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Okay, so i just made myself dinner. Yummy veggie sushi. Well I offered my mom some. she said that seaweed is gross and it makes her nausus just thinking about it. ummm why? she eats it in the yogert(its used as the thickener instead of gelatin) we buy but she wont eat it wraped around rice and veggies? Seaweed is a good, natrual food. Plus you can barely taste it when you eat sushi, you taste the rice and things inside. she contenued to say it it was gross. Well, I for one think eating animals is gross. But Im not allowed to be grossed out. Omnis around me are allowed to say loudly "ewww" to anything they eat(or i eat), but me, im not allowed to. If say I mistakenly eat part of an animal I must be quiet about it or ill get grounded. Its very annoying.<br><br><br><br>
anyway, so i asked my mom why she was allowed to say my food was gross(and list reasons why its gross) why was i not allowed to be grossed out by say the chicken SHE ate for dinner a few hours before. I know it was rude but i was confused and when im confused i ask qeustions. well she just yelled at me for being rude and refused to anwser my qeustion.<br><br><br><br>
half rant half qeustion. Why in the world do I get in trouble for being grossed out by meat and others around me(my age, younger, older, dont matter) can insult my food and be grossed out by it when under no defeinition is there anything wrong with my food?
 
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<div class="quote-block">half rant half qeustion. Why in the world do I get in trouble for being grossed out by meat and others around me(my age, younger, older, dont matter) can insult my food and be grossed out by it when under no defeinition is there anything wrong with my food?</div>
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because you're going against the status quo.<br><br><br><br>
you going 'ewww' at meat, and 'mmmm' at seaweed....to them, its like me going 'ewww' at chocolate, and 'mmmm' at a bowl of mealworms and engine grease.<br><br><br><br>
they probably are probably also quite set in their ways, when it comes to food, and perhaps don't really know how to deal with your being different and presenting them with new ideas and ways of doing things. took my bf a few years to come round to the idea of tofu actually being an edible foodstuff, ya know?<br><br><br><br>
and i think part of it is that mums (gotta love 'em) can sometimes be a bit of a law unto themselves- just like teenagers.. well, kids in geneal, i guess... (gotta love them too) can- there's no tellin' either of them, and they seem to instinctively bash heads like nobody's business, lol.<br><br><br><br>
anyway, i empathise. nod and smile. thats what i do... nod... and smile. and if it helps, think 'muppet' in their direction.
 

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Wow. What a crappy situation. Sucks that your mom didn't even try to awnser your question. I hate it when people stick their noses up at veggie food cause it's wierd or different.<br><br>
I've had to deal with a similar issue with my sister. She used to turn her nose up at my wierd food, so I started calling her meat by what it really was, like her ribs were either cow rib bones or pig rib bones. Milk was called bovine mammery secretions. We soon reached an agreement to keep our comments to ourselves unless they were supportive.<br><br><br><br>
Unfortunatly, that doesn't sound like a good thing to try out with your mom.<br><br>
Maybe you could talk to her when you guys aren't around food, and say something like "Mom, it bothers me when you tell me my food is disgusting. Could we maybe try to not comment on the each others food unless we are being supportive?"<br><br>
This may or may not work. If it doesn't just know that your food is much tastier, and better for you as well as the planet.
 

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I see in your profile that you're 19. At that age, it is not right for there to be any "double standard" between you and your mom about what is considered acceptable in conversation. There is no "allowed" anymore - you make your own choices about how to conduct yourself and interact with people.<br><br><br><br>
One thing you can do is take the high ground. Don't insult anyone's food, and when someone insults your food, call them on it - calmy, not defensively, but firmly ("I don't insult your choice of food, and I expect the same courtesy in return")<br><br><br><br>
Good luck - it's probably not an easy thing to work through, as it sounds like your mom just doesn't accept that your choices are legitimate.
 

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I see in your profile that you're 19. At that age, it is not right for there to be any "double standard" between you and your mom about what is considered acceptable in conversation. There is no "allowed" anymore - you make your own choices about how to conduct yourself and interact with people.<br><br><br><br>
One thing you can do is take the high ground. Don't insult anyone's food, and when someone insults your food, call them on it - calmy, not defensively, but firmly ("I don't insult your choice of food, and I expect the same courtesy in return")<br><br><br><br>
Good luck - it's probably not an easy thing to work through, as it sounds like your mom just doesn't accept that your choices are legitimate.</div>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Seusomon</strong> <a href="/forum/post/0"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I see in your profile that you're 19. At that age, it is not right for there to be any "double standard" between you and your mom about what is considered acceptable in conversation. There is no "allowed" anymore - you make your own choices about how to conduct yourself and interact with people.<br><br><br><br>
One thing you can do is take the high ground. Don't insult anyone's food, and when someone insults your food, call them on it - calmy, not defensively, but firmly ("I don't insult your choice of food, and I expect the same courtesy in return")<br><br><br><br>
Good luck - it's probably not an easy thing to work through, as it sounds like your mom just doesn't accept that your choices are legitimate.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/laugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":lol:"> Barely related tangent: My mother tried to ground me when I was home for winter break. I did what she wanted me to (cleaned my room) because I could see why she was upset, but seriously, I've never been grounded in my life, why start at 19? I had a good laugh about it later, especially when I found out that I did what mom wanted and my 17-year-old brother was planning on leaving the house and ignoring her threat to ground him.
 

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Seusomon said:
I see in your profile that you're 19. At that age, it is not right for there to be any "double standard" between you and your mom about what is considered acceptable in conversation. There is no "allowed" anymore - you make your own choices about how to conduct yourself and interact with people.
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Her house, her rules. I still live with her and according to her anything I do reflects on her.
 

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Your 19 and your mom still grounds you?</div>
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I was going to ask the same thing!
 

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Her house, her rules. I still live with her and according to her anything I do reflects on her.</div>
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Sorry, but I don't buy it. Certainly the person who owns the house or pays the rent gets to make some rules, but only within reason. She shouldn't be exercising control over you beyond what she could reasonably expect to exercise over an adult roommate or houseguest who was not her child. Clean up after yourself, yes. Don't have loud parties late at night, yes. Never express opinions about your food preferences, no way.<br><br><br><br>
It's like someone saying "Since I pay the bills around here, you have to wear red hats every day."<br><br><br><br>
My daughter is 11 and I wouldn't dream of grounding her for saying she didn't like my food, even if she was a bit rude about it. If it became a tantrum, I might clamp down - but that's a different issue.<br><br><br><br>
It sounds to me like she disapproves of your choice and thinks she can enforce her opinion on you by treating you like a small child. That's not healthy between two adults, even if they are parent and child, and even if the mom is paying the bills. A certain level of respect for differences is something we all have a right to expect of others, regardless of circumstances.<br><br><br><br>
Just my opinion, FWIW.
 

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I think Seusomon's point is a really good one.<br><br>
As bill payer/house owner/parent she has the right to control her house, but not your life.
 

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haha, my mom tried to ground me when I was 19, a few weeks before I moved out. I think she was trying to go for one last ditch try to authority over me. It wasn't even something I would have gotten grouned for at 16 either, lol. I told her my room in my new place was already empty and I had no problem moving before christmas, her choice.<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, the last year or so before I moved my mom and I started butting heads over stupid stuff, she still wanted me to be her baby, even more so than she had while I was in highschool, because she knew I would be leaving soon. I wasn't about to tolerate being demoted to middle school again when I had my own car, bills, job, etc.<br><br><br><br>
Moving out helped our relationship tons, any chance of that happening for you?
 
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