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My partner and I have been together for nearly 3 years. We have a beautiful baby girl and he became my oldest daughter's Dad. He is a great guy and we love each other, but we are always fighting (verbally!). We don't see eye to eye on parenting issues and this causes a lot of conflict. This has been going on for 2 of the years we have been together. We have tried and tried, things get better for a few days at a time, but they always get bad again.<br><br><br><br>
I am going to move out with the 2 kids, and we are going to try and work things out this way, since living together doesn't seem to work. It's more of a "what will happen, will happen" situation. I am not too optimistic, but I am willing to try anything to save our relationship. This is pretty much the last straw. I don't know if we are just slowly detaching ourselves this way or if either of us really believes this will work. This is a very confusing time for me. The children are in my best interest right now, I don't want them to grow up with adults arguing all the time.<br><br><br><br>
If anyone has any advice, please I'll hear anything.
 

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Have you gone to see a professional marriage counselor? Even if you have no intention of staying together, it might help you to smooth out what has happened in the past so that you can maintain a positive, working relationship with him for the sake of your children.
 

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I agree that counselling is important. Verbal abuse can occur from both sides - but, thankfully, can be a part of a bad relationship that can be "cured". Good luck.
 

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Even if he disagrees, you should go by yourself. Counseling often provides a completely different perspective that helps you learn better ways of communicating.
 

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he did agree to it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> i am looking forward to it. i hope this will work out. we defitely need to learn to communicate better. We do communicate, just not the right way all the time...thanks for the advice!
 

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Awesome! Good luck - I'm sure you'll find it to be a very enlightening experience. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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good luck to you both. i know from experience that counseling can be a tremendous help.<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>*~Danette~*</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
he did agree to it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> i am looking forward to it. i hope this will work out. we defitely need to learn to communicate better. We do communicate, just not the right way all the time...thanks for the advice!</div>
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I've been to counseling with my wife, and it definitely helped. It probably would have helped more if we put more work into it. Some of the things the counselor suggested we do took discipline and patience, and even seemed silly. But she noted that it may seem slow and cumbersome to "argue" like this, but after a while you will get used to it and it will become natural. We never really did that exercise after we left her office, but we are doing well now, nonetheless.
 
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