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I'd say leave him alone for now. Wait until he's ready to contact you.<br><br><br><br>
My ex, who dumped me, wants to be 'friends' with me, but it still hurts to see him, even though it's been six months now. So I've asked him not to contact me any more.<br><br><br><br>
In retrospect, I think it would have been better if we'd just left each other alone completely.<br><br><br><br>
Don't try and be 'friends' too soon. Give him time to get over you. Then maybe one day you <i>can</i> be friends.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Thalia</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><br><br><br>
I'd be interested in hearing what the OP's experiences being dumped are.<br><br>
I've always been the dumpee, (except for one case where it was mutual, but still hurt). It can take years to get over. I have at least one person it's been 10 years and I still am afraid to talk to him. I just don't want to be reminded of that time of my life and what he did to me.</div>
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... I've actually never been dumped, so I dunno what it feels like. I've had my heart broke, but I was still the one who broke up w/that particular ex...
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>MZCsmpsns</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I haven't contacted him, but I do want to, to see how him and his family are doing. He thought we were going to get back together, etc... and is mad because I've slept w/other people after I broke up w/him.. but I will definitely consider waiting to contact him from what you said.</div>
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Sounds like he thought the connection was still going to be intact. I'd wait awhile to at least let it break off... I am talking in terms of half a year at least.
 

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TY you all for the advice. I see everyone's points and have decided not to contact him.</div>
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Good call. I think Kiz said it best - he knows how to reach you if he wants to get in touch. Let him decide.
 

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I was stupid the other night & contacted him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wall.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":wall:"> I'd been drinking, been a lonely week, another ex contacted me... etc... so I went ahead and wrote him-which I immediately had my regrets. I said something like "I know it's out of line to contact you, I just want to know how your family is doing, sorry & I know it's wrong that I'm asking" (not that saying it like that excuses me from doing that) he said they were fine, I said thank you, he said you're welcome & I closed the window... then he kept going on about everything, which I should've expected & it was my fault because I was in the wrong for talking to him... I showed my bro the convo & my bro said he's psycho, I was like, so other than the fact I'M the one who contacted him, you still think that? He said yes, he's just plain psycho. I haven't got a hold of him since & Last night he wrote me and said "Sorry, I can't do this anymore, this is the last message you will get from me. I hope you get your life in order, Love you forever"<br><br><br><br>
I dunno why I wrote this, guess as an update & I just wanted to vent.
 

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<span style="color:#008000;">Well, now you know and you tried so you won't be curious as to what would have happened.</span>
 

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A similar thing happened to me. I started dating a long time friend and by the time I realized it was just a fling for me he was thinking marriage. Needless to say I completely broke his heart, and his families. I let him be for a long time, maybe a year almost, before I contacted him via email just to see how he and his family were doing. I did this mainly because I regret losing that friendship we had before we started dating. Things will never be the same, though. I hear from him every once in a blue moon, but it's always very short and I get the feeling that he's still hurt, two years later. It doesn't sound like he's dated anyone else either. It never feels good knowing that you've hurt a friend like that.
 
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