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I have been vegetarian since Xmas of 2004. I have been vegan since September 2006. It is now January 2007 and I am just sick and tired of caring.<br><br><br><br>
I won't get into the whole deal, but I have a lot of issues that I care about (world issues, social minorities, animal rights, global warming, urban sprawl, etc.). The consequence? A whole lot of things on my mind. Caring and worrying go hand in hand for me. And I am just plain tired of having to care about every bite I take, apple I choose, dollar I spend.<br><br><br><br>
The temptation right now (more powerful than ever) is to let things go. Eat food because it tastes good. Buy shampoo because I like the label. Wear leather running shoes because they're cheap.<br><br><br><br>
My question is... What do I do? Is it justifiable to take a break? Would powering through this funk wear me out, or pay off in the end? Has anyone else hit a brick wall like this? How did you deal with it? Any advice would be SOOOO welcome. Thanks and take care!
 

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I don't have much advice,just encouragement I know that I feel like this sometimes. It really makes me understand the concept of ignorance being bliss. The best I can give you is that powering through it WILL pay off. As with anything, some degree of sleep it off is true. And you'll be glad you did when you refresh.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck.
 

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I understand how worrying and caring go hand in hand for you. I struggle with the same problem. I have a feeling that's why I pulled away from politics - So much to deal with and it feels like it may never change. As I went from lacto-veggie to vegan, I stressed out soooo bad, too. Every choice I made felt like it had to be perfect.<br><br><br><br>
So first off, remember that your just human. We make mistakes and we get stressed.<br><br><br><br>
Sit back and look at the situation. Where is your motivation coming from? You need to remember why you make these hard choices. Do you feel like you have support from yourself and others in this, or does it feel like it's always an uphill battle?<br><br><br><br>
You also sad you have a lot of issues you care about. Maybe your focusing your energy on too many at once?
 

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It's difficult to give advice without knowing a little bit more. Ask yourself why you went vegan. Reflect on your reasons, and remember them.
 

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Moogle - I know how you feel! It is exhausting to put our energy into so many causes! And to have to weigh so many different pros and cons with every choice that we make! I totally get it.<br><br><br><br>
I really do think you'll feel more at peace with yourself and your life if you power through and stick to your convictions. Also keep in mind that the same things that are good for the animals, the planet, the economy, etc are also good for you! Eating a vegan diet is good for you. Walking instead of driving is good for you! It may seem like a hassle now, but as time goes by all these things will become more of a way of life and you won't be able to imagine it any other way.<br><br><br><br>
Stay strong and take care!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sunny.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":sunny:">
 

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It is hard to care all the time.<br><br>
That's why I can't- It's too exhausting. I feel like I can only handle focusing on a few issues at a time, so I do what I can and I am at peace with that.<br><br>
Sometimes I focus on environmental issues, sometimes I focus on social issues, but I personally can't do it all at once. No one can (although so many of us wish we could).<br><br><br><br>
I think that veganism is wonderful in that you are helping on a whole lot of levels at the same time, environmental, AR, your own personal health, etc. I try to do some volunteer work, be kind to everyone and try to practise ahimsa in my daily life, as well as choosing my consumer goods, including food with ethics and the environment in mind.<br><br><br><br>
But it's ok if you don't worry about every single decision. If I forget my cloth bags at home, and I need to go to the store, I just take the plastic bags and forgive myself (and I make sure to re-use/recycle them later).<br><br>
If I need a chocolate fix and the HFS is closed, I might buy some plain vegan dark chocolate that is proabably chock full of pesticides, and definitely not fair trade.... And that's ok.<br><br><br><br>
I can't put 100% into it all the time. I tried, and I failed, and then I had to take a break. I started eating eggs and dairy again. I stopped worrying about buying all ethical/fair trade/organic/local stuff all the time. Then that lifestyle got to me, and I felt ready to take more on again, go vegan again, take care of the world and myself, but in a way that is not obsessed with trying to be perfect.<br><br>
I personally think it's about balancing your mental health with the rest of your concerns. You have to think about you too, because if you go crazy, trying to make the least harmful choices all the time, you won't be any good to anyone!<br><br><br><br>
My rambling point is, don't give up, take a break if you need to, but you don't really need to give it all up. Just be kind to yourself as well!
 

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If you make a mistake,that's perfectly understandable...if you deliberately buy products out of cheapness/convenience,I think you're being very selfish.
 

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Hey Moogle! I'm a new vegan too (three months) and I'm going through a lot of the same things right now. I had a bit of a mental breakdown the other night because I was watching a PETA video and I started feeling like I was failing all those animals, because they're counting on me to help them and I can't. I feel the same way about the environment - whenever I see someone dump a plastic bottle into the garbage instead of recycling it, I get so angry, and I start wishing that I could live my life like that, just not caring and being blissfully ignorant. But once you start caring, there's no way to stop. I don't think I could ever give up being vegan, no matter how hard it may be sometimes, and I don't think you could either. You just have to remind yourself that you can't save everyone and everything at once, and that you're already making a big contribution to solving the problems in this world.<br><br><br><br>
My best advice would be to take a break - but not in the way you mean. Take a whole day for yourself. Relax at home, have a spa day (or even book a day at the spa if you can afford it - I don't know where you live, but I'm pretty sure Aveda spas use mostly vegan products), spend the day sitting in a comfortable chair with hot tea and floofy novels, do yoga, watch funny movies, whatever you need to do. Just take a day to be completely selfish and self-absorbed and isolated from the world, because you can't care about everything all the time. That's actually my plan for the day!<br><br><br><br>
Good luck! Don't be too hard on yourself. I think everyone feels frustrated and exhausted sometimes, but even though it may not feel like it, you are making a difference. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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I am just sick and tired of caring.</div>
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Guess there's caring, caring too much and caring for yourself.<br><br>
To live the life style you do is great! Compassion is the thing of saints.<br><br>
Focusing on your own happiness is crucial. What have you done for yourself lately? Quit the worrying it has no possitive effect in the world, only negitive consequences on your life. I dfon't think your lifestyle should bring you to worry. It should bring you great satifaction and inner peace knowing you are making a difference in the world.
 

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Hi there - just wanted to let you know that this type of feeling isn't restricted to just veg*ns.... I remember when I first started getting into environmentalism - I was sooooo upset about the pollution around me, furious with everything so wasteful from plastic silverware, to plastic bags, to styrofoam - I renounced all of it in my life. And then came environmental politics, and it seems like the work is never over - I call it "bleeding heart syndrome", lol. The point is - I started feeling better when I came to realize that my efforts DO make a difference. In the years that I've been doing this, my actions have caught on to others. My friends after watching me be vegetarian for many years, are now only using organic dairy or meat, and some have become vegetarian themselves, they don't buy wasteful things, they use environmentally friendly products - every little bit helps. I say, stick to it. It stops hurting so much after a while and just becomes part of who you are. :)
 

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Thanks for all the encouragement- you are all really good people!! I was just in such a funk this last week. And I really am the only vegan around so I'm constantly challenged and questioned... But I will stick to it. I appreciate everyone's advice.<br><br><br><br>
Just one comment for Auggie: Selfish is a little harsh. Please don't assume to know how much money I can spare on an $8 bottle of shampoo. You don't know what that leaves for food.<br><br><br><br>
Thanks again everyone and have a great weekend! *hugs for all*
 

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We all feel discouraged from time to time. It's just the nature of the narrow path.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
To use anaccount from the bible that is often used as a metaphor for Christian life, but works here too.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Jesus stayed behind to pray and say farewell to the crowds of people, while several of his disciples went ahead to the next village across the lake. So Jesus was catching up with them by strolling across the top of the water cuz thats how He rolls. The disciples were afraid, and Jesus was like "don't be afraid", and then asked Peter to come to him. So Peter stepped out of the boat, and was chillin on top of the water too. But then homes got afraid of the waves and started freaking out and started to sink. And Jesus was like "dude, where's the faith?" and reached out and caught him.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Many times in life, we are called to do something grand, something different, something the world will tell us not to. But we should step out in faith, step out in boldness that things will be fine. But sometimes the waves call to us saying: "you're not good enough!", "you will fail!", "nothing will change!" and we let it get to us and we start to sink.<br><br><br><br>
The waves of life will always be there. We must have the faith and determination to stay focused on the goal. Whether that is Christ, or animal liberation. Stay focused on the goal, and don't turn your eyes to be discouraged by the storm of life.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
No one ever said this would be easy. We are light in a dark world. The shadows exist around every turn. And while we sometimes feel discouraged at it all, or covet the ease of the wide path, we must stay strong.<br><br><br><br>
The animals need us. The weak need us.<br><br>
They don't have the option of easy paths, they live their lives in agony, from birth to death in torture. It is up to us, up to you to change that. And while the waves of the world say it will never change, we must run onward.<br><br><br><br>
Step forward - for them.
 

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You said you wanted to buy shampoo because you like the label and that,to me,is selfish.<br><br><br><br>
What is the point of 'taking a break' from veganism?If it's to eat cheese,buy leather shoes,etc. and be carefree and ignorant like everyone else then yes,it is selfish.Count me out.
 

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if you deliberately buy products out of cheapness/convenience,I think you're being very selfish.</div>
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I, too, take offense at part of this statement. Convenience can be a selfish thing, I agree with that part, but cheapness?<br><br><br><br>
Don't judge until you've walked in my shoes.<br><br><br><br>
I have X amount of money to provide food for my family every week. We're vegetarian. Believe me, we don't buy any luxury (or "junk") items though. I stretch each penny until it bleeds.<br><br>
Sometimes I have no choice but to buy the cheaper product even though I know it may not be the best for the environment.<br><br>
I can choose those more expensive, environmentally/animal friendly products, yes, and deprive my children of basic necessities, but that seems just as selfish to me, if not downright neglectful towards my children.<br><br><br><br>
We make every effort to be as caring and unselfish as possible, but sometimes (like most of the replies here have said) you do as much as you can do while taking care of yourself too. I don't think that's selfish.
 

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My advice is to go back to vegetarianism. It is better to take a step back then to completely fall.<br><br>
Personally, I am afraid to eat meat now cause I am worried of having huge regret. But.... GOOD LUCK!
 

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You say that you care about animal rights and the environment. If you care about these issues, you can't justify eating meat again. "Forget" to check the label once in a while if you must, but dont quit being vegan. Just try to remember why you started and use that as motivation.
 

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Moogle,<br><br><br><br>
Many of us can relate to how you feel. Sometimes I feel like no matter how much I do, I feel like I'm still not doing enough. When you care about multiple causes it can wear you out emotionally if you are not careful.<br><br><br><br>
For some people "taking a break" may work but for others it just makes them feel worse. It can lead to feelings of guilt that makes one feel even more overwhelmed than before... which leads to taking more "breaks" ...which leads to more guilt. I've been caught in that cycle before. It can be very frustrating.<br><br><br><br>
If you do have a slip-up, take a deep breath, forgive yourself, and start over.<br><br><br><br>
In order to prevent becoming overwhelmed, it is important to do something for yourself every day. Take at least 15 -20 minutes a day to do something enjoyable just for yourself. Take a walk. Read a book. Meditate. Do yoga. Spend some time on a hobby. The important thing is that you take care of yourself.<br><br><br><br>
I have found that going for a walk in the woods or the park helps me quite a bit. It helps to clear my head and makes me feel more in touch with nature and myself. It re-energizes me and helps me keep a feeling of balance in my life.<br><br><br><br>
I hope that you can find a positive outlet for yourself. Good luck.
 

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I have been feeling that way too- like I'm not doing much for the animals or the environment because I am only one person. But it takes only one person to start positive changes in others. It took one person to realize that factory farming was cruel, and eventually led all of us on the journey to vegetarianism. I agree that you should take some time for yourself and relax. I feel sometimes that veganism is just too hard for me, especially where I live. But I also know that one person saves 95 animal lives a year by going vegetarian, and uses a whole lot less of the earth's resources than omnivores. Just knowing that has made me realize that one person can do a lot to save the environment and its creatures on the earth.
 

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There are two sides to everything. Animals and the environment (and your body) all benefit because you care and worry. If you didn't care, and didn't worry, then you wouldn't make a difference. So it's VERY important that they go hand in hand.<br><br>
Geez, did that make sense?<br><br><br><br>
I'm gonna take a guess and say that everyone who is here knows the feeling of the heaviness you're talking about. I check these boards many times a day because of the "oppression" I feel as a vegan (have been vegan for a month) and coming here strengthens my resolve. I want to say "Don't get overwhelmed!" But you know what? It makes perfect sense that we get overwhelmed, it IS overwhelming! Just don't let yourself wallow in it for too long because that can be unhealthy.<br><br><br><br>
But what I'm attempting to say, and perhaps failing at trying to say, is that if we didn't feel this heaviness, then nothing would get done. You should celebrate yourself, and be thankful for your compassion. I thank you! You make it so that I'm not alone, and I am only one person. The world thanks you too...
 

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When I was there, I just powered through it. I still ate vegan and bought vegan and so forth, but I didn't think much on it. When others brought it up, I did my best to just shrug and change the subject. I powerd on through instead of giving up, because I still couldn't stand the thought of eating meat, and I didn't want to stop because I thought that I might never go back to being vegan.
 
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