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Well, okay, she didn't exactly say that.<br><br><br><br>
My mother was recently telling me that my animal-free eating habits could be a "deal-breaker" (her term) with a lot of guys. She said something like "When you have a long list of things you don't eat and people have to cook special foods to accomodate you and there's only certain restaurants you can eat at, people think you're picky, fussy and high maintenance. Guys don't want to date someone like that! They won't put up with that!"<br><br><br><br>
I don't really think the restaurant thing applies to me, though. I'm a slightly lenient on my veganism when I go out to eat. I ask about soup broth, but unless the menu says it contains animal products, I'll order wheat toast or pasta or a veggie burger without asking the waiter if it's vegan. I can go out to eat just about anywhere, except for maybe KFC.<br><br><br><br>
My ex didn't have a problem with it, even though he thought it was odd and didn't understand it. However, I was o/l at that time. In fact, when I got my first paycheck at my current job, I decided to take him out to dinner to celebrate and he came over with directions to a couple of nearby veggie restaurants that he had researched online. And it really isn't an issue with the guy I'm kinda seeing right now, although we mainly go out with a group of people.<br><br><br><br>
Has anyone here ever gotten dumped because someone couldn't/wouldn't handle your veg*anism? Have your "picky, fussy, high maintenance" eating habits created serious problems in a relationship?
 

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So does that mean guys "wouldn't want to date girls with allergies"?<br><br>
My friend is allergic to gluten, and she has a lot of trouble finding things to eat in restaurants. She has a very limited diet.
 

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I date plenty and I'm vegan. omni guys interested in you should be interested in you for you. if your dietary choice is a deal breaker, then those guys aren't worth your time. OTOH, an omni guy who goes out of his way to take me to a vegan place is worth my time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
in answer to your question, no. if my veganism creates a problem, then the relationship is doomed for more reasons than dietary choice.
 

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Thanks!<br><br><br><br>
KatherineLynn, good point.<br><br><br><br>
purrpelle, just after I posted, I was thinking the same thing. Someone who was really interested in me would respect my dietary choices. Veganism is part of who I am, and anyone who has a real problem with that isn't the right person for me, IMO.
 

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If guys aren't interested in someone because they are committed to living in an ethical way in accordance to their values then they are SO not worth it. That's not the kind of person I'd want to be with anyway.
 

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If someone expects other people to cater to their every desire, yes, that would be bothersome in a relationship. OP, if you do most of your own cooking and behave politely in restaurants when you go, I don't see how any potential SO could reasonably have a problem with that. Everyone has stuff they don't like.<br><br><br><br>
Anytime people with different tastes try to pick a restaurant, there will be negotiations. People who refuse to eat anywhere but steakhouses and Applebee's are just as if not more picky than vegetarians.
 

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It sounds kinda funny to me that someone would reject a potential partner because they're "high maintenance" (and what is with that expression - are we talking cars or humans here?), that sounds like a pretty superficial attitude to relationships to reject someone based on such a minor practical concern. But what do I know, I'm a bit of an idealist.
 

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You're also one steamin' hot hunky piece of vegan tofucake. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"> Tofutti Cutie is my middle name.
 

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i've not noticed that it's been a problem with the many vegetarians online and IRL whom i know who have no problem dating omnis, veggies, or other vegans.<br><br><br><br>
so, i dont think it's a problem. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I've not had any issues with someone not accepting me because I am Vegan (and I'm strict even out of the home). I don't think you'll have to worry too much about it, really.<br><br><br><br>
But if for some reason it comes up, like others have said, if it's an issue, they aren't worth a second glance. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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<span style="color:#008000;">I'm gonna agree with the others- any guy who wouldn't want to date a vegan solely for that reason isn't worth wasting your time on.<br><br>
Be yourself, and remain true to yourself and you will meet someone who will appreciate you and love you for you.</span>
 

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I haven't had a problem. Not only am I an ovo-veg, I also have IBS and food sensitivies! oh noes!<br><br>
My bf is cool. He doesn't care. I cook a lot, we go out to eat when we can afford to, it's all good.
 

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I've heard someone say that, too. But you probably wouldn't want the type of guy who thinks veganism is fussy, picky and high-maintenance anyway.<br><br><br><br>
When I went vegan, my boyfriend was just fine with it, though he didn't completely get it. We later got married, and a year after that he went from omni to vegetarian.
 

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Sounds like your Mum is really reaching for reasons that you shouldn't be veg. Is she generally supportive of your veganism? The whole 'guys won't want you' thing just sounds like something a particularly crafty mother would say you try to disuade you, you know, going for the thing that she thinks is important to you.<br><br><br><br>
And everyone else is right, is a dude can't accept you for who you are then he's not worth the effort. Besides, there are plenty of other health or animal conscious people out there, and a whole bunch of considerate, understanding omnis.
 

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people think you're picky, fussy and high maintenance. Guys don't want to date someone like that! They won't put up with that!"</div>
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Yeah and while you're quitting being vegan, you should also stop having high standards for yourself and respecting yourself. People might think you are too high maintenance and won't want to date someone like you.<br><br><br><br>
I am being facetious of course, but really, you're mom's argument is silly and it sounds like a desperate attempt to convert you back to omnivorism. I am only O/L, but 90% of the guys I dated had no problem with my veg*nism. If a guy can't respect your beliefs he is not worth being with in the first place.
 

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Gas4 said:<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Sounds like your Mum is really reaching for reasons that you shouldn't be veg. Is she generally supportive of your veganism? The whole 'guys won't want you' thing just sounds like something a particularly crafty mother would say you try to disuade you, you know, going for the thing that she thinks is important to you.</div>
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I think you're right. Honestly, I don't think she realizes I'm vegan, just vegetarian.<br><br><br><br>
Is she supportive? She's supportive of vegetarianism, but not veganism. She'll come home from the store and say that she picked me up some veggie meats, and she enjoys eating Tofurkey, Silk,, etc, and she likes going to veg restaurants. Just this morning I woke up and she told me she made us some veg sausage for breakfast. However, in her eyes, veganism is crazy and extreme, too extremist for her liking. She doesn't understand why I wouldn't want to eat eggs and dairy. I know if I rejected a food that had eggs or dairy, or even an animal by product in it (ie, whey or casein), she would tell me I was being picky and that eating it wouldn't hurt me, etc., etc. I simply have to mention that no, I really don't want cheese ravioli for dinner, and an argument breaks out. We get along very well, most of the time, and my lifestyle is one of the few things that we..uhh...disagree on. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/undecided.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":-/"><br><br><br><br>
StarBlossom, I don't think she was trying to get me back to being omni, but away from veganism, and back to l/o.
 

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<div class="quote-block">My mother was recently telling me that my animal-free eating habits could be a "deal-breaker" (her term) with a lot of guys. She said something like "When you have a long list of things you don't eat and people have to cook special foods to accomodate you and there's only certain restaurants you can eat at, people think you're picky, fussy and high maintenance. Guys don't want to date someone like that! They won't put up with that!"</div>
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Ha, my mom said pretty much the same thing to me, too. I was like, ummm mom believe it or not the sole purpose of my life is not to accomodate the opposite sex, even if that was true.<br><br><br><br>
I think a bigger turnoff to a guy would be dating a girl who ate a ton of fast-food, steak, and french fries 24/7...
 

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tell your mom that guys care more about if a girl puts out then if she's a veg*n. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 
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