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so today, i tried talking to my parents about becoming a LO. that didn't go so well. they think that i'm not going to get enough of the nutrients i need etc. i don't know where to go from here. they are not open minded about it at all, my dad pretty much just tuned me out and watched the tv.

i really think my parents are against me going LO and it upsets me majorly.

where do i go from here?
 

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Be strong. My mom did the same thing. Do your research. Show them that you've thought it through (You have, right?). Show them VeggieBoards. Check out some veggie nutrition books. Read up on-line. Help them shop and cook. I'm assuming you still live at home. From my personal experience you can get them to relax and even encourage you if you educate yourself and don't try to get them to do everything for you. Make sure whoever cooks isn't cooking two meals. That gets old really fast.

Have faith, it will get better.

Congratulations on your decision!

Rebbecca
 

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I always think its sad if a parent doesn't at least try to show some support in what they're children are interested in. But to tune you out and just watch tv.....geez.

Keep doing what you think is right. In the end that's all that matters.
 

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I'm so sorry to hear that. I too would reccomend reading books. I just started reading the Becoming Vegetarian for Dummies book. I really like it so far. Maybe you could find some statistics on the lower incidence of many cancers and other diseases in veg*ans vs omnis? Let us know how things go.
 

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I usually recommend the book "Becoming Vegetarian" by Melina and Davis. Show them you're serious and you know how to make the transition in a healthy manner, then just refuse to eat meat, and they'll just have to accept it.

--Fromper

 

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Read "Becoming Vegetarian" by Melina and Davis. I'm half through it right now and I feel very informed XD If you do your research and you can answer any questions they have about nutrients and how you'll get them, then they have no reason to be against you.

My mom, though hesitant at first, has started to really respect me when she realized how serious I was and how I had put effort into knowing what I needed to do to be healthy. If they stop believing it's just a phase, I'm sure they'll support you more =D (Well, hopefully XD)
 

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I bet this happened to alot of people .... It happened to me and it really upset me.. but i suck by what i believed in and after awail they knew that this wasnt something i wasn't going to give up on and wasnt just a faze i was going through...

They now buy me quorn and well dont agree with it but they are dealing with it. Iam thinking of turning vegan so i dont know how they will take that but at the end of the day just stick with it and they will soon understand that this is something you want to do.

 

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I bet this happened to alot of people .... It happened to me and it really upset me.. but i stuck by what i believed in and after awail they knew that this wasnt something i wasn't going to give up on and wasnt just a faze i was going through...

They now buy me quorn and well dont agree with it but they are dealing with it. Iam thinking of turning vegan so i dont know how they will take that but at the end of the day just stick with it and they will soon understand that this is something you want to do.

 

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Everyone's given good advice so I won't say much. Just be as mature and responsible as you can about it, like working with the food you've got, researching and learning to cook your own meals, and they should come round. My parents were really funny about me become vegan but I started making all my own meals and buying things like soymilk and now they're getting quite into it.
 

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I am still having trouble with my family too, I think it is quite normal though because they don't know enough about going veggie. My mom still makes comments like "Well we arent eating tofu for Thanksgiving so I guess I will have to have dinner at my house." And for Easter today, she tells me to bring tofu lol for me to eat. I guess I am just used to it by now. They will eventually get used to the idea, but I agree educate yourself as much as you can so you can answer all the questions they might have about your lifestyle change
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thanks for all of the help :]

i actually think they are coming around on the whole idea.

like today at lunch, mind you i haven't offically become LO yet i have to run it by one more parent, my dad said, "you know that quiche has bacon in it right?"

and i was really surprised because he seemed opposed to the whole idea. but he said that it was my body and not theirs. i was like YES! he's coming around!!!
 

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I think this seems to happen with most teens going vegetarian, I went veg when I was 16, my mother was not pleased. Make sure you are VERY informed on vegetarianism, make sure you have a variety of reasons and info memorized in cause of questioning. Be strong and be willing to help cook and shop. Do not, I repeat do not let your diet create extra work for your mother or father if they are the cooks of the house. I did this for more then a year and have only recently started cooking and shopping for myself, this is going over A LOT better. I think that in order to be a vegetarian that does not get support from their omnivore family you have to be really strong and become independant. This is tough when you are a teenager but start with baby steps. You can do it.
 

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I usually recommend the book "Becoming Vegetarian" by Melina and Davis. Show them you're serious and you know how to make the transition in a healthy manner, then just refuse to eat meat, and they'll just have to accept it.

--Fromper

I recommend that also. It is my bible. It will fill you with information that you need to know. I got mine from Barnes and Noble. Good Luck. My parents didn' take it well. Now, i have been a LO for 5 months, they are starting to come around.
 

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As a vegetarian teen in a meat eating family, it really helps if you can cook your own food some of the time. At the very least, make sure you are responsible for your own school lunches, snacks etc. and be sure to encourage your family to try "your" food anytime. For example, my siblings (and several non-veggie friends) are now totally hooked on soy milk as I forever have it around for smoothie making.

With my family, dinner is the meal we eat together. Often times, my mom can set aside some of what she's cooking before adding meat (for example; rice, lasagna noodles, pasta, stir fry dishes, etc.) and then I can add whatever vegetables or whatever I would like.

Also having salad or sandwich fixings is easy enough and always great in a pinch
 

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Good for you for trying to make the switch
The more you know, the more you can help them understand. You've gotten some wonderful advice and I second what everyone has said. I just want to add: you can certainly still have quiche! There are lots of kinds without the bacon They taste awesome and are usually much healthier
 

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You can also help with the shopping and offer to make some some tasty veggie dishes like a spaghetti squash caserole. Your family will see that you are serious about what goes in to your body. I am the only veggie in my family, and very few of my dishes are noodle based yet they"forget that the food is veggie." Remember tofu can seem scary
 
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