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Hello all, I just joined this forum and am seriously considering becoming a vegan (again). Here is my story long, but I need somewhere to vent <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/inquisitive.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":stinkeye:"><br><br>
I am a mother of 2, my first pregnancy we were a little tight on the food budget and had to feed my husband and I. He is a omnivore, and refuses to ever become a vegetarian. After I gave birth I became a devoted vegan.<br>
I lasted 3 months, my veganism ended when there wasnt anything in the house to eat but chicken that was frozen.<br>
But I say also it was just leading up to that point...see my family is obese. Notice I don't refer to just one person, it's literally all of my family. They are the typical americans that eat junk food, follow the latest celebrity fashions, oh and they also have no compassion for animals. They are all pushing at least 200lbs some are in the 300's but average is around 230's. Luckily I am only 110 idk where I got it from maybe that "fat" gene is dormant for now.<br><br>
Anyway, the main reason it was/is so hard for me to become a vegan is because of my family and inlaws. I come from a culture of rice, meat, corn, flour, and the occasional bean, from what their comments on fruit and veggies is it's for animals so we can eat them!<br>
My family/inlaws do not adapt to change so well. I do not give my children milk after the age of one continued to breastfeed till 18months and didn't supplement with milk after but instead coconut "milk", they flipped and gave me their strong opinions on how my "or-eee-gaaaannnniiiccc foood" shouldn't be given to my kid and that I am depriving him of the good stuff. I would say the only one on my side is my dad lol. Now onto the good parts, when I was a vegan they would eat meat in front of me and tell me how it tasted so good and how could i not eat it? that I will get sick without dairy and meat, and the occasional I will get so skinny I will disappear. Its a little hard when you are ganged up by 15+ fat chicks.<br>
Then to top it all off I am the cook of my household, I cook for my husband and kids. If there is no meat in the dish it all a sudden becomes "bland" and my husband doesnt like it or he doesnt get "full". So becoming vegan I would cook seperate from him but would still have to cook meat period and that is one of my biggest obstacles.<br><br>
The reason I want to become a vegan again is becuase lately I've been feeling bad about drinking milk/eating cheese and eating animals for my pleasure, I don't eat beef and havent for over 8 years now. Also me and my kids just got food posionioning last month thanks to my inlaws poor food handling <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/brood.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":brood:">. And now again I am sick from idk what, but I'm guessing it was a turkey burger I cooked up in a hurry.<br>
I'm just tired of being sick, I have a very sensetive stomach, I'm tired of eating meat when I feel horrible, and I'm annoyed becuase even if I stop eating meat/cosuming dairy I wont be able to do it in peace.<br>
Idk what to do anymore, I feel like....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/juggle.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":juggle:">
 

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You've got to do what is right for you! Maybe it's time your husband starts cooking his own meat?
 

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HI Animal.lova, welcome to VB.<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Then to top it all off I am the cook of my household, I cook for my husband and kids. If there is no meat in the dish it all a sudden becomes "bland" and my husband doesnt like it or he doesnt get "full". So becoming vegan I would cook seperate from him but would still have to cook meat period and that is one of my biggest obstacles.<br></div>
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Try cooking your husband fake meats and maybe give him slightly larger servings. When people eat meat in front of you and crap on about how good it is, just ask them in a polite way not to do it. If they keep it up, ask them to leave, or if you are at their house, leave and go home.
 

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I think the first priority would be to have a heart-to-heart with your husband. He should support you, even if he doesn't agree. Lay out your reasons for him, and let him ask any questions he might have. Since budget is an issue, I would be sure to research how much various vegan meals cost compared to similar meals that contain meat. Vegan food can be really inexpensive, particularly if you're cooking plenty of beans and grains, and buying produce on sale/in season.<br><br>
Some people have a really hard time with change, particularly when it comes to food. You'll have to decide whether or not you would be willing to continue cooking meat for him (I've heard of a fair number of vegetarians who continue to cook meat for their spouses/kids, but there are also plenty who make only vegan food rather than compromising). If you're not willing to do that, he can either prepare his own meat, buy pre-cooked meat, or eat the vegan food. He doesn't really have license to complain if he's making no effort to help out, but of course that won't keep him from complaining. If he is willing to try vegan food, I would try to figure out what things you've made that he likes best (or..disliked least). Of course I'm not saying you should cater to him 24/7, but he might be more inclined to try new things if he knows your thinking about his preferences.<br><br>
As far as extended family, I don't see how what they have to say really matters. If the bring up your diet, firmly let them know the topic is not open for debate and then change the subject. If you don't engage them they will eventually give up. They don't need to know every detail of your personal life.<br><br>
As an aside, it's important to do your homework about eating a healthy vegan diet if you haven't already. Regardless of what anyone tells you, eating a healthy plant-based diet is easy but does require a little extra attention to nutrition, particularly when you're first starting out. Websites like <a href="http://veganhealth.org/" target="_blank">Vegan Health</a> and <a href="http://www.theveganrd.com/" target="_blank">The Vegan RD</a> have lots of good info on nutritional requirements for vegans, including during pregnancy and childhood. If you want to buy a nutritional reference book, I'd highly recommend <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=veggieboards.com-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FVegan-Life-Everything-Healthy-Plant-Based%2Fdp%2F0738214930%2F" target="_blank">Vegan for Life</a>.<br><br>
You should know that veganism certainly isn't a cure for obesity. It's very possible to eat a plant-based diet and be overweight. I do think that plant-based diets are on average healthier, but it all depends what you eat, how much exercise you get, genetics, etc.
 

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Not to mention what's right for your children. While you're doing your homework on vegan nutrition, be sure to take notes on what Standard American Diet can really do to your kid, and try to share that info with your husband + have it to counter nonsense from others. You know, doctors told G.B. Shaw that he'd die if he didn't start eating meat again... and kept telling him that for over 65 years. We're lucky to live in a period when studies are at least available, even if still kept down by ignorance.
 
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