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If you're on Facebook, please like this page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Dont-R...17089511694481

And also, I don't give a **** what anyone says, and I'm normally not someone to come out and say that an anonymous person on the internet has severe issues, but Ira, please recheck your thinking, and that kind of thinking does make you or anyone who actually thinks like that (and I still hope you're kidding) unfit to be a parent. This clearly crosses the line between discipline and abuse.

While I never had cerebral palsy, I was whipped often by my father growing up for things such as wearing shorts to school on a sweltering hot day in a non-airconditioned school when he insisted on me wearing pants. He clearly enjoyed it. I cannot bring myself to watch the video, as I know that it will trigger my PTSD.

Sadly though, it does seem to be very acceptable in states like Texas (I grew up in Tennessee and Indiana, close enough) to use hitting to discipline your kids. During the final days of me living in the US, it was a sickening cycle that I would start to make friends with someone, at age 29 most of my peers would have at least one kid, the kid would have been put to bed but might have needed to get up because they were deprived of attention, scared of nightmares, their room was too hot, whatever, and before being allowed to speak the kid would be screamed at with something along the lines of "Go to bed or you're getting a spanking! 1....2....3...." This and plenty of studies have shown that physical discipline creates MORE behavioral problems! But of course, hit the kid for these behavioral problems, of course it's ok, they're only a child!


Now, I live in Holland, where it is a criminal offense to spank your child. So thankfully, when my boyfriend and I are ready to have kids, we can raise them without being criticized for being bad parents because we believe that hitting children is wrong.
 

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For the record, in many places in the US spanking is no longer acceptable. Certainly some people still do it but it's not the norm. I think the data shows that it's about a 50-50 spilt where some people feel spaking is acceptable and others think it's bad.

Count me in the group that feels spanking is wrong.
Good, and it's something that seems like it will become outdated eventually, and hopefully soon! I spent most of my life in what could be considered the hillbilly region, which affects my view quite a bit, I can count the number of people in that area that I've met in my lifetime who feel that spanking is wrong on the fingers of both hands. 4 of those people are my nieces and nephew, who went through the same as I did.
But then again, the majority of people tend to mirror the actions of their parents instead of questioning them, even if those actions are wrong.
 

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This wasn't spanking. I have no problem with someone being anti-physical discipline but I wish they'd stop comparing a swat or two on the behind to beating.

The mother here is just as guilty as the wonderful judge.
Completely agreed. My point, and maybe everyone else's as well, was that spanking is bad, and this takes it to an all new and much worse level. Not only that, but allowing spanking leaves the door open to where it's easier for much more severe assaults on children to happen. It's a fine line between a swat and an assault, so it's much safer to classify everything as an assault.
 

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You apparently weren't beat since it turns people into such great human beings according to you. And yes it does make you unfit to be a parent, or an aunt, or to be around any children ever.
Actually, an overwhelming number of parents who beat their kids were beat themselves. Both of my parents were, and my brother also turned right around and did the same thing to his kids. The only explanation that I can think of is that being beaten warps a person's perception of what is "normal". Some, like myself and my brother's kids, rebelled against this idea of "normal", and have sworn to each other that we will never hit our children. All too many others, like my brother and my parents, don't question and then think that it is "normal" to hit their own kids. I really hope that the latter isn't the case with anyone on here.

It really doesn't seem like rocket science that being hit by a person much bigger than you creates anxiety issues, which then leads to more acting out, which leads to more hitting. Its one of the biggest things that's ****ed up with the world.
 

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To me spanking is assault plain and simple and if we wouldn't be happy if an adult was assaulted without their consent, why doesn't it concern us when it's happening to a child?
Precisely, and it's also a case of the vulnerable being assaulted and people turning a blind eye because many consider it acceptable. Very easily comparable to how most people accept the treatment of farmed animals. And untill recently, it was also considered perfectly acceptable to assault your wife or your slave. Hopefully people will soon be equally concerned with how millions of children and animals are assaulted every day.
 
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