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Ok, I had,..have "ex" issues (long, complicated and boring) but there is a man I like, and who I have liked for quite a while now (roughly a 2 years) and I ..don't know what to do.<br><br>
We are both attracted to each other, but for the time we have known each other we haven't really got it together because we both had issues to be resolved with other partners. However we are always teasing each other, dropping hints etc, so I believe there is something there which could be built on.<br><br>
Anyway, the other day I emailed him and I asked him if he'd be interested in giving things a shot between us when I got home from Japan and he said "yes I would" ("good good" I'm thinking) "If it's appropriate for both of us" - this is where I crash. I don't know if I'm reading too much, or not enough into it.<br><br>
I know we would have to talk about it seriously, but now I'm wondering if he isn't interested at all.<br><br>
I'm so tired at the moment and I cannot work out what to read into it, what to do, what to feel etc.<br><br>
Blimey this is garbled..sorry people. Just needed to vent. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/bigcry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":cry:">
 

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Hey! Stop that! This sounds like good news! I think it's one of those "getting what you wish for syndromes"! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> You are just feeling the pressure and possibly some insecurity -- 100 % normal and understandable. DON'T "read" anything into anything.<br><br><br><br>
Kudos to you for having the guts to say something first! Go, Sistah! Hehe : D<br><br>
Just take it as it comes and enjoy! Do not foil it before it happens with pointless "what ifs" and useless worry. Just relax. Plus if you're in worry-anxious mode, you're not going to come off as yourself! Be fair to yourself.<br><br><br><br>
You also aren't considering that *you* may not be interested after this starts. What if he doesn't turn out to be the "end all" of what you've imagined? Don't put the pressure of your expectaions on him, that wouldn't be fair. Let him reveal himself to you and you, him in a natural way.<br><br>
Ooh, sounds exciting! Good luck! And STOP WORRYING! You should be happy this is finally happening! : )<br><br><br><br>
~~~~~~good vibes~~~~~~ sending Schoska's way!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~<br><br>
Should I chant too? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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I think by saying "if it's appropriate for both of us," he's giving either of you an out if it doesn't work out.<br><br><br><br>
It sounds like good news to me. Go for it!
 

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You sound like my twin sister.<br><br>
He said yes, if it's appropiate for both of you. That's an awesome response. He's taking you seriously, he gave you an honest answer based in reality. How would you have felt had he said "yes, let's fall madly in love when you get back from Japan"?<br><br>
That would be goofy, and sound like a fantasy.<br><br>
Just relax, and let it unfold. I'm sure it will be great.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":love:"><br><br>
*looks embarrased* I really need to stop stressing so much... I thought I might have been being silly, but then I decided that it was too good to be true.<br><br>
I feel better though, thank you sooooo much lovely people..<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> It'd be great if it did work, ...fingers crossed eh?
 

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Yeah, I think you need to relax. Lower your expectation of it has to be all or nothing. When we obsess over all the tiny details (what we may or may not be reading into something that might or might not be), we loose out on what's real and amazing in the here and now. So don't wait, live. And hopefully he'll do the same and both of you may or may not have something very grand to explore when he gets back.<br><br><br><br>
Nothing in life is a certainty. (don't I sound negative). The trick is, being aware of that, and still willing to dive right in with your eyes open. Good luck!<br><br><br><br>
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