He told me that it's bad that they stopped talking, and he wishes they would be friends again, so i told him to tell it to her, not to me, and they met to explain that. (i was happy because they're both my friends, but then she said something like 'if i had been with him then, we would still be together i suppose' and it disturbed me a little)What happened a couple months after you started dating? That he talked to her about the crush? Or did something else happen?
I was talking with her about it before they talked and she said something like this. And then it started worrying me a little. And yes, I am also horribly jealous even though i really trust him, i just don't like to be as i said, number two. Or maybe I'm too ambitious
Musli has PLENTY of reason to be upset! "Not crossing any obvious lines"? WHAT?
Whoa - I didn't say what he was doing was in any way appropriate. I have been in this situation in the past where my ex had a female friend that he developed a crush on. He didn't cross any of the "lines" that usually denote cheating in most people's minds - like kissing or making out or sex - these being the "obvious" lines I was referring to. Many people don't comprehend that what they are doing is inappropriate because they haven't done THESE things and so they somehow justify the long talks, the inside jokes etc to just part of a normal friendship. Personally I think she is totally justified in being upset with her guy and I'm glad she has talked to him. He needed to be called out on his behavior with this girl and hopefully he will be be really conscious of how he is interacting with this friend from here on out.Originally Posted by Tempeh-Tantrums
Musli has PLENTY of reason to be upset! "Not crossing any obvious lines"? WHAT?
She (if I understand correctly) said he stays with this girl. And he is always talking about her (she, she, she) and he has secrets with her and invites her (the other girl) out on their dates to name a few "obvious" lines?
What part of that seems appropriate at all?
17, not yetAnd Musli - a couple questions: How old are you, hon'? And (none of my business) but are you sleeping with this guy? Both of those factors will make a significant difference in the way others may answer your questions.
This is the most horrible feeling in the world. When I feel like that I sometimes try to convince myself that it's all in my head but sometimes I just feel that that "other person" always has something more interesting to say to him/her...ugh..it sucks.
Originally Posted by Koalaborg
Whoa - I didn't say what he was doing was in any way appropriate. I have been in this situation in the past where my ex had a female friend that he developed a crush on. He didn't cross any of the "lines" that usually denote cheating in most people's minds - like kissing or making out or sex - these being the "obvious" lines I was referring to. Many people don't comprehend that what they are doing is inappropriate because they haven't done THESE things and so they somehow justify the long talks, the inside jokes etc to just part of a normal friendship. Personally I think she is totally justified in being upset with her guy and I'm glad she has talked to him. He needed to be called out on his behavior with this girl and hopefully he will be be really conscious of how he is interacting with this friend from here on out.