Hi, I had a question for older vegetarians, preferably ones who are married or have children or both. I have been vegetarian for maybe eight years now. I dropped meat in high school as a freshman. It was imortant for me because it felt like something I needed to do for myself. I am an easy going person, and I sometimes fear and feel like I get pushed around. I like to help others as much as possible, but I sometimes get nervous I will be more of a doormat if I am not careful. I became vegetarian because I wanted to prove to myself I could make a decision. I did it because I wanted to show that I could commit to something for nobody but me and that I could accomplish this goal no matter what anybody else said. It was an important part of my maturing process. It's been fine ever since until the past few years I've been questioning. I am now engaged, and so far things have been pretty good with regard to eating. My fiancee's sister was vegetarian, so it has been easy to avoid meat when we eat the same food. The problem now is looking to the future, in particular thinking about children. We both want to have children and neither of us want to raise them vegetarian--it was a personal choice for me and I have no right to force that on theoretical children. The concern is how to avoid meat as a family. My fiancee and I both want to eat communally as a family, so I am not sure how to foster a culture of unity without forcing my vegetarianism on others. Any advice vegetarian parents? Additionally, it gets into broader issues. For example, my fiancee loves Japanese culture, and we hope to visit Japan at points in our life together. She is nervous I would be able to find meat free food there. Even if I could find meat free food there, can you understand Japanese cultures without eating fish? Questions, questions. I guess the concern I have is looking to the future and the developments that my life will take. I don't know if it is selfish to be vegetarian because of who I was in high school. There are bigger things out there than my highschool self, but I am nervous about where the line is between my identity as an individual, and my larger future identities as a husband and father. Any advice older vegetarians? How has your life course gone with relation to vegetarianism? Thanks so much, have a great day!