[Eclipse]

Do any of you feel like this?...you are not the traditional type who wants the go out to lunch or dinner thing with friends or sit around chattering?...You can stuff your face at home and you don't do well sitting around doing "nothing", your hands need to do stuff. Sitting around is for when you are sick. You want to do things when with ohter people. Activity partners and do stuff types are your type.<br><br><br><br>
So one(me) tries to start a draw club and guess what, NO interest. What's a person like me to do?... I get drawn into the traditional way of social interaction with involves the sit around and visit fare or the go out to dinner scene?.<br><br>
When what I'd really want to do is something like draw together?. Is that idea really so weird?. I don't want to change my life to interact with other people dammit and yet society is making me choose.

 

[jeneticallymodified]

i don't like sitting around aimlessly with people either, it makes me quite uncomfortable, in fact. i don't smoke or drink, and i'm not overly fond of drunk people, so bars are pretty dull places for me. i have food allergies and am vegan, so dining out isn't my top fun thing to do in the small town i stay in. i can relate.<br><br><br><br>
i think being part of an interest group for something that you enjoy doing is a really good idea, but starting your own- there are already lots of existing organised and regulated groups that people might feel more confident joining, or already be members of- which is probably why you don't have any takers.<br><br><br><br>
perhaps joining a pre-existing group, like a cheap local community art class for example, might be an easier way of meeting likeminded people than forming your own group would- and you'd not have to worry about people not turning up, organising it all yourself, and dealing with any petty issues, squabbles, or random weirdos and lunatics who might turn up, etc.

 

[Ludi]

Heck, I'd be happy to go out to lunch once in awhile...<br><br><br><br>
I wouldn't complain... if you have a social life at all, you're lucky, in my opinion.

 

[jeneticallymodified]

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[Amy SF]

VB is my social life.<br><br><br><br>
VB meetups is my RL social life.<br><br><br><br>
So when I missed the one on Saturday...<br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/bigcry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="">

 

[karenlovessnow]

That's a tough one. I can see it being a problem if you don't have anyone to share your interests. I'm lucky in that I like to sit around and chat, but I get to do that during lunchtime at work. I don't have much of a social life outside of work, however. We might get together for something special a few times during the year, like going to the city(NYC) or someone will have a party. When I lived closer to family it wasn't a problem because we always got together. For me it seems that now that everyone is working full time, no one has the energy to want to socialize. Or some of my older friends are busy with their extended families on the weekends. The idea of an art class sounds like a good option for you to meet some like minded people.

 

[Tuffenoughtoroc]

I am extremely independent! The only person I can be around on a daily basis is my sister. Every now and then I will go hang out with friends, but rarely with family members. When I am forced into contact with my family, the vegetarian issue pops up and I feel cornered. That's why I avoid them.<br><br><br><br>
I also don't work well with others. If I have to work with other people, I have the habit of being in control. I'm not bossy, it's just nothing gets done if I don't lead.

 

[anthony11]

Visit <a href="http://www.meetup.com" target="_blank">www.meetup.com</a>. See what interest groups are in your area, and don't be afraid to push your envelope a bit.

 

[gaya]

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Do any of you feel like this?...you are not the traditional type who wants the go out to lunch or dinner thing with friends or sit around chattering?...You can stuff your face at home and you don't do well sitting around doing "nothing", your hands need to do stuff. Sitting around is for when you are sick. You want to do things when with ohter people. Activity partners and do stuff types are your type.<br><br><br><br>
So one(me) tries to start a draw club and guess what, NO interest. What's a person like me to do?... I get drawn into the traditional way of social interaction with involves the sit around and visit fare or the go out to dinner scene?.<br><br>
When what I'd really want to do is something like draw together?. Is that idea really so weird?. I don't want to change my life to interact with other people dammit and yet society is making me choose.</div>
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Maybe you could instead join an already established art class in your area.

 

[troub]

imaginary friends never leave.<br><br><br><br>
unless they do.

 

[Dark_Dicentra]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""> I'm sorry. I first saw your draw club post, got all excited, and then realized I live in Iowa and you live in Vermont, or something. I'm there in spirit, okay?

 

[Eclipse]

Meet up used to be awesome untill they destroyed it with their fees. Even then from my standpoint, I couldn't find any local groups. Sometimes I got to the albany vegetarian group, but I'm not good at driving in urban areas so I needed a ride each time.<br><br><br><br>
As for a art classes...thanks for the suggestion but I don't need another thing in my life that costs money. I spend enough buying drawing supplies.<br><br>
I think the closest thing to what kind of club I had in mind is the so called quilting bees or knitting circles.<br><br><br><br>
I have done a lot of the online social life thing and I've 'met" some great people, but bottom line is it isn't the same as some good ole fashioned RL interaction.

 

[asp3]

Have you ever considered bringing your drawing materials to a traditional gathering? Maybe the folks you get together with will enjoy your company while you draw rather than eat or drink with them.<br><br><br><br>
How about joining a sports club that pursues a sport that is condusive to conversation? Hiking, bouldering, boating or canoeing might be ones that allow you to talk and participate in the sport.