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In consideration from the "Vegan significant other" Thread, I began to think, Is it a must for you to have a vegan (or vegetarian) roommate?

One of Papayamoon's posts got me thinking about it because when you're putting your things into a household, every decision has a reason behind it. How does that go with roommates? I'm not talking about family, we don't have a choice behind them, but when you are *choosing* who to live with, is that a requirement?

It will be from now on, for me. I didn't realize what a problem it really was until recently, as I didn't think it would be a problem at all living with an omni.
 

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I think at this point in my life yes, I dont know 5-10 years ago.
 

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My roommates eat meat. Before I lived with them, I had tried to find someone who was vegetarian as well, but it just didn't work out. Sometimes you have to sacrifice stuff like that in order to get cheap rent/desirable living location.

Thankfully, my roommates right now don't really cook too much meat in the house but when they do it smells pretty bad... we all have our own separate dishes and everything so it works out well.

I definitely don't think that when I stop living with my current roommates that I could live with someone who ate more meat than they do right now. I could live with a meat eater again, but I would prefer not to.
 

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This is actually a very current topic for me
My roommate isn't a vegetarian, but for the past 3 years we lived together it was never a real issue. she pretty much never had meat in the house (unless we were ordering things delivered). Well, I wasn't a vegetarian all those years. I was pescatarian for the most, but we didn't have much fish in the house either

Now it has changed a bit. Her boyfriend moved in with us and he is a huge meat eater. So we have steaks, bacon in the fridge and lots of McDonalds bags around the house. But I must say it doesn't bother me that much. Like yeah, when I look in the fridge and see bacon i think "ugh...". But I am happy that when he cooks he makes sure to always have vegetarian stuff for me and meat on the side for him and my other friend. It feels the same to me as having friends who don't live with me but eat meat or going to my parents and have them have meat on the table. As long as they are not being annoying about it, I can deal with that. It is different than with a boyfriend because I want to agree with a guy I have a serious relationship on pretty much everything that matters to me, with friends I am just into mutual interests and respect

Note: although I must say that when we move apart, If I would still want to have a roommate I will most likely look in the veg ads rfor veg*n roommates. I think it would be easier and it is different if those roomates aren't also my best friends
 

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It would be nice, but it's not a requirement for me. I like being a good influence on people
 

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I think it depends how they are. If they wash their dishes well and are considerate and dont cook heaps and heaps of meat it can be ok. But it can be a nightmare if they are not like this.
 

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as far as a roommate, i could go with either, i suppose, as long as the other person really respected my choices and my space.

the situation i'm in till the first of next month is terrible. it's all i can do to keep from cracking his head. he's an obnoxious spoiled drunk whose father is very wealthy, but he himself can't wipe his own ass.

i had a friend of mine (another traveling nurse) move in here with us in this 3 bedroom house, and he lived here a month but left because of this drunken idiot's noise and general inconsiderate behavior. when he left, mr. drunk (who has this house only because of daddy) agreed to refund his deposit, but tried to keep it. so i deducted it from my rent, payed him the balance and gave my friend his deposit back. mr. drunk went ballistic at my friend because he's afraid of me. my friend had a key made because mr. drunk of course didn't have the 2 dollars to buy him a key. anyway, mr. drunk was threatening my friend over the key, so my friend broke the key in half and i gave the two pieces of the key to mr. drunk, who was as you guessed, drunk. this was last night. mr. drunk went wild because he didn't get a key he could use (though he didn't pay for it).

my friend smokes a bit of pot and smoked some with mr. drunk, who is on probation for his 3rd dui. now mr. drunk wants to try to get my friend in trouble at work because he smoked pot with him. it's been a fiasco and i finally FIRMLY told him last night i was sick of this and he needed to let it go right this instant. today, mr. drunk said all as cool.

i am so looking forward to loading my elliptical on my truck and making a beeline to my house in florida! obviously, mr. drunk isn't going to have my deposit money to refund because he has blown it putting an expensive stereo system in his monster truck. fortunately, i have a contingency plan. he'll be pissed when he figures it all out
. by the time he does, i'll be in florida, laughing all the way.

i'm not going to kick his ass, though i'd sure like to. it's not worth it for me to fight this idiot. i just don't want to know him. this has been a roommate disaster.
 

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It would be nice, because you could take turns cooking for the day and share an interest in veg*n issues, topics, and special foods like substitutes. However, I don't think it's a must, an omni roommate just has to respect your choice and not try to get you to eat meat or be rude about your choice. I'd probably look for a veg*n roommate first, and prefer having one, but it's not completely necessary for me. It's different in an actual relationship like marriage, because it's a closer, more personal relationship and you're going to be living with this person for the rest of your life, and I think there's potentionally a closer bond to be created in a relationship with two veg*ns because of the similar interests and values factor.
 

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I don't mind.

Actually, considering my situation now there's probably only going to be one person who I will share a house with in the next few years (my best friend) and he's a chef.. And he can cook amazing veg*n food and would quite happily cook meals for me..
And he will have no issues with keep utensils etc separate considering that his kitchen at work keeps the vegetarian food in a completely separate part of the kitchen and all the utensils etc that are for vegetarian food are colour-coded with blue (blue handled knives for example). The non-veggie stuff is red. Even the vegetables that are going in the meat dishes are prepared in the vegetarian part of the kitchen and then carried over to the meat area.. It's awesome
Oh and the gloves are different colours as well.. Blue gloves for veggie area.. Normal coloured gloves for meat area..
And because I know him very well.. He would probably have a separate fridge for his meat and stuff just because that's what he is like...

So yeah.. I would be sorted if it turns out that we can live together..

But the likelihood is that I will end up with my own place once I move out of home..
 

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I wish I had the luxury to pick and choose who I live with. I've lived with people whose meat-eating was the least of my issues with them in the past.

I miss living in an all-vegetarian house, though. Sadly, I can't see it ever happening again. I can't afford to live on my own for the next few years and then I'll probably move in with my better half, who isn't vegan.
 

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It would be nice, but it's not a requirement for me. I like being a good influence on people
right on
 

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It would be nice, but it's not a requirement for me. I like being a good influence on people
That's and awesome point!

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as far as a roommate, i could go with either, i suppose, as long as the other person really respected my choices and my space.

the situation i'm in till the first of next month is terrible. it's all i can do to keep from cracking his head. he's an obnoxious spoiled drunk whose father is very wealthy, but he himself can't wipe his own ass.

i had a friend of mine (another traveling nurse) move in here with us in this 3 bedroom house, and he lived here a month but left because of this drunken idiot's noise and general inconsiderate behavior. when he left, mr. drunk (who has this house only because of daddy) agreed to refund his deposit, but tried to keep it. so i deducted it from my rent, payed him the balance and gave my friend his deposit back. mr. drunk went ballistic at my friend because he's afraid of me. my friend had a key made because mr. drunk of course didn't have the 2 dollars to buy him a key. anyway, mr. drunk was threatening my friend over the key, so my friend broke the key in half and i gave the two pieces of the key to mr. drunk, who was as you guessed, drunk. this was last night. mr. drunk went wild because he didn't get a key he could use (though he didn't pay for it).

my friend smokes a bit of pot and smoked some with mr. drunk, who is on probation for his 3rd dui. now mr. drunk wants to try to get my friend in trouble at work because he smoked pot with him. it's been a fiasco and i finally FIRMLY told him last night i was sick of this and he needed to let it go right this instant. today, mr. drunk said all as cool.

i am so looking forward to loading my elliptical on my truck and making a beeline to my house in florida! obviously, mr. drunk isn't going to have my deposit money to refund because he has blown it putting an expensive stereo system in his monster truck. fortunately, i have a contingency plan. he'll be pissed when he figures it all out
. by the time he does, i'll be in florida, laughing all the way.

i'm not going to kick his ass, though i'd sure like to. it's not worth it for me to fight this idiot. i just don't want to know him. this has been a roommate disaster.
You make me not want to ***** about my roommate, because thats so far far worse.
 

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Definitely not a requirement. Mine isn't, though he slowly started eating healthier since we moved in together.
 

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If I am in a position to be choosy then they would have to be, yes. I would hate to live with a meat-eater again but in desperate times I would cope with it.
 

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this is the first time i've lived with anyone for years, and it was only for a 3 month contract. if there is a next time, i'm going to bite the bullet and rent a small apartment by myself. i haven't wanted to beat anyone up like this in a long time, but i find myself feeling aggressive around him. that's not cool, and i don't want to do that.
 

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Definitely not a requirement for me. After being vegetarian and near-vegan for about three years now, the smell of meat cooking or the sight of it does not really bother me. It does a little, but not nearly to the extent that I thought it would have by this point.

Obviously, I would feel very grateful if I ever entered into a vegan roommate situation. But to me I'm viewing it as more of a bonus than something that I would expect and need. But since I plan on living in Seattle and/or Bellingham for the foreseeable future, my odds do go up a bit.


Now a significant other, not sure yet (I'm single), but as far as a roommate goes I'm pretty open minded right now. As long as they were respectful.

But I am hoping to get my own apartment in the near future and make that place 100 percent vegetarian and as near-vegan as possible.
 

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Definitely not a requirement for me. After being vegetarian and near-vegan for about three years now, the smell of meat cooking or the sight of it does not really bother me. It does a little, but not nearly to the extent that I thought it would have by this point.

Obviously, I would feel very grateful if I ever entered into a vegan roommate situation. But to me I'm viewing it as more of a bonus than something that I would expect and need. But since I plan on living in Seattle and/or Bellingham for the foreseeable future, my odds do go up a bit.


Now a significant other, not sure yet (I'm single), but as far as a roommate goes I'm pretty open minded right now. As long as they were respectful.

But I am hoping to get my own apartment in the near future and make that place 100 percent vegetarian and as near-vegan as possible.
Are you really? I'm in Bellingham...
 

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I hope I never find myself back in a position where I have to share an apartment or house with a stranger(s) but if I did, I don't think I could be picky about whether they were vegan or not, my main problem would be finding someone compatible with my lifestyle. Actually, it freaks me out having to think about sharing with someone who I might be the total opposite of - oh the horror! I hate all that crap.
 
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