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Okay, so i've been slowly telling my one friend more and more of my thoughts (i'm a very closed person. i've had a lot of camp counselors (who turn out to be more friends <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">) tell me I need to trust people more, but that's always been a problem) anyways, I've been telling her more and more about what I think about, and it's not exactly happy pink bunnies on my mind either.<br><br>
She's been saying that i'm just going through the typical teenage blues phase, and that she went through it several years ago, and it's just my turn. While I'm all too happy to grasp that idea... how far is too far? I'm a little worried that "normal teen blues" could grow too big for me and become a real problem. Depression has been a problem in my family, and I think I heard that it can be genetically linked...<br><br>
So, any ideas on how I could know if my teen blues grow into something much worse?<br><br>
viele dank<br><br>
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"normal teen blues" Isn't always exactly normal, everybody is different. I think when you start to feel useless, or feel inferior or threatened by others, then you should seek help. It is very good that you have someone you can open up to though, that is very very important. If she doesn't quite understand your feelings though, try to find others you can open up to as well. Is there anyone in your family that you would be very comfortable talking with? If you have felt depressed for a while I would also considor seeking help, or even just others to open up to. Good luck with everything =]
 

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Teen blues or what ever they're called is bound to happen, and while it could be just a phase that doesn't mean that it necessarily is. I've had my share of "teen blues", though mine was more seeing red, and it lasted for such a distinct time that I saw a psychiatrist. If you're feeling depressed a lot of the time you may want to have someone to talk to, whether it's family, friends or if need be a professional. Talking helped a lot for me, as well as music.<br><br>
I would suggest finding a positive outlet for negative emotions such as art, music, writing or whatever you're good at and like. It certainly won't make the teen blues go away but it'll help make them better and expel negative emotions that you might not be able to talk about.<br><br>
Talking is the main key though. Hope you get everything worked out and that it's only an angsty teenage phase.
 

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thanks, yeah i sure hope it's a phase... I really don't want to go the root of several people i knew (i know several people that killed themselves)...<br><br>
sadly, i'm really not comfortable with talking with my family. Don't get me wrong, they're all really great... but like i said, i'm a very private person... and even telling someone (even my best friend) about a bad grade is hard for me to do... haha, yeah, I'm a slacking, perfectionist/overachiever with the blues... what a combo <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
thanks you two <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Well yes I think everyone does go threw normal teen age blues, just because life changes so much, so quickly and your perfect childhood is riped away from you. But I can tell you that I have deffinitly been in your shoes, exactly 2 years ago. I started off thinking it was normal teenage blues but it was getting worse and worse. After about 6 months I told my mom I needed to see a doctor about it. But she thought it was just normal blues. So did my doctor. I'm a extreamly private person also, so I didn't tell them anything except that something was wrong. Which BTW was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life! If I told them what was really going on I would have been but in a hospital on the spot, guarantied. I got worse before I started to get better at all and that was like one or two good days a week, if any. About another year went on of day to day stuggles with it and still know one knowing. With everyone else denying it, I wanted nothing more then to deny it too. When I started to just realise I had to live with it and move on with my life I started thinking it was just the blues again. 6 months later I'm doing much better, but that doesnt mean I still don't deal with it. Up to a few weeks ago I was convinced it was teenage blues but recently I found some of my old notebooks and realised how messed up i really was. I mean I was <b><span style="text-decoration:underline;">BAD</span></b>! and what ever I had/have was NOT the teenage blues! Its normal to feel sad and lonely from time to time but when it becomes your life, you have a problem. You can message me if you ever want to. If it wasnt for online buddys, music, and writing in those journals I wouldn't be here today.
 

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see a doctor about it. But she thought it was just normal blues. So did my doctor. I'm a extreamly private person also, so I didn't tell them anything except that something was wrong. Which BTW was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life! If I told them what was really going on I would have been but in a hospital on the spot, guarantied. I got worse before I started to get better at all and that was like one or two good days a week, if any. About another year went on of day to day stuggles with it and still know one knowing. With everyone else denying it, I wanted nothing more then to deny it too. When I started to just realise I had to live with it and move on with my life I started thinking it was just the blues again. 6 months later I'm doing much better, but that doesnt mean I still don't deal with it. Up to a few weeks ago I was convinced it was teenage blues but recently I found some of my old notebooks and realised how messed up i really was. I mean I was <b><span style="text-decoration:underline;">BAD</span></b>! and what ever I had/have was NOT the teenage blues! Its normal to feel sad and lonely from time to time but when it becomes your life, you have a problem. You can message me if you ever want to. If it wasnt for online buddys, music, and writing in those journals I wouldn't be here today.
 

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I don't know either way...I go in and out of it in spaces of five minutes happy,sad,happy,sad,angry,sad,sad,happy,angry,sad. It's probably just normal everyone goes through it..if it's ever a huge problem i';m here for you though.
 
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