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I just posted something with the title "What to do now?" over in the Raising Vegetarian Children forum, but I'm thinking I should have posted it here, perhaps. Instead of duplicating a post here, which I'm not sure is allowed or not, I'm hoping some of you will pop on over there and read it. I've a huge dilemma regarding my husband who is a meat eater and his now apparent disgust and hatred directed towards me over something I said to my son about meat, and in turn what my son said back to his daddy! Now my husband actually thinks me and my family are trying to poison our kids against their daddy!!! Really! And he wants me to "fix it"...
 

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I read it. I'm not vegetarian for ethical reasons, but your story reminded me of another situation.<br><br>
My husband is Christian and goes to church. The kids can stay home with me or go to church with him on Sundays. One week a sunday school teacher went on a tangent that non-believers were being led astray by satan and are all going to hell. Now according to my husband's beliefs and her beliefs, they only spoke the truth. From my child's perspective, she was pretty upset and confused. If my husband has said that, I would have been livid.<br><br>
I think you have been unreasonable in your explanation. My children understand and know that meat is dead animals. Chicken is in fact dead chicken. Pork is dead pig. And beef is dead cow. They also understand that some people believe it is wrong to eat animals and some people include meat in their diet. We've given examples of people in our family and amongst our friends who believe it is wrong and people who don't. Just like our religious beliefs, we tell them what we believe.<br><br>
Are you sure you weren't trying to colour your husband in a bad light in front of your child? Because it read unnecessarily harsh for the father of your child.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Expatriated</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2981136"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I read it. I'm not vegetarian for ethical reasons, but your story reminded me of another situation.<br><br>
My husband is Christian and goes to church. The kids can stay home with me or go to church with him on Sundays. One week a sunday school teacher went on a tangent that non-believers were being led astray by satan and are all going to hell. Now according to my husband's beliefs and her beliefs, they only spoke the truth. From my child's perspective, she was pretty upset and confused. If my husband has said that, I would have been livid.<br><br>
I think you have been unreasonable in your explanation. My children understand and know that meat is dead animals. Chicken is in fact dead chicken. Pork is dead pig. And beef is dead cow. They also understand that some people believe it is wrong to eat animals and some people include meat in their diet. We've given examples of people in our family and amongst our friends who believe it is wrong and people who don't. Just like our religious beliefs, we tell them what we believe.<br><br>
Are you sure you weren't trying to colour your husband in a bad light in front of your child? Because it read unnecessarily harsh for the father of your child.</div>
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Yes I agree with you there totally, i go to church that teaches the same thing even tho I believe that non believers are lead by Satan its not my place to just individual people, its between them and God and their beliefs whatever you say it.<br><br>
I want to add here I have responded over there about this issue and I would never announce in pubic telling my children that is dead bodies because people will listen and take it like what your husband took. Instead try to figure out a plan to get a peaceful home, have each person in the family have a task during cooking , those that eat meats needs to make the meats and those that don't needs to have a task of making non animal products, so if your husband wants to make lets say sandwhiches and he wants an animal product, you need to find a still meat eater family member to make the sandwhiches while, your teaching your children you don't eat meat.<br>
Back to the Christian talk there are also something in churches that teaches from the Bible don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers in marriage and ETC. This also I am making example of Vegetarian and meat eating families , if there are some that eat meats and some that are veg then its a confusing time. However, I do hope you will get some peace in your family soon and I hope your husband settles things. You need to tell him that your not teaching your children that he is a monster, that he isn't a zombie wanting to eat people or ETC. Just take heard of what been said so far.
 

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Yes I agree with you there totally, i go to church that teaches the same thing even tho I believe that non believers are lead by Satan its not my place to just individual people, its between them and God and their beliefs whatever you say it.<br><br>
I want to add here I have responded over there about this issue and I would never announce in pubic telling my children that is dead bodies because people will listen and take it like what your husband took. Instead try to figure out a plan to get a peaceful home, have each person in the family have a task during cooking , those that eat meats needs to make the meats and those that don't needs to have a task of making non animal products, so if your husband wants to make lets say sandwhiches and he wants an animal product, you need to find a still meat eater family member to make the sandwhiches while, your teaching your children you don't eat meat.<br>
Back to the Christian talk there are also something in churches that teaches from the Bible don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers in marriage and ETC. This also I am making example of Vegetarian and meat eating families , if there are some that eat meats and some that are veg then its a confusing time. However, I do hope you will get some peace in your family soon and I hope your husband settles things. You need to tell him that your not teaching your children that he is a monster, that he isn't a zombie wanting to eat people or ETC. Just take heard of what been said so far.</div>
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I don't think it's confusing to have omnivore and vegetarian in the on house or christian and athiest in one house. As long as there's mutual respect between parents and their beliefs, it isn't a problem.
 

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I don't think it's confusing to have omnivore and vegetarian in the on house or christian and athiest in one house. As long as there's mutual respect between parents and their beliefs, it isn't a problem.</div>
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Yes I agree but some people can't control and overstep boundaries. When I went to one of the Baptist churches here I was forced to beat people over the head with the Bible and saying how sinful they are without know their situation I didn't like how I became so I changed my thinking and beliefs. I know little off topic of what she wanted to asked but wanted to explain something little.
 
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