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Contrary to popular belief, the two are not one and the same. About 1% of the population is asexual (and I'm not talking about people who have a low libido or self-esteem problems that prevent them from wanting to be sexually intimate with others, I mean that they lack the neurological make up to feel sexual attraction to other people) but most asexuals still feel romantic attraction. Some homosexuals are heteroromantic, some heterosexuals are homoromantic, some people are bi-sexual but heteroromantic etc.<br><br>
People should stop associating the two. Sexual arousal is controlled by the hypothalamus and the amygdala, romantic love is controlled by the medial insula and the anterior cingulate.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Huruma</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2817351"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
People should stop associating the two. Sexual arousal is controlled by the hypothalamus and the amygdala, romantic love is controlled by the medial insula and the anterior cingulate.</div>
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Well, I guess its hard to separate the two because (morphologically) they are so close together!!!
 

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Good point. The Klein Sexual Orientation grid actually distinguishes these two, though it uses the term "emotional preference". <a href="http://kleingridonline.com/" target="_blank">http://kleingridonline.com/</a><br><br>
Academia prefers the term "affectional orientation," I believe. <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affectional_orientation" target="_blank">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affectional_orientation</a><br><br>
I would consider myself a biromantic heterosexual, for example.
 

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Christ it's already so hard to justify my sexual orientation to the common masses you have to throw this into it as well? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"> Anyway, since as far as I can remember (which would be about 12 years old out back in the barn with my next door neighbor) the both are exactly the same for me. I'm a guy and although I CAN have sex with women if I will myself into doing so... I fall in love with, and only with, other men. It's the romantic attachment which in my opinion determines my sexuality. Anyone can enjoy a hole for being a hole... but the ability to attach an emotional component to that is what determines one's sexuality. Just my opinion of course.
 

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Anyone?</div>
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That isn't a sexuality or romantic orientation, just desperation <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:">
 

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Anyone?</div>
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panromantic, polyromantic or pansexual
 

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Lololol. For clarification, I was questioning whether anyone can enjoy a hole. Being unnecessarily obtuse <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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Lololol. For clarification, I was questioning whether anyone can enjoy a hole. Being unnecessarily obtuse <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"></div>
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Yeah yeah. We know what you were saying, don't even try it.<br><br>
In all seriousness though, I often wonder if there are people who are in love with their friends but, because they identify as a certain sexual orientation, don't pursue a relationship with them and just enjoy it as a close friendship.
 

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To make this even more complicated, we could add in gender orientation or gender identity as well.
 

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Lololol. For clarification, I was questioning whether anyone can enjoy a hole. Being unnecessarily obtuse <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"></div>
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*pulls my cats away from Yally* <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/worried.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":worried:">
 

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I'm trisexual and polyamorous.<br><br>
Put that in your pipe and smoke it. But go outside. You'll irritate my asthma and my smug straight-edge tendencies otherwise.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Huruma</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2817351"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Contrary to popular belief, the two are not one and the same. About 1% of the population is asexual (and I'm not talking about people who have a low libido or self-esteem problems that prevent them from wanting to be sexually intimate with others, I mean that they lack the neurological make up to feel sexual attraction to other people) but most asexuals still feel romantic attraction.</div>
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That's interesting. Do you have a source for this?<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Some homosexuals are heteroromantic, some heterosexuals are homoromantic, some people are bi-sexual but heteroromantic etc.</div>
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I have thought of this in those terms. I had a friend who, after his divorce, hooked up with guy. He was heartbroken when he got divorced and would have never initiated it. He also said that he had been sexually attracted to men and women. I just assumed he was bisexual. But I think he actually prefers men for sex and can form a romantic attachment with either.<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Christ it's already so hard to justify my sexual orientation to the common masses you have to throw this into it as well? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"> Anyway, since as far as I can remember (which would be about 12 years old out back in the barn with my next door neighbor) the both are exactly the same for me. I'm a guy and although I CAN have sex with women if I will myself into doing so... I fall in love with, and only with, other men. It's the romantic attachment which in my opinion determines my sexuality. Anyone can enjoy a hole for being a hole... but the ability to attach an emotional component to that is what determines one's sexuality. Just my opinion of course.</div>
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I have never wanted to ask my gay friends, especially male friends, any questions regarding sexual preferences, except for the guy mentioned above. Even with him it seemed like I was crossing a boundary. So I am interested in what you have to say here. Are you saying that sex with women is entirely unpleasant unless you go to great lengths?
 

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I'm not into holes. I don't wanna have sex with them or fall in love with them. Just saying.</div>
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Yes the masculine bias of the op is very evident. Then again, some women are into holes.
 

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I dont get this......maybe because my brain is a little............inebriated right now. I <i>think</i>, the correct thing to say would be that although I'm gay, I still am non-sexually romantic towards girls?
 

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I dont get this......maybe because my brain is a little............inebriated right now. I <i>think</i>, the correct thing to say would be that although I'm gay, I still am non-sexually romantic towards girls?</div>
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I think that's possible. I'm sexually romantic with men who are into women, and with men who are into men, i tend to be non-sexually romantic. At least it would explain the enduring tenderness of friendships I have with certain gay men.
 

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Im not sure how much is being romantic and how much is just close friendship.
 

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Im not sure how much is being romantic and how much is just close friendship.</div>
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That's what confuses me about this idea of non-sexual romance. I don't think I really get it, where is the line? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":confused:">
 
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