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We're moving closer to my husband's relatives this summer and we've been invited to spend Christmas with his grandparents, and I happily accepted because I hated the thought of not being with family for Christmas this year.<br><br><br><br>
Well, it just occured to me that the last time I had visited them I was not vegetarian, and his grandfather insists on meat with every meal. Now his grandma is the sweetest lady and I'm sure she'll want to be accomodating but I don't think she's going to have any idea what to do. I visited my own grandparents a few months after going veg and although my grandma tried really hard to accomodate me I was nearly starving by the time I left, and it was only a 2 day trip! The Christmas trip will be about a week and a half to two weeks.<br><br><br><br>
They live on their resort at the top of a mountain in Colorado, miles from any stores, so any special food I want will have to be brought with me. I just feel so akward about this since they're not even my immediate family, and I hate for them to have to do anything different on account of me, but I've got to eat! I really don't want anyone to feel bad. On the upside our accomodations will most likely have a full kitchen. Has anyone else dealt with this before?
 

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This happens with my in-laws too. I just state honestly that I will not be eating the meat ( I have brought my own veggie burger to put on the grill with their steaks) I usually make some comment like "well that means more steak for you". Then I put a positive spin on things by saying in advance, that I"m really looking forward to the veggie dishes and maybe they could make a little extra for me. I would also bring some snacks just incase you don't get enough so you can sneak it later on. Luna bars are great. Perhaps you could also offer to bring a dish you you love.<br><br>
Holidays are about family, not the food. I hope they remember that too.
 

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Hmm, well although we are going to be closer it is still about a two day drive, so that sort of limits what I can bring along without toting a cooler or something. Part of the problem I ran into at my grandma's was that she put bacon in most of the veggies and meat in the salads too! I'm sure it never even occured to her that I couldn't eat it. There would literally be one or maybe two vegetables I could eat at each meal and that was it.
 

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That sucks that she puts bacon into everything. Why ruin perfectly good veggies???? What about bringing things along that don't require a cooler like nuts, apples, seeds, granola or health bars, crackers etc?
 

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Yeah, that sounds good to me. I'm honestly way more concerned about hurting anyone's feelings than I am about myself. My husband's grandparents are truly the nicest sweetest people you could ever meet and I don't want to inconvenience them in any way. It's not that I think they'd be insulted, I think they'll just be constantly worried about me getting enough to eat, and I don't want that.<br><br><br><br>
I don't even think they know I'm veg. I'm considering not telling them, and just bringing along as much non-refrigerated food as I can fit in my bag. They usually put us up in a suite with a kitchen so at least I can cook for myself without being obvious about it.
 

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What does your husband say about it? I remember once I was really afraid of the reaction of my then boyfriend's parents, but he gave me a pretty accurate low down on how he thought they would react. You already know them, but he might have a different insight.<br><br><br><br>
ETA- you could also bring a lot of canned foods, like things to make extra veggies if they forget about the bacon, or you could make a 3 bean salad with canned beans and some dressing if there is an "emergency".
 

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Perhaps, depending on how controling Grandma is, you could help with the food prep. Maybe you could volunteer to make the salad from the ingredients she has in the fridge, and then you set aside some salad veggies in a smaller bowl for you that doesn't have any bacon on it.<br><br><br><br>
Be the nicest and most helpful you can, and one thing that usually works for me-- get them to tell you stories about their lives! Ask questions, "Hey, is that your wedding bouquet? How did you and Grandpa meet?" "When did you learn to drive a car?" "What's the funniest thing my husband did when visiting you as a kid?" etc etc etc. People generally are more understanding of you when you've shown that you want to understand them.<br><br><br><br>
I expect that as a daughter-in-law, you want to establish good relationships with your in-laws, so finding out about them is good for more than just being able to eat enough at their house!<br><br><br><br>
So, in addition to what others have suggested, this is my two pesos. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 
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