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hi i'm new here. searched for a forum because I have a big problem. my sister started dating and is now living with a hunter. fine, except she's now all into guns and has taken a hunting class, expecting to go kill animals at any time. My daughter and I are vegetarians (I've been one for 30 years, my daughter is 6 and she's been raised one) but are quite tolerant of other people's dietary choices. my husband is a meat eater, but I don't cook meat for him-I used to, but I've drawn the line there a year ago and have decided I just couldn't any longer. my sister and her boyfriend are of course omnivores, and are hunting to eat the meat, but really don't need to-they live in suburbia across from a king soopers. I'm just finding it increasingly hard to deal with her change of lifestyle and more importantly, I'm not sure what to say about it to my 6 year old. My daughter knows that killing is wrong, and that killing animals is certainly wrong. We also believe that gun ownership is wrong but accept that others feel differently. what disturbs me is that my sister used to feel the same way, and she used to rescue animals! now after living with this guy and his guns (which are not safely locked away so my child cannot visit her apartment any longer), she's all gung ho about killing animals. She was never a vegetarian and never would have been, and that was fine, but the wanton kiling of animals for whatever reason by her hand directly, well, that's just immoral and I find it hard to deal with. I suspect that once my daughter finds out, she'll find it hard to deal with too and she'll ask me about it. what do I say when my daughter comes to me and wants to know how she can love someone who hurts others like that? btw, we live in colorado where hunting is rampant so I'm sure this will come up with other people as she befriends them. it's just harder when it's a family member, a loved one, who is killing animals, no intermediaries. would love some advice on how to deal...
 

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hi i'm new here. searched for a forum because I have a big problem. my sister started dating and is now living with a hunter. fine, except she's now all into guns and has taken a hunting class, expecting to go kill animals at any time. My daughter and I are vegetarians (I've been one for 30 years, my daughter is 6 and she's been raised one) but are quite tolerant of other people's dietary choices. my husband is a meat eater, but I don't cook meat for him-I used to, but I've drawn the line there a year ago and have decided I just couldn't any longer. my sister and her boyfriend are of course omnivores, and are hunting to eat the meat, but really don't need to-they live in suburbia across from a king soopers. I'm just finding it increasingly hard to deal with her change of lifestyle and more importantly, I'm not sure what to say about it to my 6 year old. My daughter knows that killing is wrong, and that killing animals is certainly wrong. We also believe that gun ownership is wrong but accept that others feel differently. what disturbs me is that my sister used to feel the same way, and she used to rescue animals! now after living with this guy and his guns (which are not safely locked away so my child cannot visit her apartment any longer), she's all gung ho about killing animals. She was never a vegetarian and never would have been, and that was fine, but the wanton kiling of animals for whatever reason by her hand directly, well, that's just immoral and I find it hard to deal with. I suspect that once my daughter finds out, she'll find it hard to deal with too and she'll ask me about it. what do I say when my daughter comes to me and wants to know how she can love someone who hurts others like that? btw, we live in colorado where hunting is rampant so I'm sure this will come up with other people as she befriends them. it's just harder when it's a family member, a loved one, who is killing animals, no intermediaries. would love some advice on how to deal...</div>
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I've had a similar experience, my brother started to get real interested in hunting, and this broke my heart, because he cares for animals so much. Before he ever went hunting he decided he didn't want to do it. Maybe that'll be your case, maybe not. But the only way to deal with it is to deal with it. You obviously can't restrain her from hunting, but you probably could tell her how much it upsets you. But in the end, if she does it, she does it. And maybe she'll regret it, who knows. Sorry if I didn't offer much help, I'm not sure what else you could do.
 

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I dunno. There's not much you can do about it really is there as we can all be quite influenced by our partner's hobbies and interests. Sometimes that's a good thing, sometimes not so good. In this case of not so good, all you can really do is hope that the relationship fizzles out.
 

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if your daughter asks it, how will it be much different than eating them? if your sister eats meat she is killing animals. i guess it will be just the same thing to say as if your daughter would ask how some people can eat animals
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Lisacaco</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2841918"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
hi i'm new here. searched for a forum because I have a big problem. my sister started dating and is now living with a hunter. fine, except she's now all into guns and has taken a hunting class, expecting to go kill animals at any time. My daughter and I are vegetarians (I've been one for 30 years, my daughter is 6 and she's been raised one) but are quite tolerant of other people's dietary choices. my husband is a meat eater, but I don't cook meat for him-I used to, but I've drawn the line there a year ago and have decided I just couldn't any longer. my sister and her boyfriend are of course omnivores, and are hunting to eat the meat, but really don't need to-they live in suburbia across from a king soopers. I'm just finding it increasingly hard to deal with her change of lifestyle and more importantly, I'm not sure what to say about it to my 6 year old. My daughter knows that killing is wrong, and that killing animals is certainly wrong. We also believe that gun ownership is wrong but accept that others feel differently. what disturbs me is that my sister used to feel the same way, and she used to rescue animals! now after living with this guy and his guns (which are not safely locked away so my child cannot visit her apartment any longer), she's all gung ho about killing animals. She was never a vegetarian and never would have been, and that was fine, but the wanton kiling of animals for whatever reason by her hand directly, well, that's just immoral and I find it hard to deal with. I suspect that once my daughter finds out, she'll find it hard to deal with too and she'll ask me about it. what do I say when my daughter comes to me and wants to know how she can love someone who hurts others like that? btw, we live in colorado where hunting is rampant so I'm sure this will come up with other people as she befriends them. it's just harder when it's a family member, a loved one, who is killing animals, no intermediaries. would love some advice on how to deal...</div>
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No offense, but it's their life and there's nothing you can do about it. Personally, I'd rather them eat meat they hunted themselves than factory farmed meat from King Soopers. I think a lot less people would eat meat if they had to kill and clean it themselves. It's so easy to just go to the grocery store and pick up some neatly packaged meat and chow down, not even thinking about where it came from or what it went through.
 

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thank you for your replies and advice. what makes it hard is that my sister is actually one of the few family members I actually like <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> . I suppose I'll just have to wait this relationship out. She might actually kill an animal and feel such remorse that she can't do it again- fingers crossed! and then maybe we'll look back on this and laugh.<br><br>
And I think I'll include these arguments in my discussion with my daughter: i'll explain that someone kills the meat in the supermarket, and some hunters kill the meat and eat it. That will give us the opportunity to discuss whether or not she feels there's a difference. I suspect she will, but it's a great opportunity to talk about the fact that people don't think about where their food comes from. thanks again.
 

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I dunno. There's not much you can do about it really is there as we can all be quite influenced by our partner's hobbies and interests. Sometimes that's a good thing, sometimes not so good. In this case of not so good, all you can really do is hope that the relationship fizzles out.</div>
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I'm going to agree with the Australian Borg.
 

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I hunted for years and lived with a hunter. Clearly I no longer hunt (and have been a vegan for probably as long as I hunted).<br><br>
Honestly, hunting, in my opinion, is more humane then ordering food from a fast food joint (where it comes from factory farming).<br><br>
If your daughter asks, tell her the truth. A lot of people do that and you can't shield her from it. Apparently her father eats meat so she must be aware.
 

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Ya, I have to agree, hunting is better than buying grocery store/fast food meat.<br><br>
I have known people who have shot an animal and after that could never hunt again. I also know people who got the chance to shoot an animal and totally froze and couldn't go through with it.
 
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