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I don't really know if this is in the right section or not....<br><br>
But I'm a vegan, he is not...at first I was like, "It doesn't matter that you're a meat eater, etc." When in actuality it is a HUGE problem. I don't know how to tell him without breaking his heart when he's been talking with me about moving in together, marriage, babies, etc...like, I really would prefer dating another vegan. He really is nothing I have on my checklist for things I like in a person, and similarities. There's only one thing we have in common, we're nerds, that's really it. I guess sports too..<br><br>
But I would love someone who's a vegan, a runner, hiker, bicyclist, loves to play soccer and stuff like that. And yeah, maybe nerd out and play some games once in a while. But the whole vegan thing is HUGE for me. It's one of the biggest parts of my life. So it's just hard, I was with an omnivore before, and I converted back to eating meat myself. And that's when I felt the WORST! I know I don't have to convert for anyone, but I did it out of love before, never again will I go back to being an omnivore. I will not feel like crap everyday for anyone.<br><br>
And another point, when we sit down at night for dinner[if and when we live together], we'll be eating two completely different meals. That to me just doesn't sound...nice or anything. I just don't know what to do.<br><br>
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Im veggie slowly becoming vegan. I feel its a huge part of who I am.<br>
I live with and have been with an omni for a long time and its no big deal to me. He fully supported my choices so I would feel crappy turning round and saying 'youre dumped because of your choices'<br>
80% of the time we eat the same food, he loves the vegan food I cook, and really only eats meat that was left over from dinner at his parents.<br>
Perhaps in time he will cut it out all together who knows.<br><br>
The point is do you actually want someone who is vegan, who does all the things you listed, but might treat you badly...or are you willing to make a relationship work with some who treats you well but eats meat...
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>.Goth-Alice.</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2916148"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
The point is do you actually want someone who is vegan, who does all the things you listed, but might treat you badly...or are you willing to make a relationship work with some who treats you well but eats meat...</div>
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Or wait to have it all, even though this means waiting anywhere from a month to five years or more. Perhaps the wait will be worth it, to be able to look at the plate on the other side of the table and know that it isn't the body of some dead animal, to have the assurance that if you were to die your spouse would raise your kids in the same way.<br><br>
Sometimes I think about even if a non-vegan spouse decided to allow our kids to be vegan, if something happened to me, would I have the assurance that she wouldn't start feeding them hamburgers now that I wasn't there to complain?
 

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If you dont want to be with him, break up with him before he gets more emotionally invested and hurts more.
 

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Sometimes I think about even if a non-vegan spouse decided to allow our kids to be vegan, if something happened to me, would I have the assurance that she wouldn't start feeding them hamburgers now that I wasn't there to complain?</div>
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Thats really more about the person. I can say with hand on my heart than my partner, omni as he is, would respect my choice to raise children veg*n whether I was around or not.
 

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It sounds like you're really not interested in him at all even if he was a vegan since you said he meets nothing on your checklist. If he was a vegan, would you really let everything else slide? You should probably break up before he gets more attached to you.
 

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Big deal !<br>
I feel you, I am vegetarian and my boyfriend is omnivore. It's difficult for him (he want me omnivore but It's impossible for me to eat meat, he don't understand), and now for me. Because animals are important for me so It's hurt me to see him eat meat.<br><br>
But I think you have to listen to your heart.<br>
Good luck.
 

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sounds like this has little to do with him being omni. tbh.</div>
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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"> I agree. If you were head over heels crazy about him you'd most likely want to make it work and come to an understanding about your dietary/philosophical differences.<br><br>
As it is you seem pretty "meh" about the guy anyway, but it sounds like he is really in to you. If he's talking about marriage and babies and you aren't interested at all I think you've really got to break up with him before things get even further.
 

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It sounds like you're really not interested in him at all even if he was a vegan since you said he meets nothing on your checklist. If he was a vegan, would you really let everything else slide? You should probably break up before he gets more attached to you.</div>
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sounds like this has little to do with him being omni. tbh.</div>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Werewolf Girl</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2916390"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"> I agree. If you were head over heels crazy about him you'd most likely want to make it work and come to an understanding about your dietary/philosophical differences.<br><br>
As it is you seem pretty "meh" about the guy anyway, but it sounds like he is really in to you. If he's talking about marriage and babies and you aren't interested at all I think you've really got to break up with him before things get even further.</div>
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All of this.
 

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I'm married to an omnivore. We're both completely cool with it. We don't eat two separate dinners -- I cook for both of us and he's completely fine with that, he loves eating my food <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> He's also agreed that if we ever changed our minds and had kids (which we're actually not planning to), he'd be fine with raising them vegan, at least until they were old enough to choose for themselves.<br><br>
So it can work. That said, I can COMPLETELY understand your feelings, and I've said on this forum before that as much as I love my husband, if I ever found myself single and looking, I'd be looking for a vegan.<br><br>
I also agree with the others that it honestly seems like you're not that into him anyway. Sounds like you don't feel you have much in common.<br><br>
I think it sounds like you need to end it, not necessarily because he's an omnivore, but because it's not working for you.
 

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I am married to a Omni and he is supportive me getting slowly into Veg living. I still cook for now for everything, I put a buffet style meal on the counter and whomever wants something I cook they can have it for the meals.<br>
I agree if you don't feel safe with this guy then end the relationship however, if you have some attachment to him that you are not aware of then work tings out. Tell him to slow down with the marriage and babies talk.
 

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I agree with everyone else that it doesn't sound like you like this guy anyway - vegan or not.<br><br>
Vegan + omni relationships can absolutely work. You don't have to cook seperate meals - it depends on the two of you, my boyfriend and I eat the same (vegan) meal 95% of the time - and he loves all the food I cook, even though he's omni. The fact that one of us is vegan and one isn't really isn't an issue at all between us - because he's so respectful of my choices.<br><br>
I wouldn't limit yourself to one "type" of guy, or a "checklist" of what you want - because I know lots of people whose partners wouldn't have made it if they did, but it often turns out that you miss what's really important when you try to formulate what you want in a partner. I would have said I wanted a vegan partner if asked, and that it was <i>really</i> important - but now I'm with an omni and I love him to bits, and even if he <i>was</i> vegan I wouldn't love him any differently at all.<br><br>
That said, it really doesn't sound like you like this guy much at all, and it sounds like he thinks it's really serious. I think he needs to know where he stands with you, before he gets carried away, and hurt if it doesn't work out.
 

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I think, I agree too with everyone else that it doesn't sound like you like this guy anyway - vegan or not.<br><br>
For me, I think it's because my boyfriend's mother hate me because I am vegetarian, I study law (I don't understand because I love it and I am in the best university of law in my country, I think it's a good thing but she don't think the same), I want to go in USA for study in Columbia University (in New York) or Cornell University (but it's not yet) and I want to live in Los Angeles. So it's for a lot of reasons. And my boyfriend don't believe me and he believe her... I don't know what's wrong with her...
 

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I think, if you're happy, you should drop your checklist entirely. If you're not happy, which I suspect you're not, because you've asked this, then you know what you have to do. If you don't love him as he is, don't stay with him hoping that he'll change.<br><br>
Regarding vegans dating omnivores, I find it works pretty well for me. My Anthony has no problem eating vegan or mostly vegan meals (although his mom did keep slipping him sausages when I wasn't looking, last time we visited).
 
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