[jessickah]

okay, this is sickening, but some teenager from my old neighborhood slayed a baby cow and chickens (we live in an area close to farms) and when I heard the story I was VERY PO'd and upset, but my friend who raves about how good meat is and how she doesnt care about the animals because it just tastes soooo good

was like, "OH MY GOD, I CANT BELIEVE HE WOULD KILL A BABY COW THAT IS SO SICK LIKE OH MY GOD....THAT'S SO MESSED UP!"

and I just blurted, "AWE well so is your breakfast, lunch, and dinner!"

she is so mad at me...
I'm normally not one to push my opinions on people (especially my friends). I feel like it would do more damage than good for the cause and my friendship.... but it just came out!

 

[Envy]

Not wrong per se, maybe a bit inconsiderate though.

 

[jessickah]

well it was just me being fed up. I think her raving about how good meat tastes and saying i can stare at her uggs is a bit inconsiderate to me.

 

[jessickah]

i guess we are equal now

 

[Forster]

Well... equal and both mad at each other.

If you value the friendship apologize and let her know that you lashed out because of all the ribbing she's been giving you about yummy meat and uggs... whatever the are, lol. And ask her to please stop with it because it bothers you and makes you angry.

 

[jessickah]

that's my problem I don't say anything I just leave it alone and I finally snap. lol. thanks for advice.

 

[Freesia]

I have found that I have snapped at people too. I know what you mean. We have to sit there with our mouths shut and put up with all these comments, and some days it just gets too much. I am trying to teach myself to leave the room instead : / though in some ways it is a good thing to tell them what you think....

 

[Almeria]

I've snapped at people too. I think Forster has good advice in suggesting to apologize and let her know that you snapped because of her picking on you about being veg and that the way she felt about the baby cow being killed is how you feel about all animals being hurt and killed.

 

[LadyMetal87]

If you tell her the things she says bothers you... and if she's a real friend she'll stop. I almost snapped today at work because my colleague insisted on telling me about eating kangaroo

 

[LedBoots]

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Originally Posted by Forster

Well... equal and both mad at each other.

If you value the friendship apologize and let her know that you lashed out because of all the ribbing she's been giving you about yummy meat and uggs... whatever the are, lol. And ask her to please stop with it because it bothers you and makes you angry.

This ^

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[LiveLifeHumane]

Yes, I think many have blurted something about before. It's hard to just sit there and listen to it. It probably wasn't worth a fight though. I would just apologize, and tell her how you feel.

 

[Hachi]

I hate when this kind of stuff happens! I love my friends dearly, but we can be so different. It's the differences that make us special. I'm sure she'll understand.

 

[AspireToInspire]

"We're not here to judge. We're here to offer you support as you come to terms with the despicable thing you've done." -Amy, The Big Bang Theory

But on a serious note: You might not have been 100% wrong in what you said but you definitely could have approached it differently.

Is this a frenemy or something? How old are you? Where I feel you were wrong is your attitude once you found out you upset your friend and "Now we're equal" is very immature. It sounds like you're both young and you say things young people do when they think they know everything and that their opinions and/or outlooks will never change. If your friend annoys you, either stand up for yourself without being passive aggressive because you have been holding this grudge about what she says or don't be friends with her.

Like it or not just like you have the right to be vegan and talk about your vegan lifestyle, she should be afforded the same common courtesy and that includes liking meat but come on, nobody likes when a baby anything is abused or killed. She also has that right, she doesn't need to earn being upset about it.

Don't bring up animal rights issues to your friends if you can't handle discussing each others opinions without getting emotional.

 

[sallyomally]

Good advice. People can drive us crazy, but don't avoid apologizing when necessary and just to be "even". My take on it is- you'll be better able to get your point across if you do, because this will more than likely open up the issue again,and you'll be able to talk without either one of you being on the defensive.

AND.... here's some advice from an old lady, sweetie. You're going to be married soon. Learn to say " I'm sorry" and PLEASE don't think you have to be "even" or you'll be in big trouble. Compromise is the number one key to a happy marriage. Not always the easy thing to do, but ,as my mom, married for 49 years before she passed away always said, ,"You can draw more flies with honey than you can with vinegar."

 

[YellowRose]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Forster

If you value the friendship apologize and let her know that you lashed out because of all the ribbing she's been giving you about yummy meat and uggs... whatever the are, lol. And ask her to please stop with it because it bothers you and makes you angry.

^ This. Exactly this. Also, please note that if she cares about you, she WILL stop pushing your buttons in that regard. If she continues to do it after you've spoken with her about it, you need to drop her, because that's utter disrespect.

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Originally Posted by AspireToInspire

Is this a frenemy or something?

That's exactly what I wondered. Some of my friends occasionally mention that meat is tasty or that they could NEVER give it up, but it's more along the lines of discussion than teasing. No one has EVER told me to stare at their leather jacket knowing that I'm against leather, and I'm somewhat appalled that your friend would tell you to stare at her Uggs. No matter what other qualities you might like about her, that is RUDE. She doesn't sound like a nice person.

I think your ultimate sentiment was correct - yeah, animal slaughter = meat and more people need to face that - but your comment painted your friend as a baby-killing monster. Even though she sounds like someone I wouldn't be able to stand, I can see why that would hurt her.