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I'm sorry, this will probably seem like a stupid question..but I'm really trying to cut down on my meat consumption, I only truly eat one meal a day with meat and that's a forced dinner with the family..trust me, I've told them everything to change their minds..but they feel somehow I don't truly mean what I say...<br><br><br><br>
...Okay so, question..Say I have pasta, and my grandmother puts meat in the sauce...would it still be okay to eat it if I picked the meat out?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":up:"> yurh thats o/k , just do your best ....it will work out in the end<br><br><br><br>
See if your Mum will let you "learn to cook " your meals
 

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Well, I know how to cook..it's just the point that her making dinner makes her feel like she's taking care of me and my father..it's a very important thing to her..so is eating her food and not wasting it..o_O;
 

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I think that you maybe should try to just eat the sides your family serves. Like if your grandmother serves pasta with meat sauce, just eat the pasta with a little margarine or oil, and salt and pepper. Or just eat the beans and potatoes and not the pork chops. This may show your intentions better.<br><br><br><br>
Also, as to not wasting food being important to your mom, maybe not eating meat is just as, if not more, important to you.
 

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I probably will start not eating it...I'm worried about repercussions but this is a really important thing to me, and I would rather do without to stop eating meat.
 

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..it's just the point that her making dinner makes her feel like she's taking care of me and my father..;</div>
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Well you have a good mother , try and talk through a two night per week meal for you<br><br><br><br>
"you really do take amazing care of me and I like it , but it would mean a lot to me if you would cook two meals a week veggie " ...that sorta stuff
 

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Thank you for the help, I'll try that.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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The thing about being given a hard time by family members is that its impact is decided by the logic behind the judgment. If your family were giving you a hard time for, say, smoking, or being a coke head, than that would be harder to deal with, because they would be right. But when what they are giving you a hard time about is something that is logical, and compassionate, well thought out, and, well, just right, then within yourself, it should be easier to handle.
 

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Hey DJ. Why dont you get your grandmother to do what my mom does (or do it yourself with her...you know shell love you spending some time with her) and put some not meat sauce in a small pot? If you cook WITH her, shell feel closer to you and get that family bonding, she can make sure you're eating, ect...also tell them about nutrition, they dont have to cater to you. Alot of meals can be made with simple adjustments.
 

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I understand that..but what gets to me most if I'll tell them facts about cows being slaughtered, or what's in their meat..and it doesn't disgust them..they just kind of brush it off.
 

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I understand that..but what gets to me most if I'll tell them facts about cows being slaughtered, or what's in their meat..and it doesn't disgust them..they just kind of brush it off.</div>
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My dad does the same thing, then goes and: shots, and guts a deer[turkey, bear, fish...] (taking pictures along the way, of course!) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/brood.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":brood:"><br><br><br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/spew.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":spew:"> I know, sweetie, it's hard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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slaughtered, or what's in their meat..and it doesn't disgust them..they just kind of brush it off.</div>
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Thats a pretty common reply from meat eaters<br><br><br><br>
just tell them you dont like meat , the taste the smell or what ever just like they dont like certain foods
 

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sometimes when my mom makes spaghetti she leaves the ground beef or sausage aside, if she is in a good mood. or she'll let me grab some sauce before she puts the meat in.
 

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Pasta is easy to make for a mixed family.<br><br>
Just have a pot of vegan sauce, and a pot of animal flesh sauce.
 

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I also suggested to DJ in school that maybe when (forexample...) when her dad and mommom are having hotdogs (which really make DJ sick) that she could have something like a veggie dog. It can be prepared the same way, and everything.<br><br><br><br>
BTW, have you checked out the recipe forum on this site? And I have a book thats amazing. I know you dont want them to cater to your needs, but some of this food they will want as a meal sometimes. (If you get enough recipes from this book...you can have a few veggie meals a weeek...then maybe the rest of the week do the tricks people have mentioned here to avoid meat. It will work.)
 

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I understand that..but what gets to me most if I'll tell them facts about cows being slaughtered, or what's in their meat..and it doesn't disgust them..they just kind of brush it off.</div>
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This might be compromising too much for you, but as suggested eat only the side dishes. Then, when asked why the meat is still left, just tell them that you really don't enjoy eating meat, the taste, smell, etc.<br><br>
My mother accepts this far easier than anything else. Taste is subjective and she can't tell me that I'm right or wrong. She still likes to cook meat, but she knows that I won't eat it, so she has stopped making any for me.<br><br>
So, if they aren't willing to accept your veg*nism for ethical reasons, maybe ease them into it with the taste factor.<br><br><br><br>
Just a thot,<br><br>
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Hey. Chelsea has given you some really great advice and taken everything I was going to say. You're very lucky to have her around <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br><br><br>
Although they might not be open to this, how about you buy some faux meat chunks or mince or whatever is a good replacement in the pasta sauce. If you can do this with your own money it's even better, because it shows commitment, but if you have to persuade your parents to pay don't worry about it. Suggest you make the pasta sauce with this for a change. If they don't want to, make a seperate sauce for you using this. Your grandmother might feel more comfortable with you not eating meat if she doesn't feel like you are "missing out".<br><br>
Like Chelsea said, she might also feel that a strange meals/but cooking with granddaughter tradeoff is one worth making, rather than you just asking her to cook it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I understand that..but what gets to me most if I'll tell them facts about cows being slaughtered, or what's in their meat..and it doesn't disgust them..they just kind of brush it off.</div>
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It sounds like you're trying to convert them to not eating meat, which isn't the right approach. Just tell them that you want to be a vegetarian, specifically point out that you're not trying to convert them, and ask if they'll work with you.<br><br><br><br>
If you're trying to preach to them, they're more likely to feel threatened and get defensive. If you ask nicely and point out that you're not trying to change their lifestyle, then they'll be more likely to work with you.<br><br><br><br>
--Fromper<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/juggle.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":juggle:">
 
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