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I'm trying not to stay upset but I just feel like garbage. This was my first Thanksgiving as a vegetarian, and I really thought it would go better.<br><br>
-Today, by dearly loved members of my family, I was called an assortment of names - "finicky," "persnickety," "fussy eater," "diet freak," "animal freak" and my favorite, "food snob."<br><br>
-I brought a delicious dish to share and only a few people agreed to try it while everyone else turned up their nose after I mentioned that it was vegan (never mind that the people who ate it LOVED it and polished it off in minutes).<br><br>
-Of course there was the usual slew of comments about my being WAY TOO SKINNY, regardless of the fact that I've been like this forever.<br><br>
-People kept piling more and more food onto my plate even when I was stuffed and saying no, and using "YOU AREN'T HAVING ANY PROTEIN" as an excuse for totally ignoring me.<br><br>
I didn't say one damn word about the dead bird on the table, as gross and corpsey as it looked to me. I didn't give any looks, exude any moody tones or do one single thing to bring this punishment on myself. I was honestly looking forward to the holiday. I had no interest in telling them what to eat. I expected a couple of little jabs but nothing like what I got.<br><br>
Finally, I stood up for myself and told my aunt (who wouldn't lay off) that I'm perfectly healthy, that vegetarianism is good for you and that I'm just fine and really didn't need any more food. And then my uncle got upset that I'd been "rude" to my aunt.<br><br>
So that was my Thanksgiving <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> I hope all of yours went better. So here's a thread for rants and raves about your Turkeyless Day.
 

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How horrible <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> I'm really sorry about all that. Mine was actually very nice. No rude comments, and everyone loved the dishes I brought. Good for you for sticking up for yourself! It's really hard, but sometimes I think that omnis only harass us because they aren't used to people standing up to them.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>sequoia</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3045201"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
How horrible <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> I'm really sorry about all that. Mine was actually very nice. No rude comments, and everyone loved the dishes I brought. Good for you for sticking up for yourself! It's really hard, but sometimes I think that omnis only harass us because they aren't used to people standing up to them.</div>
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Thank you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I'm glad you had a nice holiday. It was just so uncomfortable...I really hate being the center of attention and I didn't want to make it any worse. BUT...I feel like if I sit in silence while everyone goes on about how vegetarianism equals starvation, I'm doing absolutely nothing to help the cause.<br><br>
It's also ironic because if I'd pointed out how I was one of the only few people in the room not overweight with a slew of health problems, it would have been considered extremely rude. But it's totally ok for it to work in reverse.<br><br>
What dishes did you bring?
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>YellowRose</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3045206"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Thank you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I'm glad you had a nice holiday. It was just so uncomfortable...I really hate being the center of attention and I didn't want to make it any worse. BUT...I feel like if I sit in silence while everyone goes on about how vegetarianism equals starvation, I'm doing absolutely nothing to help the cause.<br><br>
It's also ironic because if I'd pointed out how I was one of the only few people in the room not overweight with a slew of health problems, it would have been considered extremely rude. But it's totally ok for it to work in reverse.<br><br>
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I took a Field Roast, which everyone tried and liked. I also took sweet potatoes, which were a huge hit, and my chocolate tofu pie, which was also a hit (despite the main ingredient being tofu).<br><br>
What you say about not being able to point out that you don't have all the health problems that they have has always bothered me. My family doesn't really give me a hard time because my mom is a registered dietician with a master's degree in nutrition, so she knows that the way I eat is healthier than the SAD. But I have had very unhealthy individuals bother me about my diet, and it's really hard to bite my tongue.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>YellowRose</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3045200"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I'm trying not to stay upset but I just feel like garbage. This was my first Thanksgiving as a vegetarian, and I really thought it would go better.<br><br>
-Today, by dearly loved members of my family, I was called an assortment of names - "finicky," "persnickety," "fussy eater," "diet freak," "animal freak" and my favorite, "food snob."<br><br>
-I brought a delicious dish to share and only a few people agreed to try it while everyone else turned up their nose after I mentioned that it was vegan (never mind that the people who ate it LOVED it and polished it off in minutes).<br><br>
-Of course there was the usual slew of comments about my being WAY TOO SKINNY, regardless of the fact that I've been like this forever.<br><br>
-People kept piling more and more food onto my plate even when I was stuffed and saying no, and using "YOU AREN'T HAVING ANY PROTEIN" as an excuse for totally ignoring me.<br><br>
I didn't say one damn word about the dead bird on the table, as gross and corpsey as it looked to me. I didn't give any looks, exude any moody tones or do one single thing to bring this punishment on myself. I was honestly looking forward to the holiday. I had no interest in telling them what to eat. I expected a couple of little jabs but nothing like what I got.<br><br>
Finally, I stood up for myself and told my aunt (who wouldn't lay off) that I'm perfectly healthy, that vegetarianism is good for you and that I'm just fine and really didn't need any more food. And then my uncle got upset that I'd been "rude" to my aunt.<br><br>
So that was my Thanksgiving <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> I hope all of yours went better. So here's a thread for rants and raves about your Turkeyless Day.</div>
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This sounds like it really hurt!! i am really sorry. This was my 3rd Thanksgiving as vegetarian. My family is really super supportive and make me veggie dishes. I'm 16 so i dont really make my own dishes. My brothers give me crap and jokes about being vegetarian but i know they are both super supportive of me too. I get crap all the time from people at school when they ask me why i am vegetarian but after a few years most people know that i am veg. It really is a blessing. If i had a religion being vegetarian would be it. Its my life and means everything to me.
 

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wow Yellowrose, I'm sorry it was so uncomfortable for you. I chose to visit other people myself this yr for dinner, and had a wonderful time! Field roasts rock- it was my first one ever!
 

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Sorry that your first veg thanksgiving went so bad. Hopefully it will get better when they realize that harsh comments is only going to damage the relationships you have formed, and that you aren't changing your mind.<br><br>
Mine went better than expected! Another veggie girl made a lasagna (which was pretty good), and while people talked about her and I being veggies, it never turned into a debate. A few people asked if I had enough to eat, and that was about it. The worst part was when my grandpa jokingly asked if I wanted to carve the turkey, but I doubt he meant any harm.
 

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This was my first Veg thanksgiving. My grandparents made a few smart remarks (which they have been in general lately) but i sat with my cousins my own age who don't mind. My grandma (though she hardly approves) set aside a Vegan plate for me of Yams, Potatoes, Corn, Green Beans, and Bread. It was thoughtful of her, and I appreciated it. Was not at all as bad as I knew it could have been.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> So sorry you had a crappy Thanksgiving YellowRose.
 

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That really sucks YR.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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Mine went better than ever. I've been through all the things the OP mentioned. This time there was only 1 comment on what I had on my plate and the subject was easily changed. I'm pretty surprised.<br><br>
I brought <a href="http://audrey-bean.blogspot.com/2011/11/2-pies-for-thanksgiving.html" target="_blank">a nice main dish</a> for myself. mmmm, can't wait for lunch.<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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the way I eat is healthier than the SAD</div>
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What is the SAD? Can't find it on Google.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":confused:">
 

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Ok that just sucks... My parents decided that I should be the one to carve the turkey... Great reaction here it is: " What me?" " yes you" " im vegetarian" "ohh... please?" " NO" and to my room I went... I may be only a kid still in school, but I know when I need to get away from the damn dead turkey who could have lived on to be a mother turkey ( all turkeys killed on thanksgiving are hen<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">)
 

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Ok that just sucks... My parents decided that I should be the one to carve the turkey... Great reaction here it is: " What me?" " yes you" " im vegetarian" "ohh... please?" " NO" and to my room I went... I may be only a kid still in school, but I know when I need to get away from the damn dead turkey who could have lived on to be a mother turkey ( all turkeys killed on thanksgiving are hen<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">)</div>
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That's horrible. Why on earth would they expect a vegetarian to carve the bird? That was really inconsiderate on their part.
 

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Holding my tongue wouldn't cut it at that level.<br><br>
I would have to hold in my fist instead.
 

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Thank you all for the hugs and support...honestly, that made me feel a lot better and less lonely. Thank you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
Imagineaa, that pot pie full of fall veggies sounds amazing. Definitely going to try that.<br><br>
I'm glad some of you had such nice Thanksgivings. It really is such a nice holiday. I already found what I want to make next year:<br><a href="http://www.vegkitchen.com/recipes/three-sisters-stew/" target="_blank">http://www.vegkitchen.com/recipes/three-sisters-stew/</a><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Ok that just sucks... My parents decided that I should be the one to carve the turkey... :</div>
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What? Why? For all the grief my family gave me, I can't imagine them asking me to do that...how insensitive. I'm sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br><br>
All of this really makes me want to blow everyone away at the next holiday gathering (Christmas) with even more delicious recipes. The thing is, I don't want to bother if no one will even taste them. It just feels like such a waste when everyone peers at the food like it's some kind of science experiment. Sigh.
 

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Sorry for those of you who had rough days, especially the carving.<br><br>
My day was great. The only things on the table that weren't vegetarian were turkey and gravy. My family is amazing.
 

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I'm sorry yours wasn't so good. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> I say blow them away with food on Christmas. Tell them that you're fine with them not eating it, as long as you don't have to eat theirs. Plus, you get a ton of leftovers. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br>
Mine was good. Hubby and I went to a friend's house, and we brought a veggie tray (the only thing I really wanted). I had mashed potatoes, veggies, asparagus (they cook it every year), and a roll. Friend warned me that the stuffing had a little bit of chicken broth, so he wasn't sure if I wanted it or not.
 
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