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Hello I am a new vegie. I gave up meat for lent this year and decied to keep with it. My problem is that My wife is a meat fanatic. If she does not have meat on her dish she freaks out. She says that she cant eat tofu or any bean/legum (parden spelling) because the texture makes her sick. She also does not like pasta, but will eat it from time to time.<br><br>
Seeing as we always eat dinner together I feel kind of odd by needing to make two diffrent dishes every night (I have to cook because she will only cook meat dishes) breakfast and lunch and snacks are easy because we make our own anyway, but dinner just seems harder. Any ideals?
 

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That's ... interesting.<br><br><br><br>
You should try Seitan. It has a very meat-like texture to it.<br><br><br><br>
I really don't know how else you would deal with this other than just making it so she makes her own dinner and you make your own dinner and you just eat together, with separate dishes. Sometimes that is just how it has to be.<br><br><br><br>
I myself am going to have a problem like this as my fiancé has an issue with textures as well and he very rarely likes the vegan dishes I make.
 

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When I first went veggie, I told my husband that I'd no longer be cooking or eating meat and that I had no problem with him cooking it for himself. But once he saw all of the delicious things I cook without meat, it wasn't even an issue.<br><br><br><br>
If she wants meat, let her cook it herself. Maybe eventually, she'll quit acting like an immature brat and actually give other things a chance. Given her inflexibility to eat anything but murdered animals, I don't know there's much you can do. Good luck, though.
 

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So you fix two dinners. It's not really that much of a problem! You are only accountable to your own conscience, so do whatever it takes to give yourself peace of mind. And truly, once you have some good veggie recipes that you are comfortable making, your wife will probably enjoy them very much. Best of luck.<br><br><br><br>
Do look in our recipe section - there are lots of wonderful recipes there.
 

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that's sad that your wife isn't more supportive of your decision.<br><br><br><br>
it sounds like she is being very closed minded about any meals that don't contain meat but if you can get her to try anything maybe she will be willing to eat some of the "simulated" meat products. yes they are rather expensive but this is how i got my spouse to start eating meat alternatives (he started with soy veggie burgers) and now he eats my veggie meals every day!<br><br><br><br>
(of course if he didn't eat them he wouldn't be eating much of anything because i also buy the groceries and we therefore have no meat in the house <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"> )
 

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that's sad that your wife isn't more supportive of your decision.<br><br><br><br>
it sounds like she is being very closed minded about any meals that don't contain meat but if you can get her to try anything maybe she will be willing to eat some of the "simulated" meat products. yes they are rather expensive but this is how i got my spouse to start eating meat alternatives (he started with soy veggie burgers) and now he eats my veggie meals every day!<br><br><br><br>
(of course if he didn't eat them he wouldn't be eating much of anything because i also buy the groceries and we therefore have no meat in the house <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"> )</div>
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This is the exact scenario that happened in my house. My husband has no problem with anything i cook though, so it has been an easier transition. It's my 5 year old that is the hold out.<br><br><br><br>
I would say to just keep making your wonderful veggie meals and ask her to at least try them. Maybe once she doesn't feel that she is being pressured, she will accept the fact that veggie food can be delicious. You could also tell her that you want her to join you in your veggie lifestyle because you love her and want her to live a long and healthy life with you. Good luck.
 

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Assuming your wife is an able bodied adult who is capable of feeding herself, she can be responsible for her own meals and you can be responsible for yours. One way you might be able to compromise on this is you prepare a dish that you can both share slightly modified, you with your protein mixed in, her with hers. Regardless of whether or not your wife eats meat, she still should be eating whole grains, fruits, vegetables, nuts, legumes, etc..., and meat should really only be a very small part of her diet. (A serving of meat is the size of a deck of cards)<br><br><br><br>
Considering the multitude of ways that legumes and tofu can be prepared, I cannot believe that she has tried every one and can say for certain that she does not like them.
 

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B) Cook something you can easily add meat to (stir fry, pasta, etc).</div>
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This is how my husband and I did it when I went veg (he's the main cook in the family). The meal itself was vegan and the meat/cheese was considered to be just another condiment (if he wants meat, he cooks it himself). My husband is also very sensitive to certain beans and he HATES the texture of tofu, so those things were also on the side along with the rest of the condiments.<br><br><br><br>
So far, he's really skeevy about trying seitan so for now, that option's out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/no.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":no:"><br><br><br><br>
IMO, dinner is the worst possible time to have conflicts about diet so I'm sure if you think about it a bit and get your spouse's input as well, you can find things that you both enjoy even if she does have to add meat to her portion.<br><br><br><br>
And oh, yea - welcome to VB and congrats on going veggie! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/broccoli.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":bobo:">
 

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I was able to transition my home to Vegan (no animal products in the house) by getting my husband to try the better mock meats like Gardenburger Riblets, Boca Burgers, Gardenburger sausage, one of the many great ground beef subs, etc.<br><br><br><br>
Of course, I am very stubborn, so I just kept drilling in until I got my way. That probably wouldn't work for everyone. It also helped that I am a good cook and that my husband was willing to try just about anything I fixed. It sounds to me like your wife is determined to be unsupportive, which is unfortunate. You may just have to cook two dinners.<br><br><br><br>
If she wanted to be supportive, she can learn to like most foods by trying them in different contexts over and over again, much like parents train their children to like certain foods. I know for fact that this works because my husband who has deeply ingrained food issues has learned to love broccoli (once on his "I will literally throw up if you make me eat this" list), tofu (especially the way I make it, very well drained) and a variety of casserole dishes that he would not have even attempted four years ago.<br><br><br><br>
I have a friend who is trying really hard to transition to Veganism, and she has severe food issues. She is going about it the same way, by trying a new veggie every week, a new dish every week, trying old veggies and legumes in different dishes, etc. The thing is, one has to have a positive attitude to start out, or it won't get better. For your wife's health, I hope she decides to be more supportive. A diet with too much meat in it is not healthy.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>psumoose</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><b>If she does not have meat on her dish she freaks out.</b> She says that she cant eat tofu or any bean/legum (parden spelling) because the texture makes her sick. She also does not like pasta, but will eat it from time to time.</div>
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Dear lord, I hope for your sake this is an exaggeration. She sounds like an overgrown toddler. I would hate to be married to someone like that.<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, I'm not really sure of your reasons for going veg. If you read more about the animal industries, watch some videos (like <a href="http://www.meetyourmeat.com" target="_blank">http://www.meetyourmeat.com</a> or go to <a href="http://www.petatv.com" target="_blank">http://www.petatv.com</a> for more), you may decide to educate her from an ethical standpoint, rather than catering to her taste and willfullness, as that's all she's focusing on now. When people are motivated, they can easily figure out ways around her concerns (texture and taste). There is veg nutrition info on this site, if you look around <a href="http://www.whyvegan.com" target="_blank">http://www.whyvegan.com</a><br><br><br><br>
Welcome to VB <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Hello I am a new vegie. I gave up meat for lent this year and decied to keep with it. My problem is that My wife is a meat fanatic. If she does not have meat on her dish she freaks out. She says that she cant eat tofu or any bean/legum (parden spelling) because the texture makes her sick. She also does not like pasta, but will eat it from time to time.<br><br>
Seeing as we always eat dinner together I feel kind of odd by needing to make two diffrent dishes every night (I have to cook because she will only cook meat dishes) breakfast and lunch and snacks are easy because we make our own anyway, but dinner just seems harder. Any ideals?</div>
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What would be a typical dinner that she'd like to eat? I'm sure there are people here who could veganize most anything.<br><br><br><br>
Tofu doesn't have <i>one</i> texture. It can be creamy like pudding, or tough, like jerky...<br><br><br><br>
I'll bet after she watches you perfect your veggie cooking and sees all of the wonderful things you are eating...there is a good chance she'll surprise you and want some, too. Just keep it positive.
 
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