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Forgive me if someone has already done this... but I just want a cuddle!

Seriously though, it might sound strange from a 22yo male (or perhaps not, so long as you don't believe the hype), but it's damn near impossible to get some emotional connection in today's world. And I don't mean romantic emotions, though those are all well and good. Nevermind sexual frustration, I can go out tonight and get laid, but emotionally? Friendship has been reduced to a series of commercial actions, be it cinema, drinking (which I don't even do), or other forms of expensive socialising. I'm glad the weather has started to get better where I am though. Sitting the dark with a smoky fire and just hanging out with friends is more emotional connection than I've had for months!
 

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I go to Cuddle Parties and other events for respectful, nurturing affection and unconditional love exchanges that apparently many here find bizarre. Still, it's good for when you're feeling just as you describe!
 

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Cuddle parties are seen as a distinctly 'weird American thing' here, I remember reading about them. Seems nice though. I would just settle for more contact with people I know. A girl I've known for a while rested her hand on my shoulder the other day when asking how I was and I was totally taken aback, physicality is not the done thing in this country D:
 

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My suggestion is that you need to stop loudly saying "dat ass" as the first thing when you meet a new person
Oh no, my intricate approach to meeting people has failed me, how will I now go on?!

's ok, I don't tend to make friends over the internet anyway.
 

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I'm not. I'm going to an event where I'll get lots of non-sexual affection and love tonight.
Hope you'll have fun.

/not bitter
 

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I try and focus on the positive things in life, and associate with those that do the same... I find that since I have started doing this it's easier to make friends, and the less judgemental I become the more I can feel happy, even if I do still long for more emotional connection.
 

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On a somewhat connected note, I think I am afraid of the word 'love' used in a non-romantic/familial sense. I know lots of people that use it, but I find myself thinking of them as hippies. I suppose it's my nihilistic punk side.

Any idea of how to deal with this? I was thinking of writing letters to people that I do love in a friendship sense, if that isn't weird...
 

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I guess I belong to this club. Ever since I've become more positive, several friendships have fallen apart or drifted away. I guess when it comes to friendships, it's not opposities attract it's similars attract. I'm still trying to meet new friends. I've made some friendly aquaintances, but nothing has developed into a deeper sort of friendship yet. I feel lonely a lot, I'll admit it.
 

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Actually, there have been instances where people have tried to befriend me and I pulled away from them. I think I have some trust/intimacy issues that need to be dealt with. Which I do plan to do. But in the meantime, I dunno. I am not even bothering to date because it seems most men don't want to hang out with me unless they want down my pants and that's not what I'm after.
 

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Ever since I've become more positive, several friendships have fallen apart or drifted away
I've had this experience too, because a lot of my old friendships were based in being mean and bitching about people unfairly.
 

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Hmm can I join your club?
Nope.

Nah just kidding, come on in
 
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