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I've got the in laws coming in this weekend. They'll be here 9 days and MIL is planning to cook a lot as usual. So I know I won't be able to avoid the whole veg*n thing. They don't know yet because they live in CA and I Live in FL and there's been no reason to say a word.<br><br><br><br>
So now, if I don't strictly get teased about it and they genuinely ask any questions, help me answer some stuff.<br><br><br><br>
I have a lot of information and everything but now I am just trying to get my head on strait because no ones asked me stuff before. My mom thinks it's "stupid" but doesn't care either way. My husband is the only other and he looked stuff up and learned a lot on his own in support of me.<br><br><br><br>
So I need some like big key points to just go off of maybe I dunno. My main reason is my health but the more I read about the environment the happier I am with my decision. And the more I read about animals and their treatment the more I am disgusted by the thought of eating meat. (and less I crave it, because I will admit, I like the taste of meat, always have but I don't even want it anymore)<br><br><br><br>
So can I get help with some of the biggest key points there? I am boggled latelyw ith everything going on this week. Thanks everyone.
 

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If you're focusing on points for the health and environmental aspects:<br><br><br><br>
- on average, lower cholesterol diet (no cholesterol if vegan)<br><br>
- lower risk for heart disease and cancer<br><br>
- avoids animalborne disease and illness<br><br>
- effects on global hunger (more plants left to use to feed others if we don't feed it to animals that we raise for "food")<br><br>
- effects on air/land/water quality (pollution)<br><br>
- effects on global warming ("meat" industry is one of the largest contributors to greenhouse gas emissions)<br><br><br><br>
Those are just a few. You can find others and lots of statistics (I like to arm myself with numbers) online. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
Good luck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> You should keep us updated and let us know how it goes. It can be a stressful and sometimes irritating time to feel the need to defend your diet/lifestyle choices. I hope all goes well!
 

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I am looking stuff up online. Been doing it for a little while now. I already did all this a few months ago when I made my decision. Should have written stuff down. LOL. I want to focus on the health and environmental factors more because they will not care about the animals. At all. And will just cause more laughing and such. Not really worth the fight to me there.<br><br><br><br>
Thanks.
 

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Also, animal agriculture and the plant agriculture that specifically supports it sucks up huge quantities of petroleum. The more people cut out eating animal products, the longer we Americans can continue our love affair with affordable personal automobiles.
 

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If you really expect them to be hostile or mocking, it might be best to avoid these "justification" discussions altogether - you can't "win" them when the other person is more interested in having a snappy comeback than they are in considering the issues.<br><br><br><br>
One approach: "I decided it would be healthier for me and more responsible environmentally." Then, if they press you to defend that, say "If your curious about it, I can send you some links/references later".<br><br><br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I agree with Seusomon. If they are going to make you justify your decision maybe it's better not to "throw pearls before swine." No matter what you say or how right you are, they aren't going to care. Sometimes it's easier to just say "it's my decision and not your's so what do you care."
 

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If you really expect them to be hostile or mocking, it might be best to avoid these "justification" discussions altogether - you can't "win" them when the other person is more interested in having a snappy comeback than they are in considering the issues.<br><br><br><br>
One approach: "I decided it would be healthier for me and more responsible environmentally." Then, if they press you to defend that, say "If your curious about it, I can send you some links/references later".<br><br><br><br>
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I agree.<br><br><br><br>
When people tease me,i no longer try to convince them or win them over.i just stop talking or say something that is really silly or sarcastic.
 

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You are an adult. You no longer have to justify these kinds of decisions to anyone. Just say "I'm a vegetarian." Done. If MIL prepares something you no longer eat, have some alternatives already in the fridge and don't worry about it.<br><br><br><br>
My family occasionally teases. That's okay. They do know that I will not compromise on this, and don't ask me to.
 

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You've gotten some good advice <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I had a boyfriend's mother (we were together for 5 years) who used to try and sneak things in my meals all the time. I was vegan and she would sneak egg ingredients or things she knew I didn't eat. It made me furious. She would do this in my own home.<br><br><br><br>
I highly doubt you'll run into this. If you do, stay firm in your beliefs and just tell her that you do not eat those things. That's really all you have to say. You believe it's better for your health, the environment and the animals. You'll be ok <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> But be prepared for a little bit of shock on their part. People can be a little nervous when they find out someone is veg. They'll figure out you're still "you".<br><br><br><br>
Good luck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I have been asked why I am veg now, and my simple answer is for health and ethical reasons. I stick to that if I don't wish to discuss it further. I have also worked in meatworks, so telling your fellow employees isn't an easy thing to do.<br><br><br><br>
Choose your battles wisely. Seusemon was right by saying that arguing only defeats the purpose. Only respond with an answer if the audience is willing to hear the answer.<br><br><br><br>
You could point out that health authorities are urging us to eat more vegetables and fruit and plant foods for good health reasons, and that being veg is not being weak or hungry. Bowel cancer is one avoidable disease caused by eating meat.<br><br><br><br>
You could explain that beef cattle produce as much CO2 as 6x the same amount in plant crops. One person becoming veg is equal to permanently removing one passenger vehicle from the roads.<br><br><br><br>
You could also say that you now know where your food comes from, and that many meat eaters don't. How many have stepped inside an abbattoir to see where the little trays with plastic wrap come from?<br><br><br><br>
And then there is the major threat of BSE to human health and the sheer volume of hamburgers that are consumed may be possibly tainted, that are risking every consumer's health.<br><br><br><br>
I hope some of these suggestions are of help to you.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":vebo:">
 

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I think it's helps to discuss your reasons instead of just leaving it at "I'm vegetarian, because it's better for the environment, for my health, and the animals," <b>if</b> there is an appropriate moment for it. Why not be prepared with short bits of information and reasons why? If they ask you questions, you should be prepared to answer instead of brushing them off with a "Why do you care?" or "It's my decision, not yours," etc...<br><br><br><br>
Everything we eat, say, and do with regards to veg*nism plants a seed and paints a picture in the minds of omnivores. Being kind, open, and informative about your decisions will do more good than harm.<br><br><br><br>
...So, how did it go this weekend? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 
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