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Sorry about this, but I needed to type it out somewhere. Just to get it out, you know.<br><br><br><br>
My University roommate from my first year and I have always lived together. We shared a flat with 3 others in 2nd and 3rd year. Much of that third year was tough - for one reason or another she spent much of it not talking to me. As far as she ever explained it to me, it was because I worked harder and got better grades than her. Don't know how true that is. She appologised at the end of the year for being "a *****" (her own words), and asked if we were ok. That is the point at which I should have vented at her. Told her that actually, I spent a lot of my 3rd year feeling really down, and that this year I really didn't want to come back. But I didn't. I said that we were ok, sure.<br><br><br><br>
We now live in a Hall of Residence again (dorms, for US people), and in rooms next to each other. I never quite know where I stand with her. Sometimes its like we used to be, and other times its like 3rd year all over again. Tonight, for example. Our friends wanted us to go round to theirs to eat take out and watch x-factor, neither of which activities I am all that enamoured of. So S said that she just thought I might want to be sociable. Like it was an indictment that I wasn't, somehow. Sometimes, her remarks can be very snide, sometimes she treats me like an idiot. And sometimes (generally to other people) she is the nicest person in the world. She gets offended very easily, and I have tried to stop this. She knows she does it, and so why not just deal with it? She wishes she didn't do it - so don't. I can't help her with that.<br><br><br><br>
We are completely seperate sorts of people now. Much of last year I felt I was tolerated because she had no choice, and I'm beginning to feel the same way again.<br><br><br><br>
What did I do?<br><br><br><br>
If you stuck through that, I salute you. Thank you.<br><br><br><br>
peace<br><br><br><br>
pirate x
 

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If you don't live with her(next door?), you don't really need to deal with her if all she does is making you feel bad. It's not a fair "friend"ship.
 

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All I can say is good luck...I'm going through a somewhat similar situation right now- it's my first year in college, I did the whole "random roommate" thing...and she's annoying.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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I think I'd be tempted to spend more time with your other friends (or even make new ones) - I realise it'll be difficult as you probably have friends in common, but at least I wouldn't do things or spend time with her alone. As time goes on, relationships evolve and you'll probably find another pal that suits your personality better. Hopefully, she'll find someone else who'll be her friend too.<br><br><br><br>
If she confronts you on it, just be honest & say you are growing apart - it sounds like a conversation that is long overdue anyway. There's no point in spending your precious time in Uni in any relationships that are making you unhappy if theres any way of avoiding it.<br><br><br><br>
Dame xx
 

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Lol, I've thought about it...sadley, my grasp of interstellar physics is small. Difficulty is, as soon as I think something like that, she's great to be with. Its like she knows...
 
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