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This is pretty random and basically me venting so feel free to stop reading now. I'll try to keep it short.<br><br><br><br>
So last year I met this guy. He pretty much creeped the hell out of me. Then school started and he sat right next to me in one of my classes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/brood.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":brood:"> yeah so after he stopped stocking me, and i mean full on stocking me, we started talking and found out we had a lot in common. Then he pretty much went crazy on himself (he was really into drugs and stuff) and was always running from the cops <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/worried.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":worried:"> i was going threw a hard time myself (for different reasons). So after a while we were pretty good friends and then one day i had to go to therapy and guess whose there, yep seriously what are the odds. I guess his mom dragged him in to. So after that I started freaking out because I, well this is weird I felt like he knew to much about me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/lipsrsealed2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":sealed:"> and was afraid he would tell my friend, who didnt know and still dont know anything. So I pushed him away after he repeatedly tried to make me feel better. About a month later he just came up and hugged me and that was the last time I saw him. Like 6 months pass, no idea where he is. About a week ago I had a dream about him, that he was really sick and dying from drugs. It scared me and mad me realized how much I missed him, and how he was a better friend then anyone else I've ever known. So randomly I decided to call his house and his mom said that hes in a "residential home" which Im assuming is her way of saying a rehab treatment home. I live in cali, hes now in Utah. I asked if there was anyway to get in touch with him, but he cant write, talk on the phone or email anyone other then his family. I gave him mom a letter to give to him next time she goes to visit, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/undecided.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":-/"> which was today. oh and hes there for 2 years. so Im pretty hopeless right now, missing him like crazy, and regretting everything.<br><br>
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A pretty sad situation. It kind of gives a whole new perspective to 'don't know what you've got till it's gone'. Hopefully his mom will give him the letter. Two years is a long time. Maybe at some point he will be allowed to write or call and you can make amends. Just keep trying to keep in contact with him through his mom. If he comes out of all of this a better/whole/healthy person, it will have been worth it. Try not to beat yourself up too much. If you feel like you've made a mistake the most you can do is try to explain it to him when you can. If he's as good of a friend as you think he is, he will understand. Good luck.
 

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Wow Rae_rae,<br><br>
2 years! No wonder you need to vent/rant a little. That's a really long time. I have made some friends in similar ways, and unfortunatly, I lost touch with them after highschool. I often wonder how they're doing. I hope that you can reconnect with him after he is out of the program.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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Good Luck! Hopfully things will work out, maybe he can write back to you and give it to his mom. Does he have to wait until he gets out to contact any friends, or after so long he gets certain privilages back?<br><br><br><br>
Hang in there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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Yeah, I feel like that sometimes. I had a friend from Japan who came to my school for a year. We became close friends, and were always talking. Well after school ended, she had to go back to Japan to finish up the rest of her schooling. I still chat with her over the internet, but I miss her a lot. I have never felt so far away from someone in my life.<br><br><br><br>
Hope you feel better.
 

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His mom said he had to earn the priviliges and with the way he rebels, I dont have much hope.
 

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Maybe now he has something to look foward to, so it will make him want to earn those privilages! Just keep writing him letters through his mom, could he get in trouble for contacting friends through family?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> That's all I really have to offer. It's great that he has someone who cares so much about him.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>animallover7249</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Maybe now he has something to look foward to, so it will make him want to earn those privilages! Just keep writing him letters through his mom, could he get in trouble for contacting friends through family?</div>
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Yeah I'm hoping it will motivate him. I have no idea if he could get in trouble for it, but it was his moms idea. I think the idea is so he's not in contact with his friends that do drugs while he's trying to get better. I guess she had some sympathy for me. Well she is suppost to be coming back tomorrow so I'll update if I hear from him.
 

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Good luck! Yes please update and tell us how it goes, he will probably write back if he can! He seemed like a good friend, and good friends understand things, and forgive, and are caring even if they are going through hard times. All you can do it let him know how touched you were that he was there for you, even wehn you were pushing him away he didnt get rude..and now just be there for him. Everything else will work it's self out.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>animallover7249</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Good luck! Yes please update and tell us how it goes, he will probably write back if he can! He seemed like a good friend, and good friends understand things, and forgive, and are caring even if they are going through hard times. All you can do it let him know how touched you were that he was there for you, even wehn you were pushing him away he didnt get rude..and now just be there for him. Everything else will work it's self out.</div>
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Yeah, thats basically what the letter said. I was thanking him and said I wanted to return the favor but all I could do was give him advise. See my parents pulled me out of therapy and I said that I often wonder how my life would be if I was still going, but I'll never know and that he has the chance to find out and to let his story have a happy ending.<br><br>
Thank you so much you have no idea how much this helped since I can't talk to anyone else about it. I'll keep you updated!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>animallover7249</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Good luck! Yes please update and tell us how it goes, he will probably write back if he can! He seemed like a good friend, and good friends understand things, and forgive, and are caring even if they are going through hard times. All you can do it let him know how touched you were that he was there for you, even wehn you were pushing him away he didnt get rude..and now just be there for him. Everything else will work it's self out.</div>
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Yeah, thats basically what the letter said. I was thanking him and said I wanted to return the favor but all I could do was give him advise. See my parents pulled me out of therapy and I said that I often wonder how my life would be if I was still going, but I'll never know and that he has the chance to find out and to let his story have a happy ending.<br><br>
Thank you so much you have no idea how much this helped since I can't talk to anyone else about it. I'll keep you updated!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>animallover7249</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Good luck! Yes please update and tell us how it goes, he will probably write back if he can! He seemed like a good friend, and good friends understand things, and forgive, and are caring even if they are going through hard times. All you can do it let him know how touched you were that he was there for you, even wehn you were pushing him away he didnt get rude..and now just be there for him. Everything else will work it's self out.</div>
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Yeah, thats basically what the letter said. I was thanking him and said I wanted to return the favor but all I could do was give him advise. See my parents pulled me out of therapy and I said that I often wonder how my life would be if I was still going, but I'll never know and that he has the chance to find out and to let his story have a happy ending.<br><br>
Thank you so much you have no idea how much this helped since I can't talk to anyone else about it. I'll keep you updated!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>animallover7249</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Good luck! Yes please update and tell us how it goes, he will probably write back if he can! He seemed like a good friend, and good friends understand things, and forgive, and are caring even if they are going through hard times. All you can do it let him know how touched you were that he was there for you, even wehn you were pushing him away he didnt get rude..and now just be there for him. Everything else will work it's self out.</div>
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Yeah, thats basically what the letter said. I was thanking him and said I wanted to return the favor but all I could do was give him advise. See my parents pulled me out of therapy and I said that I often wonder how my life would be if I was still going, but I'll never know and that he has the chance to find out and to let his story have a happy ending.<br><br>
Thank you so much you have no idea how much this helped since I can't talk to anyone else about it. I'll keep you updated! Oh and i met him at my school when we were getting our pictures done, which im doing again today, so I met him exactly a year ago <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 
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