[blackgrandprix]

my boyfriend left me for 46yr old women .and everytime she goes to work he comes over and stays the whole day .he tells me he dont love her and he wants to come back and that he would never see her again . i had a 10 realtionship with him .what to do he has been with her now for 8 months .help

 

[Nishani]

Omg, the cheeky bugger. He's bonking someone else and then has the front to come round to your place and hang around, no doubt with the expectation of getting some from you too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/inquisitive.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":stinkeye:"> - tell him to f**k off!

 

[blackgrandprix]

thank you . yeah it sucks hes bonking it but if thats what he wants let her put up with it

 

[GhostUser]

Don't let him in the door and tell him to f off for good in a not so nice way!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/whack.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":whack:"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thinking.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":think:">

 

[Blue Plastic Straw]

He's probably telling her the same stuff about you. Your issue isn't what to do about him, but what to do about yourself. You need to figure out why you're even considering a relationship with this deceitful cheater.

 

[Vegan Joe]

How is your self-esteem?<br><br>
Have some pride, search out someone with some moral fiber, instead of the great manipulator.

 

[kpickell]

Why would he leave this woman, when you're quite happy to be with him all day and let him be with her all night?

 

[blackgrandprix]

thank for all the advice .it all makes sence and i know what to do .its hard because we have a son .i know the hurt has past and its all anger now i really at times feel like getting back at him .then i think for what to be like him . thats not me at all .and as for my self easteam well thats pretty low .and did the no no thing and asked him what she looked like. he said she had a nice shape to her and a nice but .so now iam comparing her with me on my looks and thats why my self easteam is low .oh well me telling him to f##K off would be the best thing for me and my son thanks again all. thank you everyone blackgrandprix

 

[Vegan Joe]

Loving oneself is key.<br><br>
Excepting yourself for who you are is important.<br><br>
We all are special and unique individuals.<br><br>
None better than any others.<br><br>
You sound like a loving and caring individual, who can transcend these obstacles.

 

[GhostUser]

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thank for all the advice .it all makes sence and i know what to do .its hard because we have a son .i know the hurt has past and its all anger now i really at times feel like getting back at him .then i think for what to be like him . thats not me at all .and as for my self easteam well thats pretty low .and did the no no thing and asked him what she looked like. he said she had a nice shape to her and a nice but .so now iam comparing her with me on my looks and thats why my self easteam is low .oh well me telling him to f##K off would be the best thing for me and my son thanks again all. thank you everyone blackgrandprix</div>
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I don't really think it matters that you have a son with him. That does not mean that you have to get hurt while he plays games. You are better off healthy, than feeling second because you have a son together and feel like you owe him something. (and feel like you are being compared) 10 years is a long time, so I can understand the hurt, but no need to drag yourself down with it. You really don't need to get back at him, but take care of you. That means whatever is best.<br><br><br><br>
Oh and after the anger has past, you will feel stronger with much a higher self - esteem.

 

[rabid_child]

You had a 10 what relationship with him? day? week? month? year?<br><br><br><br>
Either way, I'd tell him "Don't let the front door hit you on the backside when you leave!" Why do you keep letting him in?

 

[CherBear]

Ohh I'm so sorry! What your BF is doing is called being a "cake man". In other words, he has his cake and he's eating it too - 2 women pining over him! I've got tons of info and a helpful website if you want more info PM me.