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How do y'all handle receiving a non-vegan gift?<br>
Do you say "no thank you?"<br>
Do you graciously accept the gift and do something with it later?<br>
What do you do with the gift if you take it - donate it? Throw it out? Re-gift it?<br><br>
Just curious. My mother bought me a wool scarf, she thought it was beautiful and perfect for me and dropped it off when she was in town this weekend. She gets the whole me not eating meat thing, but she probably didn't realize it extended to animal clothing products too- she didn't know any better. I said thank you, and took it, because I felt bad. But maybe telling her I can't take it is the right thing to do?<br>
I'm torn. And expect many situations like this in the future.
 

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with my parents i'd tell them i love it but i can't use it because it's made with x or y. i think i'd do the same if anyone else gave me something non-vegan. the only time i would not say anything is if the gift is hand made just for me, with possibly a few exceptions
 

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If it's someone who is capable of processing why I don't want wool, I tell them. I don't always tell them right at that moment that they give me the gift, because that can be uncomfortable, but I do tell them later.<br><br>
However, if it is my 80 year old gran who is not capable of understanding my motivations, I just let it go.
 

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My 89 year old Granny made a me a wool scarf last Christmas. I accepted it.<br><br>
If my mother did the same, I would tell her to give it to my sister or something.<br><br>
So I guess, for me, it depends on the person giving the gift.
 

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I think it depends who gives it to me. If it's my nan, or an aunt I don't see often, I politely accept it. I'll take it back to the shop, give it to someone who'd appreciate it, or donate it to charity at a later date. If it's my parents or boyfriend, I'll explain that it's not vegan (although that never happens anymore, they can check ingrediants, look our for wool silk and leather, and ask bemused shop assitances if make-up contains any animal products like a pro). If it's a friend, it depends how well we know eachother, if they know that I'm vegan, and what the gift it and situation is. For example, a friend bought me milk chocolate the other day and I just said "oh I'm so sorry but it isn't vegan" and didn't take it, but then if it was someone who didn't know me very well and they'd wrapped it and everything - I'd probally take it.<br><br>
Yeah I think it really depends. There's no point embarrassing and confusing your friends and relatives (and yourself) if really it doesn't make a difference - my nans never really going to get what is vegan and what isn't, and the fact that she tries her best is so sweet I couldn't bare to tell her she'd got it wrong after all that effort. But if it's someone who understands why I'm vegan and what it means, and is close enough to me we know eachother well enough for it not to be horrendously embarrasing, I'll explain that it isn't vegan.
 

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I got something with wool. It reminds me every time I use it and it's annoying, but got no reciept or anything. I'll replace it when I get the chance.<br><br>
People are good with not presenting me with leather nowadays, though. Wool seems to sneak by sometimes.
 

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This is tricky stuff because recently a family friend of mine is dying and he knows it. Hes like 80s or 90s and VERYYY well off. He got my a beautiful set of pearl earrings, pearl necklace, and pearl bracelet. They are stunning and I know he spent a bundle of them. So I accepted but I can't help but think of the poor creature...I feel wrong not using them..I dont know what to do.. I need to think more about it I just got them yesterday lol
 

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She may find out about wool not being vegan from elsewhere, and wonder about you accepting it as a gift. You should explain your reasons for not wanting wool so she can re-gift it, or exchange it.<br>
I've had gifts graciously accepted only to find out later they weren't appreciated. That doesn't feel good.
 

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I think it depends who gives it to me. If it's my nan, or an aunt I don't see often, I politely accept it. I'll take it back to the shop, give it to someone who'd appreciate it, or donate it to charity at a later date. If it's my parents or boyfriend, I'll explain that it's not vegan (although that never happens anymore, they can check ingrediants, look our for wool silk and leather, and ask bemused shop assitances if make-up contains any animal products like a pro). If it's a friend, it depends how well we know eachother, if they know that I'm vegan, and what the gift it and situation is. For example, a friend bought me milk chocolate the other day and I just said "oh I'm so sorry but it isn't vegan" and didn't take it, but then if it was someone who didn't know me very well and they'd wrapped it and everything - I'd probally take it.<br>
Yeah I think it really depends. There's no point embarrassing and confusing your friends and relatives (and yourself) if really it doesn't make a difference - my nans never really going to get what is vegan and what isn't, and the fact that she tries her best is so sweet I couldn't bare to tell her she'd got it wrong after all that effort. But if it's someone who understands why I'm vegan and what it means, and is close enough to me we know eachother well enough for it not to be horrendously embarrasing, I'll explain that it isn't vegan.</div>
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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"> I agree.<br><br>
My Nan is over 80 but she seems to get veganism,<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":love:"> she did see my vegan shoes and comment that "They look just like real shoes" lol.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p">
 

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sometimes I just accept the gifts and donate....my dads sister gave me a pair of fur ear-muffs every year for about ten years before she passed....I explained it to her the first year and she said she got it buttttt she didnt and kept sending them along and I donated some to Peta when I was a member... and to the homeless backpacks.....I didnt want to hurt her and her gifts helped sooo many<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
I usually am the same way about food/candy gifts with gelatin and just give them to someone who can use them.<br><br>
Peace & Quiet Please<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I haven't had it happen yet, but my b-day is coming up soon! That reminds me to be even more annoying about telling everyone around me about being vegan! ;-)<br><br>
I think I would tell them right away. Just nicely thank them for thinking of me and explain why I can't accept. I'd encourage them to return it if possible or otherwise donate it. If you keep it and don't say anything they could just buy you another animal product on the next occasion! I think they would be more hurt if they found out later that their gift wasn't appreciated. Not to mention adding to the demand for animal products!
 

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I don't get wool things from people because I'm not really a wool kinda person, but I often get a lot of non vegan wine that people bring around when they come over for dinner or whatever. I give it to the homeless people that sit in the park. I probably shouldn't, but I love seeing their faces light up when they realize they're getting free booze <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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People get me an awful lot of chocolate for christmas. I've never been a big fan of the stuff anyway, so I'm used to just accepting it and saying thank you and then handing it over to somebody else. Cosmetics/wool/whatever will probably be donated or given away. I'm not sure if I'll explain or not - my boyfriend totally gets it and wouldn't get me anything non-vegan, but his extended family get me presents and I don't think they know I'm vegan at all, or what that entails. My mum gets it when it comes to food, but non-food products are lost on her. My dad is even struggling with the food side of things, although I imagine he will stick to books and stuff for me. So I probably haven't got too much to worry about in that respect.
 

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cosmetics like shaving cream and body sprays. I don't say anything, i just use them up if they don't smell totally disgusting.
 

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This is tricky stuff because recently a family friend of mine is dying and he knows it. Hes like 80s or 90s and VERYYY well off. He got my a beautiful set of pearl earrings, pearl necklace, and pearl bracelet. They are stunning and I know he spent a bundle of them. So I accepted but I can't help but think of the poor creature...I feel wrong not using them..I dont know what to do.. I need to think more about it I just got them yesterday lol</div>
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Well, there's no point in keeping them in a box unused. And it would not really be okay to wear them. So maybe you could sell them and give some (or all as you feel is best) of the money to some animal rights organisation.
 

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I would regift. I've done it with candy for years. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Hey...Diana...long time no see!<br><br>
@ mollycakes, I was just thinking about this the other day. Our very sweet neighbor came over with some cardigans that she'd knitted for the bean. I said to IS that I'm going to have to figure out a way to work into conversation whether or not they are from wool.
 

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If the items are food or drink i certainly won't touch them, and will readily give them away to anybody who wants them. If it's clothing items, i will tell whoever gave me the gift that i don't wish to keep it, and suggest that they give it to somebody else as a present for a birthday or christmas etc, or perhaps get their money back if they still have the receipt.
 
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