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Today, I almost got into a fight with my friend. She is a very good friend of mine - sometimes. When we're alone, she's very nice and talks to me but when this other girl (who used to be my friend but nowadays we pretty much don't get along) is around, she completely ignores me or leaves me alone, and says rude things to me. She also tends to be very ignorant, and it's often very frustrating to talk to her. I hadn't told her that I'm vegetarian because I knew she wouldn't understand (yes, she has actually said that she hates vegetarians and when I asked why, she wouldn't tell me). This girl is a little spoiled and poorly mannered.<br>
So, back to the "fight".<br><br>
I always eat vegetarian food at the school cafeteria (duh). Apparently she thought I eat it because I "don't like the normal food in there". So we were hanging out and suddenly she said "at least you eat meat at home, right?" I automatically responded "hell no."<br><br>
Then she started to ask all these questions. She asked, will I ever eat meat again, and will I be "like this" for the rest of my life. She even made a list of what I can eat: potatoes, rice and fruits. Really? And then, out of nowhere she and the other girl started talking about how delicious and juicy salisbury steak is, right in front of me. She said: "I don't understand why you should be vegetarian, I love meat so much! Salmon medallions are so yummy!" I could tell that she didn't have and will not have any intentions of respecting my choice whatsoever.<br><br>
I tried to tell her that I have the right to choose what I eat and she has too, so if she respects my choice I'll respect hers. She was very offended by that and actually got a little mad. She interrogated me, and asked am I aware of animal ingredients in sweets. When I told her that I check products for gelatin everytime when I'm grocery shopping, she started laughing at me and made fun of me in front of our classmates. Ha ha, I think dead animals are funny too. Not.<br>
I really wanted to throw a tantrum, use her as a human punching bag and tell her where she can stick her salisbury steak but like a well mannered girl that I am, I kept my emotions bottled up.<br><br>
Oh, the drama.<br><br>
/Sorry about all the grammar stuff, I'm not a native speaker. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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She doesn't sound like a "good friend" at all!! Friends don't make rude comments to you to show off in front of others, not respect your choices and make fun of you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">. It's understandable that you are upset about it. I think you should look for some new friends.
 

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yeah, i think for me the friendship would be over here until she appologizes and behaves like a friend
 

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I agree with everybody else. Look for new friends, as hard as that is. Maybe one day she'll come around, but don't hold your breath.
 

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This girl is not your friend. I (and everyone else on here, probably) have many omnivore friends who are respectful of my decision to not eat animal products. I'd find some new friends.
 

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What good is there to be gained from trying to remain her friend? Sounds like nothing from the way she treats you. Sometimes friends end up sucking, you just have to let them go and find new ones.
 

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Not only is this girl not a friend, but I realised that from where you said this:<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Emmio</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2853281"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
When we're alone, she's very nice and talks to me but when this other girl (who used to be my friend but nowadays we pretty much don't get along) is around, she completely ignores me or leaves me alone, and says rude things to me.</div>
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Let alone all the rubbish she gave you about you being vegetarian! (Which was completley out of order!)<br><br>
Throughout my time in school/etc I realised there are lots of people who are happy to talk to you when there's no one better around, but ignore you when other people are there. It's something I've always found disgusting, and insulting, and I was never friends with such people. That said, it was easy for me to be choosy about my friends because I'm not a social person and would be happy with just a few close friends. I know other people who continued to let people treat them like this - picking them up and dropping them later - probally because it was easier - and actually when you're in school you HAVE to be around the same people five days a week so I can understand why people would want to go with the flow, because in a school situation relationships are so much more intense because you're around everyone so much, and everyone knows everyones bussiness.<br><br>
Anyway my point is, this girl sounds like she isn't a nice person at all, and she's treating you really badly. In any other situation I'd say deffinatly ditch her, but maybe considering you're in school, I'd say instead it may be easier to simply distance yourself from her without doing anything dramatic. Concentrate on friendships with people who treat you well - all the time - not just when no one else is about, because they are the kind of people you want in your life and the kind of friendships you'll benefit from.
 

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School is a battle zone.<br><br>
She is acting this way towards you in front of people because she is insecure and trying to elevate her own social status. Next time she acts like this, tell her she doesn't have to screw people over in order to get ahead in life. Then tell her if she doesn't like you, that's fine but point out to behave one way when no one is around and another way when she is trying whatever she is trying, is phony and that no one will want to stay friends with someone two faced and cruel like that. Then wish her luck in finding who she really is and be done with it.
 

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If you want to keep hanging out with her - for whatever reason - just choose only nonfood activities.<br><br>
And remember that her hostility towards vegetarianism is probably due to her ignorance. If you do stay friends with her, she'll probably learn quite a bit and might even change her opinion eventually.<br><br>
But I definitely think you should try to make some vegetarian or vegan friends.
 

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I have one real friend. He is my friend because, although he is a meat eater, he is possibly the most respectful person I have ever met. He has never even brought the subject of veg*nsim up. Everyone else I have met has ridiculed me at one point or another.
 

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Find some new friends. Join a club or two or ten, and make new friends there, or start one. Join a team. Volleyball, soccer (football), baseball, track...anything. You'll make new friend and leave this one in the dust. If she asks you why you're never around anymore, just tell her you're busy doing new and different things. Good luck with all this.
 

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Your friend sounds like a backstabbing politician. You should be careful with people like that.
 

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She sounds really immature. I would back away from her and hang out with other people. Maybe in a few years time, it will be possible to reconnect, depending on how much she has grown up by that time.
 
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