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*warning* If you are an advocate of young women having babies, don't bother reading

So, my half-sister is living with an ultra loser, who she lets spend all their money and they can't even pay their bills or buy food. Now she's pregnant. Well, jolly good.

So, she's all proud that she's 3 months along (11 weeks actually) and has gained about 30 pounds already because "she's eating for 2." Lovely. She's starving the poor baby with junk food, while killing herself at the same time.

The BF is out spending all their money to keep up with his friends. Between the two of them, they make about $40 per hour, and yet cannot even buy groceries. *He* owns a motor bike and a brand new SUV. She isn't allowed to drive either. She has to endure a 2 hour transit ride each way to work. He spends money on his little dancing club (at the tune of $1k per month sometimes) that his ex runs. Hmm...yeah, sure it costs that much to dance.

She still smokes. He still smokes.

She is 21 and, right now, has no greater ambition then to pump out a bunch of babies and stay home and look after them. Well, isn't that sweet. The question I have is who the heck is going to pay to feed these babies, because they sure can't.

The family all knows what is going to happen. The baby is going to be born in January. If she keeps eating the way she is, she's going to have a sick baby and be sick herself. The BF isn't going to like a crying baby and a fat, sick girlfriend. He's going to go out all the time (like he does now) and spend their money. She'll have to call home for money to feed the baby, which none of us will give her. Frankly, everyone has given her too much already and that's why she's still with him. We all bailed her out too many times.

Of course, after he starts whoring around again (well, assuming he ever stopped), she's going to get mad and pack her baby up and move back home. Which means, we are going to have care for her.

Maybe I should have a more positive outlook on this, but I can't. She had all these dreams and goals and as soon as she starting dating him, she lost all of them. I even heard him tell her "go on, break up with me. Who else would want you?" Sure, he was joking around, but a real man wouldn't say things like that. A real man wouldn't spend all their money on jewelry, cars, booze and nights out, when his pregnant GF is home w/o food (and for a while, without electricity). Sheesh.

I could just slap her. /sigh
 

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women who smoke when they're pregnant piss me off. women who drink too. my parents adopted my sister when she was 3 she has fetal alcohol syndrome. she was less than 4 lbs full term. its a life sentence. she'd 20 now and will always live with my parents. ill have to take care of her if anything happens to my parents. my sister can't bathe herself or talk. she's the size of an 8 year old. she's had to have upwards of 20 sugeries for numerous ailments. my parents adopted 3 special needs kids and everything that is wrong with them physicaly and mentaly was preventable. it's only 9 months. just had to rant
 

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To her credit, she is trying to quit, but it is hard when he is still smoking. She doesn't drink, at least, so that's a plus.

Skylark,

She moved away with him 1.5 years ago. They lived together for a while before that. She convinced her mother to move up here, across the country, to live with her. Once her mother got here, they realized that Dawn (my sister) was about to have the gas and the electricity cut off, 2 months behind in rent and about to be evicted. They sent a bunch of money and paid off all the debts and within 6 months, Dawn and her bf moved away. And now she wants her mother to move with them again. LOL (BTW, Debbie, the mother, said no way).

Dawn often lets her friends and bfs dictate her life to her. She acts loud and pushy, but is very easily swayed by friends.

I don't think he hits her or anything like that. She uses the excuse that he believes in traditional Italian family values. Well, forgive me, but I didn't know that traditional Italian values include screwing people over. And his family doesn't follow the same "values" as him, so I don't know where the heck this is coming from.

This all started when she "accidently" got pregnant and had a miscarriage. Then she cried and cried and said she wanted to get pregnant because she missed feeling the life inside her. (She was pregnant a week before she miscarriaged). I suggested she get a puppy instead. No, she said, dogs are too hard to look after. /boggle

We didn't grow up together. She has the sterotypical "never said no to" upbringing, no rules and lots of freedom. She fluked grade 11, so I told her that if she graduated on time, she could come live with me and I'd get her a job. She got herself straightened out and came to live with me in Edmonton. I got her a job as my assistant, which overpaid her. She was saving money to go to school, where she planned to take a combination of nursing administration and computers.

Then she met Mike. He convinced her to quit working for me and then she had to take a minimum wage full time job; working 8 hours for the same money she worked 4.5 hours per day for with me.

I don't understand how she can float around aimlessly, hoping everyone will pick her up. Now that she's pregnant, it's a different story. Thankfully, her mother and finance have decided that yes, they will take the baby in (if it comes to that) but they aren't bailing her out. If she can't look after it, then they'll take it. If she doesn't want that, then she can learn how to be a single mom on her own. I know, it's cruel, but what else is everyone supposed to do?

Of course, they are still together and all in love...except she doesnt talk about him beyond "Oh, everything's wonderful." But no one expects this to survive a crying and hungry baby.

Grrrr there should be testing before you're allow to reproduce.
 
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