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i'm just curious about how people feel about themselves. is physical appearance the biggest factor for one's self esteem? is it true to say that, ultimately, the person has complete control to alter their self esteem? in other words, those with low self esteem could have high self esteem instead if they put enough effort into it. in fact, is high self esteem even necessary or is it just happiness that matters?
 

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My self esteem is through the roof. I get it from the inside, not from without. I think self esteem is vital to actually feeling motivated to do something. High self esteem can make one feel anything's possible, while a low self esteem might convince people to not even bother trying.
 

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pathetic buuut....through the floor. in just about every possible way there is. i am however very good at making self-deprecating comments.
 

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my self esteem has gotten a tremendous boost since i lost alot of weight (140 lbs) so it's kinda good now. i do agree with epski that it comes from within more than without. *I* feel better about me than before my friends' opinions of me have not changed... mine has
 

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I have a very low self-esteem, but it's probably all teen angst-related. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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GOOD POLL IDEA!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":up:"><br><br>
My self esteem aims to be high but I don't want to go thru<br><br>
the roof everytime I feel sensationalized about myself! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"><br><br>
Instead I generally just opt for goth as an outlet for creativity to get my self esteem an assured footing somewhere in amongst the fog swirling around my feet! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":up:">
 

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I chose very low, which isn't really accurate, because "low" implies <i>some</i>. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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Gosh, I'm shocked at all the low self-esteems here. You all should feel so much better about yourselves! What reason do you have not to? None that are valid, I can assure you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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It's not so easy, epski. I won't speak for everyone here, but my low self-esteem is something that is so ingrained in me, I can't imagine feeling any differently. It's something I've had my whole life. It would take a whole lot more than realizing I have no reason to feel this way. I'd have to train myself to have a higher self-esteem. But again, it's probably my teen angst that makes me feel this way right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I am a Bi-polar <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br><br><br>
Actually I don't really think self-esteem is still an issue for me anymore.
 

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Mine has always been on the low side. Like Vegankat said it is ingrained...it almost seems as though I was born with it...and all my life I have been trying to overcome it. It's on an upswing at this point in my life <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> but it goes up and down. Basically it's a lot of work to keep it up.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:">
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Vegankat</i><br><br><b>It's not so easy, epski. I won't speak for everyone here, but my low self-esteem is something that is so ingrained in me, I can't imagine feeling any differently. It's something I've had my whole life. It would take a whole lot more than realizing I have no reason to feel this way. I'd have to train myself to have a higher self-esteem. But again, it's probably my teen angst that makes me feel this way right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"></b></div>
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I'll admit that the mind admits many impediments, but it's like any difficult decision in life, once you know the truth, you answer the call (like veg*nism). You may have your moments of doubt, but ultimately knowing that you're worth as much, if not more, than anyone else on the planet, ought to be enough to raise one's self-esteem. YOU are in control of that. No one else.<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, here's to deprogramming!
 

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I have very low self esteem. I have absolutely no confidence, I always second guess myself, I hate the way I look, I hate pretty much everything about myself. I'm extremely nervous in social situations, because I feel like people are going to make fun of me. I can't take compliments, because I think the person is being sarcastic.<br><br><br><br>
I really wish I could change this, because I feel like it's holding me back, and I can't just enjoy life. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by epski</i><br><br><b>Anyway, here's to deprogramming!</b></div>
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I'll interpret that in my case as saying lets stop the brainwashing of ourselves due to what has been dished out by others that say we are worthless..... (Others as in non-vegan people who will go to extremes to slag off a vegan no matter how self esteemed we are...In fact I think some really negative people really get off and try harder to bring a person(vegan) down if they can see a challenge in doing so, often because their own self esteems are so low and just suck the energy right out of other people to supplement their own and whatever like that, sad but it happens).
 

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I put very high. Which is not to say that I think I'm perfect, but it's been <i>years</i> since I felt like my life wasn't going anywhere. I love my job, and I think what I do is important. I don't think I'm the best at it, but I work at doing better, and it's something that comes with practice, so that doesn't really affect my self-image. It just means I recognize that I'm learning. I'm pretty secure in the knowledge that if I want to achieve something I can, but that some things take longer than others.<br><br><br><br>
My body image is fine. I just got an awful haircut <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/mad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":mad:">, but aside from that I'm happy with how I look. It's something I work at, too, but not obsessively. I do think my self-esteem would go down a little if I weren't happy with how I looked. I don't think I'm a knockout or anything... 90% of the time I don't even think I'm pretty, but I'm comfortable. And that's fine. The remaining 10% of the time I think I'm totally hot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br><br><br>
Umm... what else affects self-esteem? I guess friends. I have tons. More than I can keep up with. I trust them all, I've never had a falling-out with any of them, I've never been back-stabbed, nor have I done that to anyone. Healthy stuff all around. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
It's not like I don't have some down times and feel like crap and that I suck as a teacher and will die lonely and all those crazy things that go through my head during a fit of depression, but those are few and far between.<br><br><br><br>
Vegankat -- you sound like I used to. The low self-esteem and depression I had <i>was</i> pretty deeply ingrained. It lasted through high school and a couple years into college. And then I got sick of it. Thppt. You <i>are</i> in control of it, but it's hard work, to be honest. It took me years to get to the point where thinking decent, let alone good, things about myself became second nature.
 

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No self-esteem is like a comfort to me now, as it's been so long. Actually getting some.... I don't know that I could handle it, even if I wanted to.<br><br>
And it gives me more to write about, such as <i>of all the people that I like the least I like is me</i> and <i>of all the people that I hate the most I hate is me</i>..... you know, typical self-deprecating crap.
 

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I have great self-esteem. I didn't always. But finally after years of abusing myself I've realized all that I have to offer. I like myself a lot.<br><br><br><br>
I hope some of the folks here can learn to appreciate themselves more. LIFE is happening right now. This isn't pretend. As far as I know, you only have one life here and one self so you've got to make the most of it and do great things while you can.
 

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Mskedi, you are more secured than me...<br><br>
Its nice to read that you are so well moderated in your doings and balance and wotnot... I think you have the potential to be hot at least 10% of the time too as you say and so too does everyone given the mind to be!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":up:"> Being "comfortable"<br><br>
as you are the rest of the time is good also...Well put...<br><br>
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I <b>would</b> tend however to feel a bit irksome by anyone using "content" as a "feel good" word though, that always seems to suggest "contentiousness" such is the spelling...<br><br>
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Good luck all with your derutting of feeling so ill-esteemed. I feel it too and have done all my life but as the years go by you learn that all is much of a muchness and that its impossible to conquer or to change all in life so you just do whatever you <i>can do!!!</i> that which guarantees you feel better about yourself and the world about you (preferably without any pretences etc)...Thats in general to all of you VeganKat, rainbowmoon, , and Kurm, SilverC and Smedley ....and all of you's!!!
 
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