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From my hubby that is. He does not like this idea about me going veggie. Anytime I say anything about it I get the rolley eyes and comments. It really hurts my feelings that he does not support my decision. He says things like well you are still eating dairy so you cant be a vegetarian. I told him to please read up on it, then he can judge me. I told him that eventually I want to go vegan and he hated that idea. What should I do. I mean, I am not the type of person who really cares what people think of me, but this is my husband and I would give anything for him to understand and support me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br>
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Mmmmm I had the same sort of problem starleen...<br><br>
And when my fiancee knew I wasnt going to have dairy and eggs he freaked out a bit and said that I will be... I didnt have any in the mean time and went to book shops in my spare time and read everything and bought books and searched on the net and really educated myself to show everyone that its a magnificient thing and my fiancee actually told me that he is really proud of me as I am learning all these things and he now gives me support... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
Keep up wht you are doing and read read read so you are learning and knowing how to be a HEALTHY VEG / VEGAN...<br><br>
Good luck.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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In the book " complete idiots guide to vegan living" It has achapter on dealing with other people. Don't let this get you down. After all you are the one making the waves. Like Vegihead said Knowledge is the key. treat him with kit gloves. Learn the techniques on how to approach and present you feelings. Most people can't understand at first. Learn how to be tactful. not in his face stuff. Eating is a very personal and culturaly based habit. especially men, you know like that quiche joke.
 

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Yeah Veganjoe.... I have just bought that book its fantastic to start off with... I suggest you get that starleen... its a great read.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
You will learn alot..
 

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That sucks that he's being like that, but it's something new. Once you do it and stick with it people will see that you're serious about it. A lot of people are in that situation at first, but after a while the people who were against it become vegetarian themselves!<br><br><br><br>
If you're just starting out, I would recommend the Complete Idiot's Guide to Being Vegetarian. Then after you've read that, move on the the Complete Idiot's Guide to Being Vegan. That's what I'm doing. The Idiot's Guide to Being Vegetarian is a lot better than the Being Vegetarian for Dummies book, in my opinion.<br><br><br><br>
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I think it's a shame your partner of all people isn't supporting you. Even if he doesn't agree with vegetarianism, he should still respect your decision for choosing that lifestyle. Perhaps you should sit down and have a real heart-to-heart about it? He seems like he might need educating, particularly since he denied your vegetarianism because you consume dairy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/inquisitive.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":stinkeye:"><br><br><br><br>
If you often feel deprived of support, please know that this place will always be here to help you through any problems and reassure you!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Wayne_D</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I think it's a shame your partner of all people isn't supporting you. Even if he doesn't agree with vegetarianism, he should still respect your decision for choosing that lifestyle. Perhaps you should sit down and have a real heart-to-heart about it? He seems like he might need educating, particularly since he denied your vegetarianism because you consume dairy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/inquisitive.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":stinkeye:"><br><br><br><br>
If you often feel deprived of support, please know that this place will always be here to help you through any problems and reassure you!</div>
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I agree. A good partner will support their spouse on any issue be it going vegetarian or taking up rollerblading. The husband described above is insecure about his spouse having an opinion differing from his and is acting out in a negative way about it. This is not about going veggie IMHO, its a power struggle.
 

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Be strong and don't let his opinion sway your beliefs!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/bow.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":bow:"><br><br>
I know when starting out as a new vegetarian, I wanted to "shout it from the roof tops", but then realized that alot of people just don't care. No matter how much you discuss the issues with them, they really just don't care, but don't let that deter you from telling anyone who shows the least bit of interest in it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"><br><br><br><br>
I will agree with you, that becoming vegetarian without any support from your family/husband will be a bit harder, BUT having said that, I did it and lots of others have too. Having somewhere like VB to come and vent and ask questions has helped countless others just like yourself!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"><br><br><br><br>
I have also become veg. in a family of non-vegheads, BUT after time, YOU will end up making an impact on his food decisions. Now, my family eats vegetarian about 80% of the time while at home and without me even pushing it on them.<br><br><br><br>
So, stick to your guns, get the support you need from others and let him deal with it in his own time.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br><br><br>
OH & Congratulations on your decision!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/broccoli.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":bobo:"><br><br><br><br>
Michelle<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sunny.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":sunny:">
 

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When I first went Vegan, my husband was not particularly thrilled. He tried to support me, but he was making very minimizing comments about me to our mutual friends, often right in front of me. It was a difficult time. I educated him, I stuck to my guns, and I made some compromises (like in exchange for having the Vegan house, I don't nag him if he orders fish for dinner when we eat out). We had a rough patch over the veg thing and other stuff last year, but we worked through it and are currently happier and closer than ever.
 

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Thanks guys for being so helpful, you all are great! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> I talked with him and told him that its ok if he chooses not to agree with me because I WILL NOT change my mind regardless of what him or anyone else thinks! I havent touched meat for 3 weeks now and dont even want it. I told him that I am not trying to change him because this is ones personal choice. I think I will just not talk with him about it for awhile and let the idea sink in, and he can talk to me when he is ready and hopefully he can get more educated on the veggie lifestyle.<br><br>
I will try to grab that book too! Thanks again guys, its nice to know I have someone who understands! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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From my hubby that is. He does not like this idea about me going veggie. Anytime I say anything about it I get the rolley eyes and comments. It really hurts my feelings that he does not support my decision. He says things like well you are still eating dairy so you cant be a vegetarian. I told him to please read up on it, then he can judge me. I told him that eventually I want to go vegan and he hated that idea. What should I do. I mean, I am not the type of person who really cares what people think of me, but this is my husband and I would give anything for him to understand and support me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br>
Thanks guys!<br><br>
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Hi! I went through the same thing with my boyfriend, although I was vegetarian long before we started going out and he KNEW this, he was really unsupportive, always making jokes or little remarks trying to get to me (example: we would be eating and he would hold up his steak and be like "Do you want a nice big juicy peice of COW??"), just little stuff like that. It went on for months until one day he pushed me too far when he said it was "stupid and ridiculous for anyone to not eat meat". I can handle the jokes and stuff but he outright insulted my lifestyle and what I believe in. I ended up getting really upset, we had a huge fight after I confronted him. We almost broke up but then he came to his senses and apologized. We had a long talk and he explained that he just said that because he doesnt understand it and its something he would never be open to, but he said he knows now that it is important to me and if I care about it and it makes me happy he supports it. We havent had any issues surrounding it since..he still makes the occasional dumb joke but I just have no response to it so he gets bored of making them.<br><br><br><br>
My boyfriend is about as difficult as they come, so if he can change I bet anyone can. You need to have a serious talk with your husband about how important this is to you.
 
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