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I only have short windows of time that I can socialize becaue I'm either fighting health problems, cleaning up after said health problems make mess of my life or going into the working world.<br><br><br><br>
Well that rare time has come up. I call up one of my veg pals and eagerly want to do something together. I've been couped up etc etc.<br><br>
As usual she can't come for another week or so. By that time I will either have another episode of my strange disease or be back in the working world.<br><br><br><br>
How the heck do you manage to stay in touch with someone when both of you are mostly tied up...It's frustrating. we have so much in common ( except that she eats for entertainment which has me puzzled).<br><br><br><br>
It used to be it'd take two weeks just to get in touch to ask if she wanted to do something. I'd joke with my mom that if I wanted to do something with said friend ( forget about my schedule) it'd take two weeks to get in touch and another two weeks to actually do something together.<br><br>
And then on the rare time she can do something, I'd have a bleeding attack and cancel so maybe she feels the same about me.
 

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That's the way it is for me, too. I think it's just when people are older and have more responsibilities, more planning time is required. In college I saw people every day for lunch, dinner and class. No longer.<br><br><br><br>
The best solution is to slowly get more and more friends. Younger ones are often better because they are more flexible, but often, just anyone without a spouse, kids or high power job or school.
 

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My friend is a (______) workaholic<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">.
 

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It is hard to schedule things. That's part of life. Things come up, people get sick, life gets in the way. The only thing you can do is try, and if something comes up- reschedule.<br><br><br><br>
I see my best friend about once a month since we both have exactly opposite schedules. For the last 3 or 4 months, the only time we have hung out is when I go and meet her at her work and we have lunch together.<br><br><br><br>
Don't even get me started on trying to plan something with my boyfriend.
 

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You could also try "spontaneous scheduling." I am terrible to pin down to a time when I will be free, because everything is busy and a bit uncertain at the moment, and I would hate to make an arrangement and then have to cancel it. But if friends call me up at 5 and ask if I would like to come over for take away and a film, about half the time I am free to do it.<br><br>
Similarly, making plans for tomorrow tends to be easier for me than making them a week ahead, cos if work other commitments drop stuff on you at that short notice, it is much easier to tell them you can't do it cos you already made other plans.
 
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