Anything that makes me feel like the guy is trying to pick me up, as opposed to just having a conversation is a turnoff for me. It makes me feel like he has an agenda with no concern for my wishes. I want the agenda to be a normal conversation and if chemistry evolves, then go from there.
Thalia, but what about those who are not seeking a relationship? I'm sure there's a lot of single folks who are probably just as happy with "encounters" as opposed to relationships.<br><br><br><br>
FWIW, I think, and have always felt, that pickup lines are pretty cheesy stuff and pretty thinly disguised.
<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Robert</i><br><br><b>FWIW, I think, and have always felt, that pickup lines are pretty cheesy stuff and pretty thinly disguised.</b></div>
Agreed! But therefore, a good "line" is a "line" that does not sound like a "line" right?
I have some male friends. I've come to know them and want to know more about them because they are sincere in their motives and honest in their ways. There's no hidden agenda's. Anyone experienced with relationships, whether those relationships were with friends or lovers, will be able to feel out hidden agenda's. Those are the turn off, IMO. I also believe that people must be the best of friends before becoming lovers for the relationship to work. Alot of relationships don't work out because they simply do not know how to be friends. The best relationships are multifaceted.<br><br><br><br>
So, I agree that the best pick-up line isn't a line at all. It's a sincere revealing of your true person to another that's the turn on.
I agree with Ruthie. If a stranger is hitting on me, I'm automatically on guard. Sincerity from a friendship perspective goes a long way with me.<br><br><br><br>
BTW, Ruthie, your new avatar (at least it's the newest as of when I type this!) reminds me of Carmen Sandiego.
I absolutely despise guys who use pick-up lines on me. It doesn't matter if I have been eyeing him for hours from across the room, if he approaches me and says something like, "I lost my phone number...could I borrow yours?" I'm disgusted to the point of wanting to vomit on his stupid shirt.<br><br><br><br>
In fact, strange guys hitting on me always makes me uneasy, and I'm never responsive to it. Freakin' Ewan McGregor could hit on me and I wouldn't want anything to do with him. I prefer a nice conversation, and becoming friends before anything else is even suggested. My past relationships have taught me to never become intimate with people I don't trust very much, and lately it's become harder and harder to earn even the smallest amount of my trust.<br><br><br><br>
My unresponsive nature towards people who try to flatter me has caused people to call me an ice princess. Flattery really gets nowhere with me. Friendship and trust are the only things that work.<br><br><br><br>
But then again, I'm a cynical ***** at only 18 years old. Perhaps my opinion isn't the same as is held by most of the female population.
I suppose, if a guy wanted to break the ice, he could talk to me about something we're both interested in. One thing that makes me feel really comfortable around a new person is talking about something I'm working on at the time, such as my artwork. My school's art shows have helped me make a lot of friends, because I'm really antisocial, but I really appreciate intelligent comments and appropriate criticism of my artwork, and a guy who can do that without sounding pretentious or patronizing gets points in my book.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
I also like it when I'm walking my dog in the park and a guy approaches me and talks to me about my dog. I think something like that makes me, and maybe other girls, feel more comfortable than personal questions right away.
Like if you noticed she ordered a weird beer or something, you could ask, "How is that, I like to try new beers"<br><br><br><br>
At a concert- ask, have you seen this group before?<br><br><br><br>
If they are in a coffee shop reading, ask them about the book or comment on it.<br><br><br><br>
It's hard though, if you are just mingling at a bar or party. When I have tried to get to know guys I don't know, I just say something very forward or stupid. They didn't really seem to mind, though.
Since I am interested in the making of clothing, and its utility, and esthetics, and I know women usually are interested in clothing, I can feel safe that this is a subject of common interest, something we have in common. So I will sometimes say something like: that is a nice jumpsuit you're wearing. It hides your figure flaws and accentuates the good points. Did you sew it yourself?<br><br><br><br>
Hmmm? Good idea right?<br><br><br><br>
How about: hmm, nice jeans; they make your ass look (bigger, smaller) than it is?<br><br><br><br>
Alright, what about: purple looks good on you.
"hi, i'm the hot and sexy 25 year old medical school admissions counsellor and if you go out with me, welcome to the class of 2007 baby!"<br><br><br><br>
ok, maybe it's an unconventional approach, but hell, it'd work for me! although i would require some sort of proof of acceptance BEFORE the date!<br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""><br><br><br><br>
oh relax peoples, i'm just kidding y'all!
<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Thalia</i><br><br><b>If they are in a coffee shop reading, ask them about the book or comment on it.</b></div>
Righ on, sista. The coffeeshop is the moniest. It's so easy. Problem is (for me, at least) is that the girl I want to talk to <i>works</i> at the coffeeshop. What???
Hey, do any of the fellas here ever get a line? I get hit on all the time* but it's rarely a line. Once I was at a Placebo show at the 930 and some girl asked me what I thought of the show and I was so smashed I got all pissed at her for not liking the show. Once in the deep south some girl asked "what's your name" but with the accent I heard "whatchya need?" so I said "nothing, thanks." and then a broad I worked with at a temp job asked me out and I totallily forgot what her name was so I couldn't go to dinner and I guess I stood her up. That last one was a shame on account of her being really attractive, smart (grad. student in art history), really attractive, and of course, a vegetarian.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
* by "all" I mean "once" and by "the time" I mean "in a blue moon".
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