my bf eats meat too. we've talked about it, and decided on a negotiation that we're both happy with. we aren't planning on having any kids in the near future (if at all- its still a maybe), but i think it's really important for us to get this stuff discussed before it turns into a harder to resolve issue- say, when we're weaning the kid, lol.<br><br><br><br>
we've agreed that my bf can eat what he wants, cos he's an adult- its his choice- like mine is to be vegan. if he wants to eat meat in the house, he cooks it- its as much his house as mine (he pays the bills!)- but seeing as i do most of the cooking, and that he knows i don't like it much (i don't make a fuss, but he knows my feelings on the matter), that doesn't happen much- i cook with milk and cheese and tip out canned fish onto a plate, cos i grew up with it pre-teens, and can handle it- but thats it.<br><br><br><br>
we also decided that its a parents responsibility to do what they think is in the best interests of their child, and as i have way stronger feelings about it not being healthy, or ethically sound to eat meat and dairy, than he does about it being vital to a childs happy and healthy existance (i think i explained this wrong but i hope it makes sense) i am fully within my rights to want to raise a child vegan, and he'll back that up. if at a point when the kid is old enough to understand and make a logical choice, the kid does want to try eating meat, then thats ok, but i'm not cooking it.<br><br><br><br>
so now all i have to worry about is his crazy relatives trying to ply my as yet non existant child with marinaded pork, cheesey junk food chips and squirty cream behind my back, and seeing me as a mad woman who is treating their neice/nephew/grandkid with extreme cruelty by depriving it of eating dead cow.<br><br><br><br>
when i spoke to my bf, i used lots of 'i think' and 'i feel' statements, and reinforced that as a parent i want to give any child we create the best start in life that i can, and for me a huge part of that is a vegan diet. just like i feel that feeding my kid a diet made up of of scarily coloured gummy worms, gallons of soda, cigarettes and mc'yuck food is not something i could be part of, i would be unable to raise a child on meat, which i believe to be equally harmful to health, and ethically unsound. to be honest, i wouldn't think about the option of having a kid with him if bringing the kid up vegan (or at least vegetarian with really limited dairy) wasn't part of the deal.<br><br><br><br>
my bf raised concerns including that i'd be putting (inflicting?) my personal morals apon a child, but we agreed that parents do that in a billion situtations every day- its their job to make those decisions while the child can't- its like parents who bring their kids up with religiously restricted diets- they have a reason too- they think its the right thing to do. we talked about how they'd be possibly unable to digest meat very well, and might get sick if they chose to try it later in life, but to me that wsn't justification enough to give it to a kid, lol. we also discussed that they might be teased for being different- but kids get teased for plenty of reasons- i never was teased for my diet (plenty of other things though) growing up as a veggie kid. we discussed the mixed messages a kid would recieve seeing daddy+members of his family+ of broader society eating meat, and mummy+ most of her family not eating meat, and how we'd handle that.<br><br><br><br>
and then we talked about all kinds of other stuff like using terry nappies, who we'd hope would work who would stay home and when, montesourri schools, peircing babies ears, etc.<br><br><br><br>
and then i let him go to sleep, hehehe.... poor bf.<br><br><br><br>
good luck!
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