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I'll try to make this short... well, I was friends with "M" for about 10 years... hadn't talked to her for 3 years, got in contact w/her, we e-mailed for a few months, then all of a sudden the e-mails stopped. (that was in Dec '05) I recently found her, thanks to MySpace, have wanted to write her, but I'm not sure if she wants to hear from me.<br><br>
We have such a history (she was close to my family, too...even had a key to our house) Like, I know we will never be as close as we were-ever, but I'd still like to know what's going on in her life.<br><br>
So basically-my question is, should I get in contact w/her? I kind of feel like she blew me off before, however I don't know if that was the case. Should I just leave it alone?<br><br>
I don't wanna pour out details, but I'll answer questions if anyone cares to know anything further. I've started to write to her, then have decided not to every time. Just anything anybody has to say would be helpful! Thank you!!!
 

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I say do it. As long as you prepare yourself that she may not write back. I know someone whom I was the very best of friends with for 7+ years. When I moved (not very far, 45 min. away) things started to cool off on her part. Eventually, she just stopped calling altogether. I was hurt at the time, but every so often, maybe once a year, I drop her a line, telling her about things and wishing her well. Nothing really happened between us, I think it was just something on her part that changed. It happens sometimes. Not all relationships are meant to be forever after. But I appreciate the friendship we had while we had it and I will always care about what happens to her. If she runs into someone from my family she is always very nice and asks about how I'm doing. She just doesn't make any effort to get in touch with me. So I let it go. I don't do one-sided relationships very well. But I still like to write her occasionally. In fact, it's about time now that I do. So I think it's ok for you to try and contact your friend. She may not want to hear from you, so she can delete your message when she's done reading and not respond. Or you just might make her day! I say go for it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I agree with the other two. Fire off an email, just don't be attached to what she does. If she replies, great! If she doesn't there could be a million reasons why, and they'd likely have everything to do with her and very little to do with you.
 

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Similar situation happened to me, and it turned out in the end she wasn't receiving my emails therefore she never replied ...so I say go for it cause you never know what can happen <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> best of luck
 

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Deffiently go for it, she may want to hear from you, and if she doesn't...her lost. You would have tried, and were the bigger person <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">.
 

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Deffiently go for it, she may want to hear from you, and if she doesn't...her lost. You would have tried, and were the bigger person <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">.
 

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TY all for the advice! I'm not expecting anything out of her... I'm more worried about how she'll take it than how I will.<br><br><br><br>
I guess I'll mention, last time I saw her was at my mom's funeral, who she was very close to. That's how I got in contact w/her last time, she called my mom to tell her to let me know something. So yeah, because the contact stopped, I'm wondering if maybe it's just too hard for her to talk to me because of that. Considering that-should I still contact her? It's been 10months since, should I give her more time? I just don't wanna put stress in her life by talking to her.
 

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Just drop her a quick note, nothing long and intensive. If she's not ready to respond, that's fine. With the loss of your mother, you're both grieiving, and this could either give you something to talk about if she responds, or it might be a reason she'd rather keep her distance for now. Hard to say unless you reach out.
 

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i just contacted my best friend from when i was 5 or so that i found on myspace, and she recieved it quite well, so i would say go for it! if you've thought about her, she's probably thought about you.
 

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I think a lot of people are over zealous with the spam blockers. I recently had an email sent out to a ton of old friends about my cat dying. I only got one response! I think many people did not write back because they never saw it in their "junk" folder because they don't look in there. Make sure your real name will show in the "from" column, and not just your email handle which she may not recognize.
 
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