going out with "some guy in the states" and was flying there from time to time, and they hadn't met him yet, they were very antsy. But by the time I moved there, they were just fine with it. They were also fine when we both moved up here, and then moved out to our apartment, but we were married for over a year by then. (It's a complicated situation, sorry.)

Marie · Aug 23, 2006

19 
Don't remember. 
Not for about a year. 
Neither. 
There.

meatless · Aug 23, 2006

I had just turned 19. I moved out with Mr. Meatless and never went back. We were both cooks at Denny's at the time, and it was during a year off I took between high school and university to make money. I was a student for four years afterwards while he worked at a call centre. 
Once I moved out I had no financial ties whatsoever with my family (same with him) and so they don't control any aspect of our lives. I paid my own way through university, we lived very very frugally, and because of that managed to buy a house less than a year after I finished. 
Our relationships with our parents are on our terms and that's how I like it. They didn't care when I moved out, but even if they had have cared it wouldn't have mattered since they had no financial strings tied to me.

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