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Hello<br>
I've been vegetarian for 3 years now, and really want to go vegan. There's only one problem. I'm the only veg in my family, and my parents don't approve of me being vegan.<br>
Does anyone have any ideas on how I can convince them to let me go vegan? And advice, help, ideas, hints, etc would be GREATLY appreciated<br>
Thanks!
 

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Well, I didn't go vegan until I was out and living on my own... but my mother was still pretty opposed to the idea, despite me cooking tasty vegan meals and taking her to veg festivals.<br><br>
A few questions... How old are you? Do you have a job? Do you pay rent/contribute? Who does the grocery shopping? The cooking?
 

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AeryFairy's questions are good questions. Whether or not you live on your own is a huge deal (though I suspect, if you need help this badly, you probably live with your parents, or must dine with them frequently).<br><br>
Point out lots of foods they already eat that are vegan. For example, chips + salsa + guac. Pop. Oreos. Fruits and veggies. Ask them in a very calm, polite manner, if you could present them with summarized research that would prove that veganism is healthy.
 

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I would approach it from a health standpoint, google a whole bunch of HEALTH FACTS, print them out, and approach your parents in a helpful, friendly manner, as something that you really feel like you need to do.
 

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Why do your parents object?
 

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AeryFairy's questions are good questions. Whether or not you live on your own is a huge deal (though I suspect, if you need help this badly, you probably live with your parents, or must dine with them frequently).<br><br>
Point out lots of foods they already eat that are vegan. For example, chips + salsa + guac. Pop. Oreos. Fruits and veggies. Ask them in a very calm, polite manner, if you could present them with summarized research that would prove that veganism is healthy.</div>
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If you're going to list vegan foods that are 'normal', I wouldn't just list snack items. I'd go with curries, soups, pasta and rice dishes, bean chilli... things that are healthy and filling and could make up main meals.<br><br>
My parents didn't actually notice that I'd gone vegan until I mentioned it. Granted, I didn't live at home any more, but I was at home for about a week before saying anything. I prepared my own meals using ingredients that were around the house, and even cooked for my mum and brother. It was only when I turned down a previous favourite chocolate item that my mum got a little suspicious, at which point I was able to tell her that I'd gone vegan, had been vegan for about two months, and was perfectly happy and healthy thank you very much. Didn't leave her with much ammo.<br><br>
This may not be an option for the OP, however.
 

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Do you cook for yourself? This is probably the biggest thing in your parents letting you go vegan. I went vegan from omni, but as an omni I already cooked for myself. My parents were still very angry by me going vegan, but they've relaxed about it now. Just don't ask for anything special like sub milks or anything like that until they calm down, and just show that a lot of typical foods like spaghetti are vegan and you're perfectly capable of cooking your own food and teaching yourself any new recipes.
 

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Hey guys<br>
I have been on the boards a while.<br>
To answers a few questions...<br>
I'm 16, currently looking for a job, and yes, live and eat with my omni parents/family.<br>
I can kind of cook, but am not great (willing to learn though)<br>
So, on new years eve, I asked my dad, "Can I make a new years resolution?" then he said " You can do whatever you want." so i asked "Can I go vegan"<br>
uh oh... I was in for it. He walked into the kitchen. Silence. Then he said "You can do what ever you want, but I'm not going to prepare special meals for you and I won't put up with you complaining about getting a spec of butter on your vegetables"<br>
His tone was not a good one :/<br>
HOWEVER... His words still confirmed my request. So, I can now go vegan. First I have to finish a few faux meats in my freezer that are vegetarian, but not vegan. I also need to find a job, because I'll need to start doing my own shopping. So I'm hoping i can find a job quickly and be a full on vegan by the end of the month!<br><br>
I've tried explaining health benefits of veganism, but my parents don't really believe it/dont want to admit they're wrong. Also, I'm not wanting to be vegan for health reasons, but for animal rights. Even if veganism was unhealthiest diet, I'd still want to go vegan. It's not about me, but the animals. I'm doing it out of selflessness and compassion. I know its not convenient or easy, but I'm willing to put up with it.<br><br>
Also, shortly after I started this thread I stopped drinking milk. My parents (mainly my dad) allowed it because he knows milk is unhealthy. So now I drink almond milk. So I'm already pretty close to vegan, and it shouldn't be a big deal.
 

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That's wonderful! Good luck getting a job!!
 

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Although it sounds like it will be a bit tough, it's good that they're not as opposed to it as some parents are. Congrats, and I hope the new year brings you a good start! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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That's some good progress and you're approach is obviously working. Your parents are probably worried about you or maybe they think it's some kind of fad that'll wear off (that was my parents' view anyway!). Although since you've been veggie for quite some time that's clear proof to me that you're certainly dedicated. They'll come round, you've just got to weather the storm for a while. I wouldn't push it too hard either, a change of milk here, a polite decline of cheese there, it'll soon work out. Although my mum thawed to veganism a lot quicker than my dad did! Lol!
 

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Try getting them <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=veggieboards.com-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FRaising-Vegetarian-Children-Health-Harmony%2Fdp%2F0658021559" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Vegeta.../dp/0658021559</a><br><br>
I have been reading it to help me with my kids.<br><br>
You might also get them The China Study.<br><br>
However, if I were you, I'd teach myself to cook.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Floyd, the health aspect, you should look for articles by medical doctors, RD's, or in peer-reviewed journals that show the benefits because they're probably more likely to believe if it's from one of these sources.
 

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Try showing them Forks Over Knives, I recently showed it to my mum (who isn't opposed to Veganism in anyway and is in fact <b>very</b> supportive and understanding, but a rampant omni) and she vowed to significantly cut down on her animal intake. Maybe it will help your parents at least understand where you're coming from and can convince them that its a very healthy way to eat and so they shouldn't have anything to worry about (the film is largely based around the health impacts of a plant based diet, but there is some info on animal rights and the environment towards the end.)
 

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It's not that they think its unhealthy or anything. They know its healthier and better and what not. They're whole problem is then convenience part of it and the fact that I won't eat something if it has a small amount of anything animal in it...
 

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It's not that they think its unhealthy or anything. They know its healthier and better and what not. They're whole problem is then convenience part of it and the fact that I won't eat something if it has a small amount of anything animal in it...</div>
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Yeah, unfortunately a lot of people don't get it and are like that. What I suggest to you is to do the best you can, even if you have to comply with them and eat a bit of butter on your vegetables every now and then, and once you get out of the house and are on your own you'll have all the freedom in the world to eat and not eat whatever you want.
 
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