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How do you deal with it? I've been vegan for almost a month now, and while my BF is supportive, he's still eating eggs, dairy products, and the occasional fish. I know we don't need to both be vegan in order for things to work (we've been together 7 years and I'm not going anywhere) but I can see that it may pose some problems down the line - I'm especially thinking about when we have a child. I'll want to raise the child vegan, and right now I can't imagine he'd be okay with that.<br><br><br><br>
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Talk to him about it, and tell him why you'd like to raise your child as a vegan. Find out how he feels. You'll never know for sure until you both talk about it together. Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I've been a vegetarian for over a decade, and my bf is an omni. For the most part, he doesn't eat meat at home. He doesn't ever cook meat at home, he will occasionally eat a lunch meat sandwich, a frozen pizza, or order takeout with his friends when they're gaming. Otherwise, he eats vegetarian at home (cause I cook). If we have children, he knows I won't feed them meat, and they'll be vegetarian at home, and when they're old enough to decide for themselves what they want to do, then so be it. But not at home.
 

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My partner of many years is omni. She respects my choices, and I respect hers. We leave it at that, and we don't try to convert the other to our beliefs, nor would we ever succeed in doing so.
 
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my bf eats meat too. we've talked about it, and decided on a negotiation that we're both happy with. we aren't planning on having any kids in the near future (if at all- its still a maybe), but i think it's really important for us to get this stuff discussed before it turns into a harder to resolve issue- say, when we're weaning the kid, lol.<br><br><br><br>
we've agreed that my bf can eat what he wants, cos he's an adult- its his choice- like mine is to be vegan. if he wants to eat meat in the house, he cooks it- its as much his house as mine (he pays the bills!)- but seeing as i do most of the cooking, and that he knows i don't like it much (i don't make a fuss, but he knows my feelings on the matter), that doesn't happen much- i cook with milk and cheese and tip out canned fish onto a plate, cos i grew up with it pre-teens, and can handle it- but thats it.<br><br><br><br>
we also decided that its a parents responsibility to do what they think is in the best interests of their child, and as i have way stronger feelings about it not being healthy, or ethically sound to eat meat and dairy, than he does about it being vital to a childs happy and healthy existance (i think i explained this wrong but i hope it makes sense) i am fully within my rights to want to raise a child vegan, and he'll back that up. if at a point when the kid is old enough to understand and make a logical choice, the kid does want to try eating meat, then thats ok, but i'm not cooking it.<br><br><br><br>
so now all i have to worry about is his crazy relatives trying to ply my as yet non existant child with marinaded pork, cheesey junk food chips and squirty cream behind my back, and seeing me as a mad woman who is treating their neice/nephew/grandkid with extreme cruelty by depriving it of eating dead cow.<br><br><br><br>
when i spoke to my bf, i used lots of 'i think' and 'i feel' statements, and reinforced that as a parent i want to give any child we create the best start in life that i can, and for me a huge part of that is a vegan diet. just like i feel that feeding my kid a diet made up of of scarily coloured gummy worms, gallons of soda, cigarettes and mc'yuck food is not something i could be part of, i would be unable to raise a child on meat, which i believe to be equally harmful to health, and ethically unsound. to be honest, i wouldn't think about the option of having a kid with him if bringing the kid up vegan (or at least vegetarian with really limited dairy) wasn't part of the deal.<br><br><br><br>
my bf raised concerns including that i'd be putting (inflicting?) my personal morals apon a child, but we agreed that parents do that in a billion situtations every day- its their job to make those decisions while the child can't- its like parents who bring their kids up with religiously restricted diets- they have a reason too- they think its the right thing to do. we talked about how they'd be possibly unable to digest meat very well, and might get sick if they chose to try it later in life, but to me that wsn't justification enough to give it to a kid, lol. we also discussed that they might be teased for being different- but kids get teased for plenty of reasons- i never was teased for my diet (plenty of other things though) growing up as a veggie kid. we discussed the mixed messages a kid would recieve seeing daddy+members of his family+ of broader society eating meat, and mummy+ most of her family not eating meat, and how we'd handle that.<br><br><br><br>
and then we talked about all kinds of other stuff like using terry nappies, who we'd hope would work who would stay home and when, montesourri schools, peircing babies ears, etc.<br><br><br><br>
and then i let him go to sleep, hehehe.... poor bf.<br><br><br><br>
good luck!
 

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If I had an omni boyfriend, I would just refrain from eating his meat. No, I mean, well you know what I mean.
 

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HA HA!!! Nice one, Kpickell!<br><br><br><br>
Seriously though, thanks everyone for your advice. I think I will have a conversation with him about it...one of my concerns is that I want to be vegan longer before we talk about it - I think he's expecting it to be a phase that I go through, and honestly I want to know that I'm committed to it (right now I don't know how I couldn't be) before I talk with him about such things as the kid issue. It's on my mind because we've been talking lately about starting to try getting pregnant. I know I know, the best way to get pregnant seems to be to have sex. We're working on that one! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hump.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hump:"><br><br><br><br>
(all right, I admit I've been looking for an excuse to use that smilie)
 
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