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I'd also like to re-start this group if it's not intruding on the way Veggie board does things. It's dedicated to mental health. We voted on the name Phoenix Rising as a symbol of strength and overcoming obstacles.
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Thanks Michael.
Thanx!<br><br><br><br>
I had to attend two children's birthday parties over the weekend after working with children all week. So I'm definitely in need of some mental health tips <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="
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Let's start out with ways people re-energize. I love talking long walks. I also like to read inspirational books. One of my favourite books is the Little Book of Big Motivation. It's got great ideas on how to motivate yourself to accomplish your goals.
I'm sorry guys, I need to rant. Things are such a mess here.<br><br><br><br>
As many of you may remember from before, my small 2-BR apt is infested with roaches and a host of other problems, so we are moving out (May 10th!). In addition, you may recall (heh) that my BF's two omni brothers are also staying with us. (They're still here, and as yet have made no calls on apartments or anything like that.) Well, I know I sound selfish, but this past week was my spring break off from class, and I couldn't get anything done I wanted to because I was constantly trying to smoothe things over here at home. I had a week of relaxation and yoga planned, and now I am actually physically ill -- the famous blood-in-stool and, uh, "feminine" problems are back.<br><br><br><br>
So I just woke up this morning to make myself a bowl of oatmeal, and there were dirty dishes by the sink that hadn't even been rinsed and what looked like bits of chicken all over the counter (what happened to the lentil soup I made for everyone? They swore they liked it). . . there must have been 10 roaches in the "empty" side of the sink alone, plus another 10 or so on the counters that scattered as I turned the lights on. The dishes were crusted with food, there were wrappers to my protein bars (which I need for bloodsugar control today, my "long" day) over by the computer, lights left on, my computer left on, etc. . . I just want to explode. I know all this sounds petty, but a peaceful, clean home is important to me. I want to be compassionate because it's a stressful time for all of us, and maybe I am just "feeling" the weight of this because I am hypersensitive, but I want to ****ing explode right about now!! Compounding all of this is the fact that I'm about to go to campus for the next 12 hours and I feel awful.<br><br><br><br>
/rant<br><br><br><br>
Okay, now I'm done being selfish.<br><br><br><br>
Bethanie,<br><br>
After being around kids, I find that what restores my sanity is to do something for myself, usually alone, that'll restore my "adult" mentality. Maybe a long, hot bath (another one of your Calgon moments) and reading a book similar to the one of yoga essays you got from the library a few weeks ago? After your patience has returned, maybe then you can start implementing some of the stuff you've read about. . . and do something low-key, but fun, with your daughter.<br><br><br><br>
Evanescence,<br><br>
Glad you're here. I haven't checked the ED threads yet, but I hope you're doing okay with eating and all of that. Feel free to vent or ask for advice here. . . it might not be top-notch, but in a way, I have been where you are. Have your doctor(s) suggested anything for a good outpatient strategy, or do they still mention the hospital a lot? I used to get "tempted" w/ residential programs a lot, but could never afford them. So I wound up in a revolving door for inpatient units. . . I think there is a serious flaw there in the health care system, and I really hope you can avoid that route. (Incidentally, I had books of Plath and Rimbaud poetry stolen in there too, just to further sour the experience.)<br><br><br><br>
AuroraLily,<br><br>
Good ideas =) I myself am purging now (obviously) in an effort to clear my mind, and then I'm heading to yoga class to maybe work through some of this stress, and give myself some "sacred time" as well. I might also go to the campus arboretum on break this afternoon to try to find a bit of peace, or at least have a pleasant walk.<br><br><br><br>
Snowbunny,<br><br>
*Hugs* You're always welcome to share here. We lost the mission statement in the move from the old boards, but fundamental to this group/thread is a spirit of support and nonjudgment. . . If it would help to talk about what's going on, please do. If not, just know that we care about you.
As many of you may remember from before, my small 2-BR apt is infested with roaches and a host of other problems, so we are moving out (May 10th!). In addition, you may recall (heh) that my BF's two omni brothers are also staying with us. (They're still here, and as yet have made no calls on apartments or anything like that.) Well, I know I sound selfish, but this past week was my spring break off from class, and I couldn't get anything done I wanted to because I was constantly trying to smoothe things over here at home. I had a week of relaxation and yoga planned, and now I am actually physically ill -- the famous blood-in-stool and, uh, "feminine" problems are back.<br><br><br><br>
So I just woke up this morning to make myself a bowl of oatmeal, and there were dirty dishes by the sink that hadn't even been rinsed and what looked like bits of chicken all over the counter (what happened to the lentil soup I made for everyone? They swore they liked it). . . there must have been 10 roaches in the "empty" side of the sink alone, plus another 10 or so on the counters that scattered as I turned the lights on. The dishes were crusted with food, there were wrappers to my protein bars (which I need for bloodsugar control today, my "long" day) over by the computer, lights left on, my computer left on, etc. . . I just want to explode. I know all this sounds petty, but a peaceful, clean home is important to me. I want to be compassionate because it's a stressful time for all of us, and maybe I am just "feeling" the weight of this because I am hypersensitive, but I want to ****ing explode right about now!! Compounding all of this is the fact that I'm about to go to campus for the next 12 hours and I feel awful.<br><br><br><br>
/rant<br><br><br><br>
Okay, now I'm done being selfish.<br><br><br><br>
Bethanie,<br><br>
After being around kids, I find that what restores my sanity is to do something for myself, usually alone, that'll restore my "adult" mentality. Maybe a long, hot bath (another one of your Calgon moments) and reading a book similar to the one of yoga essays you got from the library a few weeks ago? After your patience has returned, maybe then you can start implementing some of the stuff you've read about. . . and do something low-key, but fun, with your daughter.<br><br><br><br>
Evanescence,<br><br>
Glad you're here. I haven't checked the ED threads yet, but I hope you're doing okay with eating and all of that. Feel free to vent or ask for advice here. . . it might not be top-notch, but in a way, I have been where you are. Have your doctor(s) suggested anything for a good outpatient strategy, or do they still mention the hospital a lot? I used to get "tempted" w/ residential programs a lot, but could never afford them. So I wound up in a revolving door for inpatient units. . . I think there is a serious flaw there in the health care system, and I really hope you can avoid that route. (Incidentally, I had books of Plath and Rimbaud poetry stolen in there too, just to further sour the experience.)<br><br><br><br>
AuroraLily,<br><br>
Good ideas =) I myself am purging now (obviously) in an effort to clear my mind, and then I'm heading to yoga class to maybe work through some of this stress, and give myself some "sacred time" as well. I might also go to the campus arboretum on break this afternoon to try to find a bit of peace, or at least have a pleasant walk.<br><br><br><br>
Snowbunny,<br><br>
*Hugs* You're always welcome to share here. We lost the mission statement in the move from the old boards, but fundamental to this group/thread is a spirit of support and nonjudgment. . . If it would help to talk about what's going on, please do. If not, just know that we care about you.
Matchgirl, I don't think you're being selfish at all. I know it's a difficult time for everyone but people should have more respect for your house and your stuff. You have much more self control than I do - I'd have frogmarched everyone into the kitchen and not let them leave until it was clean!<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, I hope you're feeling better after your yoga etc.
Anyway, I hope you're feeling better after your yoga etc.
DEFINATELY feeling better after yoga, thank you. I think I worked out some of my hostility, gained a little bit of insight into things during meditiation... my mantra today, chosen randomly from my teacher's cards, was "clarity". . . a lot "bubbled up" inside about clarity of focus, priority, seeing things for what they are. I know that I am hypersensitive, and I know that this situation is stressful for all those involved, not just the four of us who are living in my apartment. I think I am seeing things a little more clearly, and they do seem more manageable now that I am not clouded by anger (and stuck killing tons of bugs.)<br><br><br><br>
Fortunately my best friend (who lives 3000 miles from me now) and another very close friend were both online during my little break here in the library, so I have also had a chance to talk, come up with some strategies based on their experiences and our collective wisdom. Before leaving the house, I briefly told Philip about what happened with the bugs this morning (he was still half-asleep) and I know he felt really bad. I also left him a more detailed note. If he's not willing or able to confront the situation shortly, I'm just going to do it myself. It's equally our home, and both of us need to comfortably reside there, even with houseguests.
Fortunately my best friend (who lives 3000 miles from me now) and another very close friend were both online during my little break here in the library, so I have also had a chance to talk, come up with some strategies based on their experiences and our collective wisdom. Before leaving the house, I briefly told Philip about what happened with the bugs this morning (he was still half-asleep) and I know he felt really bad. I also left him a more detailed note. If he's not willing or able to confront the situation shortly, I'm just going to do it myself. It's equally our home, and both of us need to comfortably reside there, even with houseguests.
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this seems like a good idea, i don't know why we didn't have something like it before <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""><br><br><br><br>
so do you just post about problems and share advice? are meditation techniques a welcome addition? i tend to be pretty spiritual sometimes, in a new-age treehuggin' sorta way, and would love somewhere to share my thoughts, advice etc if it's not offtopic or too controversial or anything
"><br><br><br><br>so do you just post about problems and share advice? are meditation techniques a welcome addition? i tend to be pretty spiritual sometimes, in a new-age treehuggin' sorta way, and would love somewhere to share my thoughts, advice etc if it's not offtopic or too controversial or anything
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LadyFaile: It's a place to share major life problems or daily hassles. Some people just want to vent, others are asking for advice. It's just about supporting each other.
LadyFaile,<br><br><br><br>
I wouldn't worry too much about being controversial. Most of the "exiles" were part of the so-called "tree-huggin' veg*n militia" anyhow, so even if people disagree with your specific methods, I am pretty sure that most people on here, new and old, aren't going to be offended.<br><br><br><br>
I also have found that even those who come from more traditional, interventionist schools aren't necessarily 100% satisfied with their methods -- so alternate opinions are actually quite welcome =) I'd actually be interested to learn more about different meditation techniques that you might like to share.
I wouldn't worry too much about being controversial. Most of the "exiles" were part of the so-called "tree-huggin' veg*n militia" anyhow, so even if people disagree with your specific methods, I am pretty sure that most people on here, new and old, aren't going to be offended.<br><br><br><br>
I also have found that even those who come from more traditional, interventionist schools aren't necessarily 100% satisfied with their methods -- so alternate opinions are actually quite welcome =) I'd actually be interested to learn more about different meditation techniques that you might like to share.
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groovy, thanks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=""> normally i just put out the offer for people to PM me if they want to know how to do stuff, but i think it would help more people to be able to just post it, cause some people may want to try it on their own but aren't comfortable asking if you know what i mean.
"> normally i just put out the offer for people to PM me if they want to know how to do stuff, but i think it would help more people to be able to just post it, cause some people may want to try it on their own but aren't comfortable asking if you know what i mean.well my outpatient-ness this week consists of appointments in some form or another EVERYDAY this week. and yes the hospital is still an ever-present threat. i am very tempted by residential but yes they are all SO expensive. not as if our insurance has yet agreed to cover even my recent 57,000$ hospital stay. ugh.<br><br>
however,i have been eating like a maniac... which means i feel revolting but it should be pretty impossible to commit me this week.
however,i have been eating like a maniac... which means i feel revolting but it should be pretty impossible to commit me this week.
that IS related to mental health...i need to chill. i love yoga but i get in trouble for doing it too much because i'm technically not allowed to exercise at all. if all goes well this week, though, my mom and i are going on a yoga/ayurveda retreat this weekend!
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Wow...oh thank you thank you thank you for starting up this thread again. I thought that when we moved over here that we would lose all the wonderful support groups and now I don't have to panic! ...can you tell I'm a basket case???<br><br><br><br>
I'm so sorry for you, matchgirl. I really hope things will settle down once you move. While I'm not in your boat, I can relate to some degree. I have been remodeling my home for several months now and the mess is incredibly upsetting. I need organization and structure, and right now, there is none. Hang in there...just know that there are others out there that are going nuts with you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="">
I'm so sorry for you, matchgirl. I really hope things will settle down once you move. While I'm not in your boat, I can relate to some degree. I have been remodeling my home for several months now and the mess is incredibly upsetting. I need organization and structure, and right now, there is none. Hang in there...just know that there are others out there that are going nuts with you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="
">LadyFaile,<br><br><br><br>
Good thinking. I couldn't tell you how long I usually lurk places before posting at all, and even after that. . . wait awhile before I pipe up about more personal stuff. I'm sure you know a lot that will benefit many of us.<br><br><br><br>
Evanescence,<br><br><br><br>
I totally hear you. My parents had to take a second out on their house to cover my hospital bills. BUT, the retreat sounds wonderful. Plus, you'll have your mom there for support. Maybe you could try things like very simple stretching poses, or meditating in child's pose, and so forth. That might help you regain some balance and peace, while not burning too many calories.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Aarealskei,<br><br><br><br>
Glad to see you back =) Thanks for the support. Things settled down a bit last night, and my BF and I had a pretty good talk about some of the more pressing issues. He agreed that some ground rules need to be laid out, and he's doing more to ensure I don't feel so overwhelmed. . . doing more of the stuff around the house I usually do so I'll have more time to chill out, or do homework, or whatever.<br><br><br><br>
Today's officially another day, though, so I'm here at work trying to make the best of it =)
Good thinking. I couldn't tell you how long I usually lurk places before posting at all, and even after that. . . wait awhile before I pipe up about more personal stuff. I'm sure you know a lot that will benefit many of us.<br><br><br><br>
Evanescence,<br><br><br><br>
I totally hear you. My parents had to take a second out on their house to cover my hospital bills. BUT, the retreat sounds wonderful. Plus, you'll have your mom there for support. Maybe you could try things like very simple stretching poses, or meditating in child's pose, and so forth. That might help you regain some balance and peace, while not burning too many calories.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Aarealskei,<br><br><br><br>
Glad to see you back =) Thanks for the support. Things settled down a bit last night, and my BF and I had a pretty good talk about some of the more pressing issues. He agreed that some ground rules need to be laid out, and he's doing more to ensure I don't feel so overwhelmed. . . doing more of the stuff around the house I usually do so I'll have more time to chill out, or do homework, or whatever.<br><br><br><br>
Today's officially another day, though, so I'm here at work trying to make the best of it =)
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