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Every year, my family switches off which grandparent's house we go to. This year, we're going to my mom's side.<br><br><br><br>
These people are very traditional. I'm not planning on telling any of them I'm vegan because they will think it's wierd and probably worry about my health. I am, however, going to bring a vegan pie, vegan stuffing, and some other things that I can eat.<br><br><br><br>
Does anyone have any ideas how I can cope, maybe tell them about my beliefs while not offending/freaking them out?
 

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You're too young to drink right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/undecided.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":-/">
 

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ask yourself why you would want to bring it up. Usually holiday announcements bring a lot of grief for all involved. Eat what you know is OK with your stance & bring respect along with that awesome vegan pie.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/penguin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":nigel:">
 

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I would agree about not bringing it up if you don't have to. If you make a big deal of it, other people probably will too. Just eat what you know you can. If someone asks specifically why you're not eating something, you can tell them you're vegan then. When they say, "Oh, I could never live without meat/dairy/gravy/whatever," just say, "Well, different strokes for different folks." This has worked for me for nearly 20 years. Good luck!
 

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Social situations like that can get tiring after a while... People always seem to make veganism the topic of choice as dinner conversation, when all you really want to do is just enjoy your food for once without having to defend your beliefs.<br><br><br><br>
I myself am debating whether or not I want to sit around a dead body of a turkey and say "thanks" this Thanksgiving.<br><br><br><br>
I wonder how people would feel if a dead dog was on the table... meh.<br><br><br><br>
sorry but yeah - the savagery of it all just really bothers me.
 

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Well, just know you can always come back here and have your friends on this board. : ) Im also dreading it this year because Im trying to figure out what to make. I wish I wasnt so stressed because I want to focus on what the holiday is about: Thanks for our family, friends, LIFE, and everything else.
 

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Unfortunately. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/blank.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":|"><br><br><br><br>
I wasn't planning to bring it up unless I'm asked, so that shouldn't be a problem.<br><br><br><br>
I don't think there's going to be anything for me to eat there besides the pie, sadly enough (mashed potatoes are slathered in butter, stuffing cooked inside the turkey, desserts usually consist of jell-o). I guess I could eat before I go, though.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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That's why eating meat is so stupid. BUT PNG IT'S DIFFERNT TO EAT DOG!! Not it's not. They're both animals.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Well, just know you can always come back here and have your friends on this board. : ) Im also dreading it this year because Im trying to figure out what to make. I wish I wasnt so stressed because I want to focus on what the holiday is about: Thanks for our family, friends, LIFE, and everything else.</div>
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Aw, I know exactly what you mean. I love everything about holidays besides the food part.
 

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Bring your own traditional dishes and make enough to share. I make vegan green bean casserol, stuffing, mushroom gravy and a dessert for myself each year and everyone loves it. If your extended family has a problem with vegan food just have your parents say they made it ( I had to do this for a few years).
 

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I'm going to bring a "buttery" (Earth Balancey) broccoli casserole that my mom actually created. It's really, really good and some people actually asked my mom for the recipe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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Do a lot of people attend at your g'mas? If so, just sit far away from the host, surrounded by family members who know your dietary habits, load your plate up with what you made, and just say "Man... everything is delicious... but I need to save room for PIE" then eat a bunch of pie.
 

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Oh, I wasn't planning on lying, I'm just going to feel like such a display. Like everyone's looking at me and thinking I'm a freak.<br><br><br><br>
Eh. :/
 

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The subject of me and my sister being vegetarian is always brought up at family events. Sometimes I want to discuss it and answer their questions, but most of the time I don't want to talk about it. I get tired of people trying to contradict what I believe. I don't tolerate jokes though. One year (it was Christmas at my aunt's) I got a bag of beef jerkey as a present...didn't take that very well.
 

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I'm going to bring a "buttery" (Earth Balancey) broccoli casserole that my mom actually created. It's really, really good and some people actually asked my mom for the recipe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"></div>
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Oh please post the recipe! I love broccoli and I'm looking for a side dish to take to my sister's house for Thanksgiving.<br><br><br><br>
This is my first holiday as a vegan too. My sister's family knows but the rest of the family doesn't know yet. It won't be quite as hard for me because they know I've been vegetarian for almost four years so they are use to my "weird beliefs."<br><br><br><br>
Just focus on the family and friendship and try to stay positive. Good Luck!
 

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Erg, I have to go to my BF's moms this year. I am bringing my own stuff (roasted squash with pine nuts and herbed barley, some cucumber and red onion salad with my own NYeast dressing and finally, a chocolate silk pie with banana's and strawberries.)<br><br><br><br>
I'm not so sure how they will react, they are big meat eaters and not too thrilled about people who are different. Well, if he loves me, he'll be ok with it. Right? I think I need to just keep being myself, and it will be tough luck on their part if they don't like me.
 

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I am pretty lucky since my family dont celebrate Thanksgiving.. no one eats turkey anyways. We're going to have a veggie dinner .. just the immediate family, no one else.
 

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I have my Husband's christmas party coming up he told me the menu meat meat nad seafood the only thing I can eat is brocolli unfortunately the thing is catered. I'm gonna eat before we go.
 

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I get tired of people trying to contradict what I believe. I don't tolerate jokes though. One year (it was Christmas at my aunt's) I got a bag of beef jerkey as a present...didn't take that very well.</div>
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I know how you feel. Why do people do stuff like this? I'm afraid of fire, and a few years ago someone gave me a flameless candle for a present (it's got little lightbulbs inside a wax tube and runs on a battery). Oh, yeah, loads of fun, everyone laughing at me. Yup, hilarious.
 

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Recipe is pretty simple... Just get some "buttery" crackers (vegan crackers with a buttery taste), crush them up and toss them in with some cooked broccoli. Then add Earth Balance and voila! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br><br><br>
Quick and easy to make, but everyone loves it.<br><br><br><br>
SummerSn0ws, that's is just cruel. I have a phobia of aliens (seriously), and I know how angry I would be if someone did something like that to me. Phobias are serious business and making light of them is not something that's tolerable.
 

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I hear ya! I'm planning on lots of sides. I am betting nobody notices they are vegan. And if someone asks me what I thought about the turkey, I casually answer that I don't eat meat. They usually just say, "really?" and a casual conversation follows.<br><br><br><br>
I don't get into WHY I don't eat meat, and if someone asks about the vegan thing, it's easiset to just stay "vegetarian, no eggs, no dairy". But I usually don't let it go to that point, I just keep it casual and often change the subject, or run after a child. It hasn't been awkward yet, but I also haven't done the veggie thing with this crowd for a big holiday. (why I'm planning to bring my own stuff I can eat~ Easter was bad this year, and if I hadn't brought my own stuff, there would literally have been nothing I could have had)<br><br><br><br>
GL! Hopefully it's not terrible!
 
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