Ok, I found this board by googling roomate question. I came upon the other thread asking about how long a SO can stay over. I am wondering what everyone's feelings are on my situation:
I am in college right now, graduating in the spring. My SO lives 6 hours away, she comes up and visits every other weekend (typically means 6 days a month Friday-Saturday-Sunday). I have OK'ed this with my roommates, and nobody has a problem.
The problem comes into play when we take showers together. We do not do anything "dirty" in the shower, its all clean stuff (literally) and we have told our roommates this. 2 of my roommates have no problem with this, while 1 does. He says "You guys can do whatever you want in your room, but I don't appreciate you using the shower that I pay for to be naked together in." The way I see it we are only saving heat/water by showering together. He says he has no problem with both of us using the shower separately (our landlord pays for our water bill), but it makes him uncomfortable to know that we both shower in there at the same time even though I insist that nothing dirty or questionable is going on. We are all on the lease equally.
My question is, do you guys think he has the authority to tell us that we cannot shower together? And even if he doesn't have the authority to dictate, do you think I should do as he asks anyway?
To include some context (you might consider this bias), she is the cleanest girl ever. Whenever she comes when I am not looking she will clean in the bathroom, kitchen, or bathroom. Whenever she leaves a lot of the house looks totally clean. I ask her not to, but she does anyway.
Honest opinions welcome.
I am in college right now, graduating in the spring. My SO lives 6 hours away, she comes up and visits every other weekend (typically means 6 days a month Friday-Saturday-Sunday). I have OK'ed this with my roommates, and nobody has a problem.
The problem comes into play when we take showers together. We do not do anything "dirty" in the shower, its all clean stuff (literally) and we have told our roommates this. 2 of my roommates have no problem with this, while 1 does. He says "You guys can do whatever you want in your room, but I don't appreciate you using the shower that I pay for to be naked together in." The way I see it we are only saving heat/water by showering together. He says he has no problem with both of us using the shower separately (our landlord pays for our water bill), but it makes him uncomfortable to know that we both shower in there at the same time even though I insist that nothing dirty or questionable is going on. We are all on the lease equally.
My question is, do you guys think he has the authority to tell us that we cannot shower together? And even if he doesn't have the authority to dictate, do you think I should do as he asks anyway?
To include some context (you might consider this bias), she is the cleanest girl ever. Whenever she comes when I am not looking she will clean in the bathroom, kitchen, or bathroom. Whenever she leaves a lot of the house looks totally clean. I ask her not to, but she does anyway.
Honest opinions welcome.